How old were your parents when they had you? Did that influence your decision on the timing of your child/ren?
My mom had just turned 22 (today is her 50th birthday!). My father was 29. Their ages really didn't affect my desire to have kids at a certain time, though I did note how much more energy my mom had with me as a child than she did after having my sister at 32. lol.
My husband's parents are older. My MIL was 42 and my FIL 41. My MIL argued with the doctor that she couldn't be pregnant until she finally felt DH give her a swift kick. My husband has 2 older brothers and an older sister. His closest sibling in age is his sister who is 16 years older. My husband saw the difference between what his siblings got growing up and what he got (they didn't attend his events, he didn't have many friends because they live in a rural area and didn't want to drive him anywhere, etc). He's made me promise that even if we have kids at that age that we won't be anything like them. He really wants us to have kids closer together in age and then do something permanent so there isn't a 16 year later "oops."
My parents were both 20 when I was born. I love having young parents and that certainly influenced me to start having kids before 30. However, I also saw how difficult it was for my parents to raise 3 kids while my Mom finished her college degree (she's STILL in school getting her Masters) and my Dad struggled to make money without a college education. Having a baby while in grad school is no walk in the park but there's just no way I could have done this during my undergrad. I wouldn't have done as well, we would have been much harder off financially, and it would definitely have taken MUCH longer. In order for us to have the careers of our dreams, we had to wait until now to have kids.
my mom was 25 when she had me, my dad was 28 which is almost exactly the same with us. i was 26, dh was 28. Their age didn't influence me because i actually wanted kids a lot younger. My "plan" was to always have a kid by 23 and have all 3 of my kids by 30 HA HA HA. Obviously not going to happen, but that is a good thing as when i was 23 i was just starting out in the workforce and went through several really crappy low paying jobs before i got my awesome one that i am at now when i was 24.
DH's parents were younger, not sure the exact age, but they must have been around 21, 22. DH is the middle child and has an older brother and younger sister and there is 5 years between each of them. Personally that is too much of an age gap for me, and i know DH didn't like being the middle child. I have a brother who is 2 years younger which i like much better.
My mom was 36 when I was born and my dad 34. I was born 7.5 years after my closest brother. I feel like I grew up like an only child. My age has never been a factor in when I had my kids. However, I knew when Miranda was about 1.5yrs that we'd be trying for another so she wasn't "an only child" and have someone close to her age. While we hoped for a boy I couldn't be happier that Delaney was a girl. I just know they are going to be BFF's.
Forgot to add....
I was 18 when I had Ryan, and 39 when I had Delaney.
I was an "oops". My mum was 36 and my dad 43. They thought they were done 13 years previously. I too felt like an only child having my closet sibling 13 years older than me. He also moved out when I was 5 and I can't really remember him being at home. My elder brother (16 years older) was there until he was nearly 30 And although he is a lot older than me he has a few mental issues which always made him act like he was about 13. He seemed to grow up when he moved out but now he's nearly 44 but defiantly acts younger than me.
Back to the point of the question though...me and DH were both 25 when we had DS1 and 26 when we had DS2 (DH was 26 by 2 days..Tobey 1st Oct and DH 3rd Oct ) I have no worries at all that I might have another child in say 4/5/6 years time and them being on their own in age. I would defiantly NOT want to have 2 so close together again..IT'S HARD WORK I don't think another a bit younger sibling would change the way I treat them I do know I'm going to be 100% done by the time I'm 40 if I have more or not
My parents ages did defiantly not spur me to have children when I did.
Also, DH's parents were 21 (MIL) and 20(FIL) and he is an only child.
Sarah & Gavin
21st January 2008
Alexander-8 Dec 2008
Tobey-1st Oct 2010
My parents were both 31 when they had me. Im the youngest of 3 though. I wanted to have kids when I was younger but we were waiting for financial reasons, and just being ready (more DH than me). Plus DH is 8 years older so we knew we couldnt wait too long as he did not want to be an "old" Dad. Not that I think he's old for being a Dad at all, he does though.
My Mom was 36, my Dad 37. I was planned too lol. They got married the year before I was born.
It did make a difference to me, because I knew I would be more "settled down" when I had children.