At the IL's on Saturday I was ready to go bat$hit crazy on SIL. I try to remember that she's brain damaged from extreme drug use in her youth and a very serious car accident (playing chicken), but I can't make endless allowances for her. DH taught Lyla to throw a fastball the other day, outside. And now we are trying to get the message across that that kind of throwing is only for outside. Well she threw a ball in SIL's direction pretty hard. She was totally playing. I told her not to throw so hard, and at the exact same time SIL gave her a loud "NO!", and then REACHED OUT AND SWATTED HER BUM!!! Not the least bit hard, and she immediately asked Lyla for a hug, so Lyla took it as a playful thing, but still. I let that go with a 'look', I'm kinda known for my 'looks'. Well a little bit later, I was leaving the room to go nurse Kole and I heard "Don't touch those, Lyla!" "Do you want a spanking?". I whirled around and walked back in there and said, "What are we spanking my daughter for?" She said for looking at FIL's pill bottles. I said, "So we are going to spank MY child for LOOKING at something?!" Where she said no, she'd never spank Lyla, ever. GRRR! I went off on DH on the way home about how everything Lyla got into something EVERYONE started hollering at her at the same time!! DH and I were RIGHT THERE! She's our child, if she needs to be directed, redirected or any kind of discipline its for US to administer!!! She does NOT need every adult in the room yelling "NO" at her at the same time. Anyway, that's a side issue I have with them and luckily those moments are on the rare side, but when they happen I get very upset. Even more so because DH says it's just something that's going to happen and to accept it. He's going to get very upset with me one day when I backhand his sister and lose my cool completely with them.
I'm sure y'all didn't care about all that, but I keep thinking about it and needed to get that out. Thanks for the 'ear'.

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