Ugh. Nursing strike - happy update!

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Ugh. Nursing strike - happy update!

So Alaina came down with a bad cold/fever last night and pretty much didn't sleep at all. But the worst part is that she is now absolutely refusing to nurse, so I'm sitting here getting ready to pump. I think it is probably just a nursing strike since weaning usually happens gradually, but now I have to decide if I want to pump through it and hope she starts nursing again, or just let her stop. I'm not ready for her to be done, so I think I already have my answer, but I've never dealt with a nursing strike before. Does anyone have any advice? Or just words of encouragement? I won't last very long with this whole pumping thing.....

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I'm sorry, I don't have any words of advice. Hopefully this will be a short strike. Good luck pumping through it, it sounds like it will be worth it when you make it to the end of the strike.

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I'd just keep offering to her. I don't know if *I* would pump, but then again mine has been packed up and is on a truck now. lol. I hope she decides to nurse again soon. It is strange for her to suddenly stop. :grouphug:

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I'd only pump if its painful. Your supply is so well established by now that you can weather a nursing strike. I bet its just because she's sick and she'll be back to normal in a day or two. Even my boobaholic goes through phases of refusing when she's not feeling well. Just keep offering. Hope she feels better soon!

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Poor girl, hope she feels better soon. I bet once she feels better in a day or 2 she will be a nursing maniac. I agree and would only pump once you feel uncomfortable if its only for a day or so. I tend to only pump if its going to be a long time between (like 10+ hours). Totally keep offering though and I bet once she is feeling a little better she will be interested. Hang in there.

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She's no longer refusing to nurse, but just can't because she can't breathe. She latches, sucks a couple times, then cries because she just can't breathe and nurse at the same time. Poor sweetheart....
I'm pumping for her and giving her the milk in a sippie. I start getting uncomfortable after about 5-8 hours, so that's all the more I'm doing it. I can't quite get past the "gotta pump or I'll lose my supply" mentality, although I know at this point it would be fine. I still pump once a day when I'm away at work or school, too. I just can't help myself...

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Awww. Poor little girl! I hope she feels better soon.

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Poor thing. I was betting it was sinus related or a sore throat. Odin was like that one and it was so sad.

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I nurse Teagan in the shower when she's all stuffed up. It really helps to loosen things up, relax her, and sets us up for a better night.

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Thanks, I'll try that. She's had colds and nursed through them before; not sure why this time is different. She's back to just plain old refusing. Hopefully in a day or 2 we'll be back to normal.

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It's been 2 days and she still isn't nursing. I've been pumping, but this sudden lack of nursing is really hard on me emotionally, which I wasn't expecting. I suppose it is the hormones? We went from nursing probably about 5-6 times a day including at night, to yesterday I pumped 3 times and today just twice. I feel all weepy and a little baby-bluesy. Am I crazy or is this normal?

I hope she is able to breathe through her nose soon, and that she also wants to start nursing again.

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I hope tomorrow brings you a happy healthy nursing wee one!

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It's day 4 and still no nursing. She is very adamently refusing when I offer now, so I don't hold out much hope that she will resume.
I am intensely stubborn, so I will continue pumping for her until the after Christmas, when she'll be 15 months. By then I'll know for sure if she's really done.

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Is she breathing through her nose any better?

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I'd be so confused if Teagan just up and quit suddenly like that. I bet you're having some pretty fierce mixed emotions. Plus, its probably not helping that its throwing your hormones for a loop. The primary reason I'm "extended" BFing is to let Teagan decide when to stop on her own terms. I was dead set on a year and now I'm more or less letting things happen naturally but I'm pretty set on continuing until she's 2. If she gave up now, I'd be miffed but at least it would be on her own terms. So, if you're like me, there's a sunny side to her weaning on her own, if that's what she's actually doing. I think your plan to stick it out until Christmas is a good one. It'll give her the time to decide if she's really done. I still think she'll dive back in soon though.

Have you had her ears checked? The only thing that's really caused Teagan to slow up on nursing is an ear infection.

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She is still congested, so I'm still hopeful that is all that is stopping her.

I am feeling very confused and rejected at the moment. I am trying not to take it personally but it's hard when I offer and she looks at me like she's doesn't even understand what I'm doing! She even signs milk periodically but then when I try to nurse at me she gives me this puzzled look and turns away forcefully and it does hurt.

I contacted a LLL leader and she gave me some ideas to try but so far no luck. I've also been searching the internet, but a lot of what I have found has been nursing strikes in younger babies.

I know I should be happy that we made it to 14+ months, but I guess I just didn't see it coming this soon, and I did have 18 months to 2 years in mind as my goal. DD1 self weaned at 18 months, but it happened so gradually it was easier to accept, since I knew weaning was coming soon and I was able to cherish our last few times nursing together. I didn't get that this time around and it's hard.

