This is for the moms who are wanting to do parent led potty training. Please respect this point of view by offering support and help if you choose to post.
The following is from the chat thread. Thought we'd move the convo over here.
So, I'm trying to start potty training Lyla. I'd like to have mostly out of diapers by the time #2 arrives in early April, but I realize that may not be realistic. I've been at this for 2 hours and I'm already worn out and exhausted from trying to get her just to even pee on the potty one time. So far nothing yet.
Does anyone have any tips and tricks for getting a toddler to even go on the potty? One time I had her on there and then when I took her back 10 minutes later she'd already peed in her panties. I'm already ready to give up and call it impossible.
(Yogi is a military wife from a forum I'm on.)
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The book I read was potty training in 1 day. There are versions written by different people. But they are the same basic principle. It is completely parent led potty training. And it focuses on training your child. Some parents don't believe in training a child but kids have very few natural behaviors. They have to be taught or trained to do most everything.
Opponents of the book and method say it targets a child too early. They also say children are not puppies and therefore don't need to be trained. I don't have a problem with the word usage if it means I don't have to change dirty diapers. But I respect a parent's right to choose the method they feel is best. For my children this was the method that was best simply because I said it was, lol.
So I mean no disrespect to anyone or his or her parenting when discussing this method. It is one of many methods and it is the one I used and am well versed in. I can only offer my opinions about this method. Since I was asked about it I will gladly provide any information, support and personal experience.
First of all they have to be able to walk. The sooner you potty train the easier it is. As far as verbal skills they were still pretty limited when we potty trained. So I will just let you know what I did. Did you know that prior to the mid 70s the average age for potty training was 15 months?
We used cloth diapers so they knew early on when they were wet or soiled. Disposable diapers and pull ups are the devil in potty training. I always chose a weekend when we could be at home the entire weekend. Bought lots of panties, underwear or cloth training undies. I gave them lots of water, lol. Every 10 minutes a trip to the bathroom or when they had an accident. Then after the first time they use the potty chair they just kind of get it. No verbal skills needed. I gave them a piece of fruit or candy (depends on the child) after they sat down each time. With the panties or undies they feel wet and don't like it. Once they use the potty the first time add 5 minutes to the schedule so its 15. Then each time you can add a few minutes. Potty training at a young age requires the multiple trips to the potty since they don't yet know about the urge. At night they slept in panties/undies with plastic covers (the old fashion ones). This is very important. After a few times going potty they recognize the urges. I always made sure as soon as they came to me I took them to the bathroom. At a young age and early in the training they don't give you much notice. Be ready to clean up a few messes. Have some books or toys handy to the potty. If they will set there let them. Sometimes the first time is an accident and they are amazed.
I read the book then adapted it to us. Which is important. Yes it is more aggressive than some people like to be but before disposable diapers it was the norm. Also once you start don't stop or back down. After a few accidents in the panties/undies they will not like the feeling. The one I potty trained by the time he was a year old was my easiest by far. Of course the way he let me know he needed the bathroom was to strip (being at home was extra important for him). After about 2 weeks he learned to sign for the bathroom. You can make it any sign. Every time you take the child get down with them and say "Do you need the potty" and do a sign. Also I sat in the floor in the bathroom so I was on their level. I entertained them.
My Gson is now potty trained (he turned 1 on Nov. 18th). His sign is holding his nose. He is a boy and loves to make stinky so that sign was a natural. Of course he also does it when he passes gas but he goes to the potty anyway because that is the rule.
Don't worry about potty manners. You will just confuse them. After they are trained you can add manners as they get better. Also don't punish for accidents. For the first few trips out after training I put them in plastics just in case. Another thing is taking them to the bathroom when you are out of the house. My DD refused to believe anyplace but home had toilets. Also switch from the potty chair to the toilet ASAP. This helps when you are away from home. Boys are easier to teach sitting down but if they are difficult try it standing and put some cereal in the toilet. It gives them a target. I bought a water gun and shot "the targets" so they could see the changes. They loved that and soon learned the concept of standing.
I am more than happy to answer any specific questions just ask.
I forgot to mention, forget the clothes on your weekend, the less to deal with the better.
Also if you like the charts and all that you can print them free on this site. http://www.pottytrainingconcepts.com/Free-Potty-Training-Charts.htm
I've been doing tons of research on early potting training. Before the 1970's, when disposable diapers became really popular, the average age for potty training was 15 months old. Those who potty trained earlier say it's actually easier than waiting until they are older. There are people who have 12 month old kids that are completey potty trained. The way I see it, there's no reason why I shouldn't be able to be one of them. Lyla actually gets really excited about going potty. When I ask if she wants to go potty, she squeals and runs up to me to hold my hand and lead me to the bathroom and then pound on the bathroom door until I open it. However, until I can conveniently get her to pee on the potty a few more times, I don't think she really comprehends what it is we are doing. It's not an issue with her as much as it is with me. With me getting bigger and being so hormonal, I get tired and frustrated easily. I'm going to steel myself to trying again over the weekend after I go and buy more extremely expensive little girl underwear or training pants. I don't understand why a 3 pack of little girl panties has to cost $12! It's ridiculous!