i'm right there with you!! i was thinking about writing a post just like this later tonight. We have the defiance A LOT here and not listening. He suddenly doesn't seem interested in any of his toys anymore and would rather play with the house. it has always been like that, but now he refuses any toys and wants to play with things he is not allowed to touch. Sometimes I worry we are too relaxed because DH and I are laid back. I keep telling myself it will end someday.
ETA I am stuck on discipline as well. Redirecting only works for a minute, and i feel like saying "we don't hit, that hurts" does nothing. We tried a "time out" while sitting with him and talking but that did not go over well at all
Thanks for the sage advice from 3 months in the future, Leigh. I'm going to have to try and figure out how to put her stubbornness to good use.
Janice, about the toys, Teagan goes through phases of not wanting to have anything to do with her toys. You know what works? Hide 90% of them. I just went through and packed up most of T's toys leaving just a few that are "regulars" and the rest were one's she hasn't shown any interest in in months. That very day she played in her room for like an HOUR. I usually rotate her toys but I never thought to limit the number of them so severely. Seriously, its awesome. Go get a trash bag and bag 'em up. Then in a few weeks when he's not looking, swap 'em out.
Simon doesnt hit us, but will hit something near by, like the table/wall, when he's frusterated. I just think it's their age and we can only do our best and they will get past it.
I need to do this. I hid some when she refused to put them away a few weeks ago and honestly forgot about it. She was SO EXCITED when she spotted them in the top of her closet a few days ago--it was like Christmas. Currently her crayons are up there :roll:
Originally Posted by TiggersMommy
Oh and for what it's worth, I found just-before-two to be much worse than 2.25 is so far. The better communication is definitely helping. Hang in there.....
A lot of the AP discipline stuff is for older toddlers and preschools (and up) I've learned. Not turning 2 year olds. I often remove Aiden away from the situation (like to another room) and tell him we don't hit/whatever and give him a big hug. Kid doesn't hit nearly as much and now he hugs me and tries to ask for something where he used to just go psycho on me first thing. Of course lots of times I have no idea what he's telling me, so then he hits but it's a start that he's at least hugging to get my attention first. My child doesn't sit still ever, so I doubt if a time out would do him much good other than frustrate me. If I want him to be still I have to throw him on my back. Which I have done to cool him off. He'll pull my hair sometimes, but at least he's not throwing books at my head and trying to scratch me.
I do some choices (never more than A or B). He doesn't wear shoes in the house so I ask if he wants his loafers or his sandals and suddenly the choice makes him willing to leave the house. Or "waffles or eggs?" and suddenly he's all interested in breakfast.
My BFF keeps talking to me about Love and Logic stuff. Some of it we're not on board with at all, but it's given us some ideas that I've been talking out with her that is appropriate with AP and the age.
I really need to swap toys around, but I'm waiting till after Friday night. Want to know if we're moving or not. *sigh* I find that organizing the toys and just pulling out one bin (most of Aiden's stuff is in bins) helps a ton some days.
And most days I go for survival because toddlers are rough. And as I've said a hundred times, I do NOT like this age. Give me a 5 year old and I'm a happy woman. I can even handle a group of 4 year olds. But toddlers? Oh dear god no. Makes me want to pull my own hair out.
ITA with all of this Jackie :)
Speaking of AP, did anybody else hear this on the radio this morning? 'Children Succeed' With Character, Not Test Scores : NPR (see Interview Highlights for the most relevant part)
Yes, 3 is way worse than 2. They can communicate better, which is both easier and WAAAAAAAAAAY harder. 3 takes stubborn and independendent to a whole new level. 4 is a royal PITA with backtalking and sass - think teenager trapped in a child's body. 5 has been a bit easier, although "little mommy" is driving me (and Lainey) crazy at the moment.
I also agree with Leigh that the months leading up to age 2 are worse than the months following. I feel like DD1 was at her worst
terrible 2's' from about 20 - 26 months. After that it slowly got easier. We swore we were one and done for a long time, but felt ready to TTC baby #2 when DD1 was 2 1/2 years old, if that tells you anything.
And yes, a sibling helps. DD2 was and is a great distraction for DD1, and DD1 helps keep DD2 entertained immensely. I highly recommend a sibling. Plus they're really cute when they play together.
Sorry if this was rambling. I have a headache...
that is a good idea Erin. I have some of his old baby toys in his closet and he is all into them when he goes in there.
The hitting over here has gotten way better, but it still happens once in awhile. he is more likely to do it when he is tired or hungry and i have noticed he has gotten a little better around other little kids.
Originally Posted by cactuswren