prenatal appointment and other stuff

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prenatal appointment and other stuff

So I had my first appointment yesterday and all was well. I was measuring right on track and saw the heartbeat too. My OB is awesome too. He asked me what was important to me as far as my pregnancy goes and if I wanted to do anything different this time around. He just "wants to always be on the same page as me". He is so awesome and always available.

Now I am not usually one to talk about my sex life but I have a question. My sex life with DH has always been pretty frequent and even with last pregnancy it was never affected. This pregnancy is a whole other story. I am too exhausted to do anything and am not in the mood at all. Please tell me this goes away. Do you remember your sex life when you were pg?

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What's sex again? :roll: Honestly, our sex life is more affected by DH's training and hours than me actually being pregnant. Last pregnancy I turned into the desert during the 2nd tri and I felt like I needed half a tube of lube to be comfortable. That definitely made a difference. It's hard to feel sexy like that when you're already big as a house. Sex has been down for the past few weeks, but I'm honestly not interested 6/7 days of the week. Who wants sex when you feel like throwing up?

Glad to hear you had a wonderful appointment! And yay for seeing the HB!!!

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Yay for a good appt. & seeing the HB!

For #1 & 3, sex life was still the same. With #2 I totally lost interest the entire time (though we still dtd) and I'm not sure why. Things got back to normal like 3-4 month PP. I'm not sure why It was like that and I was ultra aware of it too.

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Yay for a good appointment. Sex was non existant when I was pregnant. At 12 weeks I had a massive bleed and the doctor put me on full pelvic rest and restricted my exercise. At 16 weeks he lifted the exercise pan but not pelvic rest as I still spotted at least once a week if not more. Ince I saw the midwives after 20 weeks they said pelvic rest was not required and I should never have been put on it, however at around 22 weeks my spotting finally stopped and there was no way I was going to do anything at all that might cause it to happen again

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Yes I think it just varies by pregnancy. With DS I did NOT want, this time, not the same, I feel like I did preprg. So I guess it just varies. Hopefully it will get better for you after the first trimester is over.

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What is this sex thing you speak of? Haven't had much of that since about Feb 2010. No seriously. M/S hit hard at 7 weeks. I was exhausted and didn't want anything to do with it. By the time I started feeling better I was getting large and didn't want anything to do with it. Then Teagan arrived and it hurt too bad to try for about 6 months. Then it only hurt a little for another 6 months. Now we're in a funk that we're both desperate to get out of. Speaking from personal experience, I recommend really trying (despite how tired and icky you feel) to keep it going with some frequency. It really is a use it or lose it sort of thing.

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"TiggersMommy" wrote:

What is this sex thing you speak of? Haven't had much of that since about Feb 2010. No seriously. M/S hit hard at 7 weeks. I was exhausted and didn't want anything to do with it. By the time I started feeling better I was getting large and didn't want anything to do with it. Then Teagan arrived and it hurt too bad to try for about 6 months. Then it only hurt a little for another 6 months. Now we're in a funk that we're both desperate to get out of. Speaking from personal experience, I recommend really trying (despite how tired and icky you feel) to keep it going with some frequency. It really is a use it or lose it sort of thing.

ITA with this. Very similar to my experience! I also had a lot of yeast infections and dryness that made it pretty darn unappealing for physical reasons and not just exhaustion/disinterest...that combination was pretty deadly, though. Now I do find that if I can make myself fight the urge to just roll over and go to sleep, I am usually glad I did...I definitely need at least a few days in between, though. If you're really not in the mood but don't mind "helping him out" in whatever way you are both cool with, that can help keep everyone happy too. Sometimes I trade for a back scratch or massage Biggrin

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you mean you have sex after you have babies? Ours is just picking up after having Tobey...seriously!!!

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"rubber_da_glove" wrote:

you mean you have sex after you have babies? Ours is just picking up after having Tobey...seriously!!!

Wait...it's supposed to pick up again?! WinkROFL

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Yay for a great appointment!

We had no sex life this last pregnancy. I think we had sex like 3 times after I started showing and we haven't had sex now in about 5 months! It's ridiculous, but sadly, I'm not even missing it. I've always had a much higher libido than DH, but now I have no interest in sex.

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Glad your appointment went well!

We basically did not have sex once I got pregnant because I had spotting early on and started have BH contractions by around 20 weeks and was too nervous to have sex. And it was several months after dd was born before we did again. It still is infrequent just because of our schedules and being tired, but I think our desire or lack there of is pretty evenly matched at the moment so I don't think either of us really cares that it is infrequent.

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I have zero drive...each pregnancy.
He needs to keep that "thing" away from me...lol.

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glad it was a good appt!

we probably did it about the same amount of time, but I wasn't interested. especially later on i always felt really gassy when we were DTD. How attractive! lol

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