OT: Adoption

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HorseMomma's picture
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OT: Adoption

So...
I know I have discussed this before with you ladies...
DH and I are still very much thinking about adoption. We have talked with a few agencies...and it is between 17k-30k!???! There is a tax credit, but it only covers around 10k. I feel like that would take away from our current children. I keep thinking, "Am I ungrateful for what I have?!"
Our local Children Services said that in the past 10 years, only 2 children have been adopted and it was family to family.
We want to adopt so bad! I was adopted and I feel my family has a lot to offer a child.
Anyway, this is a bit of a vent:0)
I know with fertility drugs, I can get pregnant in about a year. I really don't know if I want to be pregnant again, it is SO hard on my body...I get so sick.
Thanks for reading:0) I don't know where this post was going...It is just on my mind:0)
((HUGS)):)

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Our friends adopted, and yes, it was very expensive. I think it cost them $20k+ and there are a lot of hoops to jump through (trainings/classes, social worker home visits, paperwork). Just watching them experience it, it was very emotionally wearing for them. They had to wait about a year (after getting approved, so whole process took about 1 1/2 years) and they wanted an infant - they got lucky that it only took that long. I think it is slightly easier to get an infant if you go overseas. If you want an older child, I think it is also easier.

All that being said, I think adoption is a beautiful thing, and if you feel called to adopt a child, that is wonderful! Just research agencies, some are better than others and some specialize in different types of adoptions.

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I would LOVE to adopt. I don't know how it works here in Canada; nor do we have the money to do so; but I think the whole concept is wonderful.

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Wow, that is a lot of money. I can see that they have a huge fee probably to ensure that children are going to families that really really want them and are willing to save or sacrafice to adopt. I guess if it were cheap and easy than just anyone could adopt and there would be a lot of kids going to not so nice families. On the flip side it is so sad though because there are a lot of really nice and loving families, like yours, that would be awesome adoptive families but hesitate (or can't) because of the price.

It sounds like something that you really want though so I hope there is a way and that the opportunity presents itself. I totally see where your coming from in worry if it will financially take away from what you will be able to do for you children now.

Joined: 04/23/06
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I too have always had a desire to adopt...I think it's awesome!

Have you looked into becoming a foster family? I've thought about that too. Not good timing right now, but when our kids are a little bit older it might be something we get called to do.

I say just keep an open mind about it, don't worry about the $$$...that part is insignificant next to the life and heart of a sweet child. Smile

HorseMomma's picture
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We did think about Fostering...I don't know if it is right for us though...I will be honest...I wear my heart on my sleeve...I couldn't get attached and then give the child back...I couldn't do it...
We are just praying about it!

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DH and I were just discussing the adoption option. Well, I was musing and he was looking at me sceptically. We've decided to have one more biological child but adopting another isn't off the table. We'll be able to afford it by the time we'd be ready to adopt and I love the idea of giving a child a loving home. Listening to the horrors that children are going through in the Middle East right now isn't helping.

If you think about how much a child will cost over their life time, even $20K isn't much. It's just that it's all up front. If you were willing to put it off you could save up the money.

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There is foster adoption in many areas. You do have to go through everything for foster care first. Once everything is cleared up and the child is able to be adopted, you can adopt them. Some areas have it narrowed down to low risk foster adoptions, where there's very, very little risk of you not being able to adopt that child. Just a thought.

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"alwayssmile" wrote:

There is foster adoption in many areas. You do have to go through everything for foster care first. Once everything is cleared up and the child is able to be adopted, you can adopt them. Some areas have it narrowed down to low risk foster adoptions, where there's very, very little risk of you not being able to adopt that child. Just a thought.

Sorry, I didn't see this post!
We do have that in our area...although, the woman at SS told me that a lot of the children around here get put back w/ the family.
Our best option is to do a domestic...but it is just crazy expensive...20-30k:0(
There are loans...but I just don't know...
I do want another...but I am just being patient about it.