I don't remember exactly (holy crap! it was 9 years!!! ago already), but I think it was around $8000. My dress was $850 and we had around 150 guests. If I had it to do over again I would have hired a videographer and would have had a different maid of honor.
I don't remember how much but it didn't go over $5000. My dress was $400 and my flowers were $100 so those were my big ticket items. My mom sewed the bridesmaids dresses, I made silk flower arrangements for the bridesmaids/boutonnieres for the groomsmen, I decorated a fake cake and baked sheet cakes to serve, my family made the food (it was fingerfood/garden party theme reception), no alcohol due to my religious background. I made my own veil and a lot of the decorations and we also made our own invitations with a decorative stamp and embossing tool. We didn't have to pay for the chapel because it was located inside the seminary where my dad teaches so I got to use it for free. I did pay around $200 for the reception area which was held in the fellowship hall of my church. We also paid a photographer, but didn't buy photos from him, just bought the CD so we could print off whatever we wanted. I think we had around 100 guests. I think if I had to do it over, I would not do so much myself-almost everything was DIY. It was cheaper and it was fun, but it ended up being a lot of work as well and we got married 3 months after getting engaged so we didn't have a long time span to get everything done.
I had to dig up my wedding budget spreadsheet Ours cost about $15,000. Considering we had a destination wedding in Cozumel, I'd say that's pretty cost effective. That includes my dress ($1400), rings, venue, food, flowers, wedding planner, photographer, gifts for each other and attendants, random wedding accessories, plane tickets, accommodations for 9 days, car rental, scuba lessons, gear, & actual diving, pet sitter, and $2000 for misc. Mexican fun.
I don't have a budget from our honeymoon but I'm guessing it cost about $5000. We took a month long road trip honeymoon up the west coast then through Yellowstone. The bulk of that was gas and food.
Mine was somewhere between $5000 and $10000...maybe like 8 or 9 total? (not including the honeymoon). I never sat down and added it up. It was a destination wedding so we did a package for the venue, food, drinks, cake, honeymoon suite, etc. that was just under $5000. Not too bad for 100 people in the French Quarter in New Orleans, I thought! My three parents (two bio and one ex-step) split that in thirds. We paid for everything else. We did spend money on a professional photographer...that was like $1200 I think. Everything else I did completely DIY...flowers were from my grandma's florist and cost $60 total, my SIL and I made my dress ($30 worth of fabric), invitations, music, favors (stayed up ALL NIGHT one night burning and labeling CDs), everything all totally DIY. Our rehearsal dinner was a crawfish boil at my grandma's house (awesome).
We did go on a honeymoon right away, but in was to a somewhat backwater island in Mexico and the tiny hotel we stayed in was $250 for the entire week. It was perfection.
Honestly I wouldn't trade one thing. Well, for the amount I spent on the photos I'm actually not super happy with those...but otherwise it was exactly what I always wanted. Not one thing more or one thing less. Everyone still talks about how fun it was lo these 7 years later. I'd call that worth it!
My SIL took the wedding pictures and I think they are as good as or better than a lot of wedding pictures I've seen. They aren't super fancy though. My BFF made the bouquets and the boutonnieres the day before the wedding with real flowers I bought. That's all the flowers we had. We didn't decorate the church. DH cooked all the food for the wedding and my mom made bread. My other SIL bought our wedding cake for us as a gift, but only because I was going to make it myself and she wouldn't allow it.
I kept a spreadsheet to monitor the costs too. I'd have to find it now since it's been 5 years, but it ended up being around $4700-4800 or so and that includes everything, so I was always pretty proud of that. And I sent out 75 wedding invitations and we had around 200 attend.
Ours was around 10,000. My parents paid for everything but the rings and honeymoon. My dress was around 850, reception location was 500 and we had around 300 people there. It was very tradtional though. We had a DJ at the reception, and catered food. Our rings weren't much, like 70-80 because we went with classic gold bands.
DH's original ring was like $45. It is tungsten because he's a nerd. Its too big though and you can't resize tungsten. So he got a new one that cost like $25. I think mine was like $200. Its just simple paladium to match my engagement ring.
My band was $70. That much I do know. Don't remember how much DH's band was other than definitely under $200.