I mentioned that I am intensely stubborn though, so I'm not giving up yet.

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Have you tried a little saline solution and suctioning for her congestion?

Perhaps just hanging out topless (if you're able) will encourage her to snuggle up for some boob? I know if I *try* to get Teagan to nurse for one reason or another she almost always refuses. I recall the days when DH would bring her to me for some lunch time boob and she would always refuse (which lead to a lot of frustration because she wouldn't take bottles either :rolleyes:). If, however, I was at home and wanted her to take some "last chance boob" before I headed off to school I'd just sit in her room topless and she'd almost always take the opportunity.

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Oh, and I feel ya on the stubbornness. I was willing to hand wash her diapers while hanging out at my Dad's ranch because I'm just that stubborn about not using sposies. Wink I've also had month long cheese standoffs with Teagan in which I refused to give her any cheese until she ate something else. Unfortunately, stubbornness is hereditary.

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Finishing nursing is HARD. If it's your decision or not. It was up to me to stop feeding Tobey and I still feel sad about it 6 weeks later

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Well, she has an ear infection, so that explains some things! She's taking an antibiotic and ibuprofen now, so there is a small glimmer of hope that we'll be back to normal once she's pain free and not congested.

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"BuckeyeK" wrote:

Well, she has an ear infection, so that explains some things! She's taking an antibiotic and ibuprofen now, so there is a small glimmer of hope that we'll be back to normal once she's pain free and not congested.

Awe, poor thing. I hope she recovers quickly and you two can get back to normal.

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"BuckeyeK" wrote:

Well, she has an ear infection, so that explains some things! She's taking an antibiotic and ibuprofen now, so there is a small glimmer of hope that we'll be back to normal once she's pain free and not congested.

Aw. I hate to hear that she has an ear infection, but hopefully this explains the nursing strike and she'll be back to normal soon.

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Still no nursing. I think this was day 5? I'm losing track.
She's toying with me by coming up to me and signing milk, then when I ask her "Milk?!" (which is our thing - she then gives me this huge grin like she's so excited I understood what she said) and gives me the same 'ol grin. Then I pick her up, offer to nurse and she arches away from me shaking her head no. Sigh.

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Well, it's progress. Hopefully she'll try nursing soon. I know I'd be awfully sad. Sad

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I think you're making some progress here. Simon had a nursing strike around 7 months (much younger i know) and i read alot about it. THe first step is for them to show that they want to nurse (she is by signing, etc.) then you the next step is being in the position to nurse, but not actually latching, just lying there. Next would be to latch, even if just shortly, or just pacifying. Then finally nursing effectively. It took a few days from Simon allowing himself to just be there to finally nursing right. He had a horrible throat infection.

I know it may be different for you since she's much older, but I wouldnt give up yet. See if you can just get here to lie there with your breasts out. Maybe she'll just latch out of curiosity. Or try taking a bath with her. Simon always seems interested in them when we're in the bath.

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"KittyRN" wrote:

I think you're making some progress here. Simon had a nursing strike around 7 months (much younger i know) and i read alot about it. THe first step is for them to show that they want to nurse (she is by signing, etc.) then you the next step is being in the position to nurse, but not actually latching, just lying there. Next would be to latch, even if just shortly, or just pacifying. Then finally nursing effectively. It took a few days from Simon allowing himself to just be there to finally nursing right. He had a horrible throat infection.

I know it may be different for you since she's much older, but I wouldnt give up yet. See if you can just get here to lie there with your breasts out. Maybe she'll just latch out of curiosity. Or try taking a bath with her. Simon always seems interested in them when we're in the bath.

Thank you so much! That gives me some hope!

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She's no longer refusing to nurse, but just can't because she can't breathe. She latches, sucks a couple times, then cries because she just can't breathe and nurse at the same time. Poor sweetheart....
I'm pumping for her and giving her the milk in a sippie. I start getting uncomfortable after about 5-8 hours, so that's all the more I'm doing it. I can't quite get past the "gotta pump or I'll lose my supply" mentality, although I know at this point it would be fine. I still pump once a day when I'm away at work or school, too. I just can't help myself...

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She is still congested, so I'm still hopeful that is all that is stopping her.

I am feeling very confused and rejected at the moment. I am trying not to take it personally but it's hard when I offer and she looks at me like she's doesn't even understand what I'm doing! She even signs milk periodically but then when I try to nurse at me she gives me this puzzled look and turns away forcefully and it does hurt.

I contacted a LLL leader and she gave me some ideas to try but so far no luck. I've also been searching the internet, but a lot of what I have found has been nursing strikes in younger babies.

