Namely, separation from me anxiety. I can't so much as leave her in another room in the house with DH without her crying. So far it hasn't been too bad at day care because DH drops her off. I'm thinking maybe a lovey will help. She can't have it at day care but she could have it at home when I have to plop her in Daddy's lap. Anyone have any success with a lovey or other remedy for separation anxiety? Is this a short phase or are we in for it for a while?
I've been trying to get Aiden attached to a lovely, so that he has *something* other than my boob. He sees it as a toy that he could care less about most of the time. It's one of those animal heads attached to a small blanket. However, he's starting to get rather attached to the gerber cloth diapers that I've been using as bump cloths and for catching spit up. If he sees one on the floor, he'll roll to it and play with it. He's not very fond of letting it go. When my husband was putting Aiden to bed last week, he was giving Aiden one of the burp cloths rather than the lovely. lol. Not sure if it'll help with separation anxiety, but maybe if you slept with it some it might help since it smells like you. GL! I'm really afraid of this happening with DS since I'm already seeing the beginning stages of it over here.
Seperation anxiety is very common and shouldn't last too long. I think all kids have moments of this and it comes and goes.
Be careful of getting them too attached to one paticular lovey too....my g/f's boy was attached to this giraffe stuffed animal, he used to chew on the ears and it got really nasty, even the washer didn't get it clean enough. He would cry, cry, cry if he didn't have that thing and wanted it 24/7!
My son, Reese, loves his taggie blankets. We have four that we started with, thank GOODNESS, so we are covered even if one deteriorates. He is almost 4 years old now and needs them less and less every day.
I have about 6 taggies that I made for Emma and although she isn't super into them yet, she enjoys them. It was a lifesaver with my son so I'm hoping she ends up the same way. Right now she has a doll that she LOVES and that doll is with her all the time. I think a lovey is a great idea, but be sure to buy more than one once you find that she likes it, and switch off so that both get equal attention. I tried buying a new taggie for my son after about a year of him using his and he rejected it. It wasn't all used and abused like his were
Judging from my DS's ECFE (early childhood & family education) class that has many 2 year olds in it, most kids outgrow separation anxiety earlier on. Two of the boys there still have pretty bad separation anxiety though so it does sometimes stick around.
I hope your lovey system works well for Teagan, KUP if you have any success. I never had to deal with it so if Hailey gets it I'll be looking for suggestions.
DD1 had bad separation anxiety. I got a blankie for her and she started sleeping with it and playing with it. I just made sure to always have it by her when she was playing. It did help, a lot. DS had no separation anxiety, EVER. I have seen it a few times in Clara already so I'm hoping to get her attached to a blankie as well. I have 10 of the exact same blankies, my oldest two have had the same style blankies and have done well with them and they are easy to patch up so Clara has the hand me downs from DD1 that I just re-stitched . Usually, it's just a phase that will pass though.
I think separation anxiety comes and goes. DS1 had it bad just after he turned 1 but now he wants me to not be with him When I take him somewhere fun he pushes me out the door going "bye bye Mumma"
Tobey is a totally mummy's boy. But if he doesn't see me he's ok. I mean...today he woke from his nap so DH got him up and he was happy until I walked in the room then he was crying and reaching out to me. If I put him down and have to go to another room for more than 30 seconds he starts crying so if have jobs to do I have to take him with me. DS1 is trying to get him to play but I'm a bit scared of what he might do to him so I try not to leave them alone anyway
He has got a lovey that he sleeps with but as of yet he's not attached to it enough for it to be any kind of mummy substitute.
I think DS1 got attached to his lovey when he was about 10-11 months old
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Odin is like that at home with me. If I'm in the house I better be with him otherwise its meltdown time. Its nice to be loved but sometimes overwhelming...lol.
We had a lovely for DS1 more because he didn't have a way to sooth himself (not a fan of the paci & wean himself by 6 months). He used it from 1 month on but didn't really get into it until about 9 months and couldn't live without it after about a year. The boy will be 6 in Aug. and still is attached to the darn thing. DH isn't the biggest fan of it but I thought it served its purpose. We are still in a debate on Odin getting one or not. We got 3 of them and should have switched them out all the time but didn't so even now DS1 knows which one is the 'real' one beyond the fact that its dirty beyond repair and 1/2 eaten. So yucky. I'm seriously thinking of sewing it into his pillow on his 6th bday since he loves it but doesn't really need it still.
And yep, I slept with all 3 of those things in rotation for months.
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My ds went through something like that around 7months. It was horrible, but even worse.. I had to hold him the entire time. Even if I was in the same room/car it didnt matter he would just scream and cry until I picked him up. It just went away after a few weeks.
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Lyla has separation anxiety but so far she isn't getting attached to anything. Kup on how that lovie works out for Teagan.