QOTD Friday the 20th

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QOTD Friday the 20th

For some of you it may seem like a rude question, but feel free to not answer if it offends you.

How much did your wedding cost? Did you spend too much? Not enough? Did you spend money on unnecessary stuff or forget to spend on something important?

(I got stuck on the couch covered in babies with no means of changing the channel and some weird wedding show came on)

AnnaRO's picture
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We spent $5,000. Total. That includes the rings and honeymoon. If I had it to do again, the only thing I would change would be that we'd buy more food. We ran out of food. Other than that I can't think of anything I would spend more or less money on. I think we had a beautiful wedding and it was within our means and I don't feel we overspent.

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Oh, definitely under $5,000. Still waiting on my honeymoon. Wink I'm not counting the engagement ring because that was bought and paid off before we were married and I don't know what DH spent on it in the end. Guess I could look it up if I wanted to be nosey.
I decorated myself buying stuff on clearance and with coupons (DH then DF was gone and I had no life outside of work anyway). I conned friends into helping me the night before the wedding to set everything up.
No DJ. I made mix CDs and borrowed a nice sound system.
Made most of the food ourselves. Bought wine for super cheap from a friend's parents who own a liquor store. Had friend's parents pout the wine and keep food refreshed. Borrowed a chocolate fountain.
Had my little sister's librarian make the groom's cake and wedding cake (cheap, looked great, and tasted fantastic!).
My father worked out a trade for programming services for the photographer. This is actually the one thing I wish *I* had been picky about and didn't go with my parent's wishes. While my pictures are perfectly fine, they're extremely traditional and I find myself jealous of other's better (IMO) wedding pictures.
I think my dress was the most expensive part at $400.
And we asked the florist to make the most inexpensive things we needed. We didn't do flower at the tables at the reception and the church gets several fresh flower arrangements every weekend, so we didn't decorate the chapel at all.
I'm very happy with our wedding. Other than the pictures, I wouldn't want anything to change about that day. I wanted a relaxing wedding with family and friends and that's what I got. It's the one time in my life I delegated tasks to others easily. HA HA. WE had about 80 people come.

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We spent about $5000 as well, but the food was expensive. We had my Mum donate some money towards food from her tax return that year and my Mum paid for our photographer as a gift and some other relatives paid for a vintage car as my bridal car. We didn't have a honeymoon.

My dress was from ebay, it was $500 with the tags on with the original price of $5000 on it. I did pay for a few small alterations to make it a bit more what I wanted. My aunt made the bombonierre and we decorated ourselves, the night before I was tying meteres of ribbon into small bows for the table. The tables were just simple white table cloths and silver wear with napkins in the wedding colours, and it looked so nice and classy

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Just the marriage licence...lol. and rings!
We got married by ourselves in a courthouse.
(It had Valentine decorations...and it was JULY!) HAHAHAH!
If I could go back, I'd find a minister and get married in a church or on the beach...(We lived in FL) I didn't know you could do that kind of stuff...haha.
I'd also get pictures! and get a dress!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! but no party or anything:0)
We never got a honey moon either.

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ummm I spent a lot more than you ladies! My dress wasn't too bad at around $800, but then I had to have it majorly altered as I lost a bunch of weight! I wasn't complaining though! LOL! I got the favors (large candles) on clearance at a candle store so that was cheap. The food/venue was quite expensive though and I spent full price for my area on the photographer. I did have a DJ, and did pay for two limos since the location was no where near our apartment so we all got ready at a hotel which also cost some money. I also spent a bit on my bouquet since I really wanted orchids but did simple calla lillies for the bridesmaids. We also had open bar the entire reception, but was glad we did it that way, people had a BLAST! I felt really lucky that I used some of the money from my mom's life insurance to pay for the wedding. I think she would have wanted it that way if she couldn't be there IYKWIM. So I guess around 15k for the wedding. I think the one thing I would have done differently was choose a different day of the week. We got married on a Sunday and I think I , probably should have chosen a Saturday instead. I don't feel like I spent money on unnecessary stuff, sure I could have gone cheaper here and there, but I'm okay with what we spent. Now if I hadn't had the money from my mom it would have been a very different wedding!

We also splurged on the honeymoon and took a trip to St. Lucia and stayed at a Sandals. I think that cost between 5k and 8k. A total splurge but ABSOLUTELY worth it! We had the best honeymoon ever, so beautiful, so relaxing, so wonderful! That we did save up for and pay out of pocket.

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holy crap! we spent way more.

My parents are traditional so they payed for out wedding with some of DH's parents help. We definitely did not even go overboard and it still cost around $20,000! that also includes MIL decorating our hall for free and doing the flowers for free. I don't think we spent money on anything unnecessary most of the money came from dinner. We had about 150 guests and the plates were like $50/person. I wish we went with a different photographer. I liked out photos, but i felt that he didn't really listen to us and just did what he wanted to do even though i told him how i wanted the photos. he was a little expensive too, like $2,500. we did have a nice honeymoon in the Bahamas, but that money came from our stag and doe. my dress was like $1,000 with taxes,

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We had $10,000 to use for church, venue, food, and decorations. The dress, honeymoon, photography, and actual wedding bands (not engagement ring) were all gifts on top of the money we had. Yep, totally spoiled by extended family. There were probably about 115 people at our wedding and we did a lot of the decorations, favors, wine/beer/champagne, and invitations ourselves. It was a nice wedding but went by so fast we hardley got to enjoy it. Maybe CA weddings are more $$$ too cause there was nothing fancy for what I guess would total about $20,000.

tink9702's picture
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Good point Joy - I am guessing that both the east and west coast are a bit more expensive than the middle of the country for everything!