I know I should be happy that we made it to 14+ months, but I guess I just didn't see it coming this soon, and I did have 18 months to 2 years in mind as my goal. DD1 self weaned at 18 months, but it happened so gradually it was easier to accept, since I knew weaning was coming soon and I was able to cherish our last few times nursing together. I didn't get that this time around and it's hard.

I mentioned that I am intensely stubborn though, so I'm not giving up yet.

First of all, BIG hugs to you. I'm pretty sure Brian is trying to wean and it is so harder on me emotionally than I ever thought it would be. Second (and the first bolded), everything I've read is that weaning is a very slow process for babies. Anything dramatic and sudden should initially be considered a nursing strike, even for the older ones. Micah is still a pretty good nurser and even he has days of little to no interest. I find that anything extended is usually a teething issue. The boys cut their first 4 teeth with little fanfare, but holy cow! every single tooth since then has sent them to the depths of despair.

I'm also stubborn and especially since I know both boys are teething right now, I have actually been going in to Brian's room before I go to bed and nursing him then. Partly it's to keep my supply up somewhat (I don't have a pump) and partly to relieve engorgement (the only other time he nursed yesterday was first thing in the morning; he wasn't interested any other time I offered). Have you tried this? The first time I did it, I was really worried he was going to really wake up and then keep me up half the night, but it's actually been great. He nurses great and is basically asleep the whole time. I think I've been doing this for close to 2 weeks now. I figure once he really proves that he's not interested in nursing anymore and i don't have teething or some other excuse, I'll stop. Plus, it's really nice nursing a sleepy and calm baby - that hasn't happened in MONTHS!!

Good luck! I hope it is 'just' a strike and that it ends SOON.

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Well, it's progress. Hopefully she'll try nursing soon. I know I'd be awfully sad. Sad

Thanks - I am awfully sad. But it's getting better emotionally-wise, I guess. I think I'm starting to accept it. Still pumping away. BFing moms who exclusively pump have my total admiration & respect!

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Any updates? Or still the same?

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The same. I'm pretty sure she's done. I've tried every trick in the book to regain her interest, but she almost acts scared of my boobs. If I try to get her anywhere near them she struggles to get away while whimpering. I'm going to keep to my plan of pumping until Christmas. She'll be 15 months on Christmas day, so she'll have had 15 months of the good stuff. At that point, if she is still resisting nursing I'll gradually wean off pumping and that will be it for us Sad

I'm still extremely emotional about it. I cannot believe this happened. If someone had told me at Thanksgiving that she would be weaned by Christmas, I would have said they were crazy. I was dead set on nursing for 18 months minimum, and really wanted to make it to around age 2. Tonight I rocked her to bed while she sucked her thumb and just cried. I don't get it.........

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:grouphug: So sorry to hear this. Sad

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Thanks. It breaks my heart Sad

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OOOOOOOOOOMG! She nursed this morning - willingly! On both sides! I have no idea if she'll keep it up or go back to refusing, but if she does I at least got to cherish our snuggles this morning! Today would have been the start of day 9 of refusing. We'll see where it goes from here, but at least if she's done for good after this I got some closure.

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YAY! Yahoo

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YAY! I hope she keeps this up. Smile

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Thanks everyone for all your support and understanding! If I knew how to add smilies, I'd put the hugging one here! lol

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YAAAAAAYYYY!!!! I really hope it was just a strike and that she's back to nursing for awhile at least. Cherish these moments though.

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She's still acting goofy about nursing, but it's progress. When I put her down for her nap she nursed for about 30 seconds, then started refusing.

I no longer have a long term goal, I'm just going to enjoy what I've got while I've got it. If we get back to what we had then that's wonderful, but if she really does want to wean, well, I'm all about child-led weaning (I just didn't feel like that was what had happened when she quite cold turkey).

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Yahoo I hope this is progress!!

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30 seconds is great progress! That's all I can get out of Aiden sometimes before he's ready to go back playing. And he ASKED to nurse! lol

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We did it! Back to nursing like normal. We went through 8 days of no nursing at all, then 4 days of weird nursing/mostly refusing but we're pretty much back to where we were! *Happy dance!*

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Yahoo that's awesome!!!!!!!!!

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OMG!!! YAY!!! Man, she was really giving you a run for your money. Blum 3

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yay!!!!! That's fantastic news! Sorry I haven't contributed much but I have no experience with nursing strikes or really extended nursing for that matter but it sounded like you were getting great advice.

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Thanks everyone for the support, and for commiserating and celebrating with me! DH was supportive, but didn't really understand how I was feeling.
We're not back at 100% normal, but I'd say 85, and that's good enough for me. I'm just taking it a day at a time and we'll see where we go from here!

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Yahoo

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Awesome news!!

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Totally great news!!!!