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Well, it helped that we were married in November - the off season. Even the fee for the hall was waaaaaay less. Wink Though we really threw things together quickly and ended up having to plan the majority of the wedding in 8 weeks. We had planned on a longer engagement, but when DH got back from 13 weeks of OTS he decided to call up my church and ask if the priest could move up our wedding from a year from then to 8 weeks from then. The time to save up for the wedding was greatly reduced to say the least. Wink I'm really glad about that in the end though - it was a fantastic afternoon wedding!

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I don't remember exactly (holy crap! it was 9 years!!! ago already), but I think it was around $8000. My dress was $850 and we had around 150 guests. If I had it to do over again I would have hired a videographer and would have had a different maid of honor.

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I don't remember how much but it didn't go over $5000. My dress was $400 and my flowers were $100 so those were my big ticket items. My mom sewed the bridesmaids dresses, I made silk flower arrangements for the bridesmaids/boutonnieres for the groomsmen, I decorated a fake cake and baked sheet cakes to serve, my family made the food (it was fingerfood/garden party theme reception), no alcohol due to my religious background. I made my own veil and a lot of the decorations and we also made our own invitations with a decorative stamp and embossing tool. We didn't have to pay for the chapel because it was located inside the seminary where my dad teaches so I got to use it for free. I did pay around $200 for the reception area which was held in the fellowship hall of my church. We also paid a photographer, but didn't buy photos from him, just bought the CD so we could print off whatever we wanted. I think we had around 100 guests. I think if I had to do it over, I would not do so much myself-almost everything was DIY. It was cheaper and it was fun, but it ended up being a lot of work as well and we got married 3 months after getting engaged so we didn't have a long time span to get everything done.

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I had to dig up my wedding budget spreadsheet Wink Ours cost about $15,000. Considering we had a destination wedding in Cozumel, I'd say that's pretty cost effective. That includes my dress ($1400), rings, venue, food, flowers, wedding planner, photographer, gifts for each other and attendants, random wedding accessories, plane tickets, accommodations for 9 days, car rental, scuba lessons, gear, & actual diving, pet sitter, and $2000 for misc. Mexican fun.

I don't have a budget from our honeymoon but I'm guessing it cost about $5000. We took a month long road trip honeymoon up the west coast then through Yellowstone. The bulk of that was gas and food.

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Mine was somewhere between $5000 and $10000...maybe like 8 or 9 total? (not including the honeymoon). I never sat down and added it up. It was a destination wedding so we did a package for the venue, food, drinks, cake, honeymoon suite, etc. that was just under $5000. Not too bad for 100 people in the French Quarter in New Orleans, I thought! My three parents (two bio and one ex-step) split that in thirds. We paid for everything else. We did spend money on a professional photographer...that was like $1200 I think. Everything else I did completely DIY...flowers were from my grandma's florist and cost $60 total, my SIL and I made my dress ($30 worth of fabric), invitations, music, favors (stayed up ALL NIGHT one night burning and labeling CDs), everything all totally DIY. Our rehearsal dinner was a crawfish boil at my grandma's house (awesome).

We did go on a honeymoon right away, but in was to a somewhat backwater island in Mexico and the tiny hotel we stayed in was $250 for the entire week. It was perfection.

Honestly I wouldn't trade one thing. Well, for the amount I spent on the photos I'm actually not super happy with those...but otherwise it was exactly what I always wanted. Not one thing more or one thing less. Everyone still talks about how fun it was lo these 7 years later. I'd call that worth it!

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My SIL took the wedding pictures and I think they are as good as or better than a lot of wedding pictures I've seen. They aren't super fancy though. My BFF made the bouquets and the boutonnieres the day before the wedding with real flowers I bought. That's all the flowers we had. We didn't decorate the church. DH cooked all the food for the wedding and my mom made bread. My other SIL bought our wedding cake for us as a gift, but only because I was going to make it myself and she wouldn't allow it.

I kept a spreadsheet to monitor the costs too. I'd have to find it now since it's been 5 years, but it ended up being around $4700-4800 or so and that includes everything, so I was always pretty proud of that. And I sent out 75 wedding invitations and we had around 200 attend.

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We had nearly 100 people, mostly my family. Ours would have been cheaper but for the time of year seeing as it was four days after Christmas

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Ours was around 10,000. My parents paid for everything but the rings and honeymoon. My dress was around 850, reception location was 500 and we had around 300 people there. It was very tradtional though. We had a DJ at the reception, and catered food. Our rings weren't much, like 70-80 because we went with classic gold bands.

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our rings were probably the cheapest thing we bought. DH just got a white gold band and mine was just a band with diamonds. i think combined they were under $200

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DH's original ring was like $45. It is tungsten because he's a nerd. Its too big though and you can't resize tungsten. So he got a new one that cost like $25. I think mine was like $200. Its just simple paladium to match my engagement ring.

alwayssmile's picture
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My band was $70. That much I do know. Don't remember how much DH's band was other than definitely under $200.

ange84's picture
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My wedding band was the cost of the gold, hubby made my ring

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"TiggersMommy" wrote:

DH's original ring was like $45. It is tungsten because he's a nerd. Its too big though and you can't resize tungsten. So he got a new one that cost like $25. I think mine was like $200. Its just simple paladium to match my engagement ring.

Our husbands are so alike! My Dh had a tungsten band for his original wedding ring. It no longer exists in ring form, but it did save his knuckles when his hand got smashed between a stack of weights slipped and concrete. He was uninjured other than a cut that the ring made when it broke. When it happened and he showed it to me, I was all "Hey, I understand symbolism. If you don't want to be married anymore, there are other better ways to tell me."

We currently have matching titanium rings engraved with the skyline of the Catalina mountains. We bartered for them, Dh made some LED booth lights for an artist in exchange.