My brother is great at age inappropriate gifts, then again he is a single male with no children. Last year for Christmas he bought Ronin a fishing rod, this year he wanted to buy him a quad bike ( yes a real one), his first birthday he bought him a dog without asking me then rang me drunk at like 2am to tell me. Thankfully that got sorted. Last year my Dad bought him a remote controlled car. I just put it aside until he was bigger and Dad had expected that but he found a good deal on it and that's why he bought it. My Mum constantly tells my brother ( he doesn't reveal his ideas to me but runs them by Mum thankfully) that Ronin is a bit young for xyz but he still wants to get it anyway, we just store things, but we have the space.
My aunt is bad for expensive gifts, she said she is never likely to get grandchildren so spoils Ronin rotten instead, he is getting a battery powered quad bike for Christmas. My brother was thinking of a bike, which Ronin already has, but seems stuck on a balance bike now so it won't surprise me if there is one under the tree for Ronin
Oooo I had forgotten about the iPad! I think you need to have a serious conversation to her about this, weather it's now or after Christmas.
Yes, so agree about putting the doll up until she is older. Those dolls are not cheap and are great for girls when they are much older. Like 1st grade through 4th grade. We put gifts up in our closet in those circumstances and pull them out as the kids grow into them. If your parents NEED a pic you could always have her unwrap the gift, snap a pic, and they distract her with the other things while whisking the doll into hiding. If mom asks tell her honestly that Rowan didn't dig the doll at this age but probably like it more when she is older and you have it kept nicely for her.
We also do wish lists using MyRegistry.com - All Stores, One Registry? Gift Registry, Gift List, Wishlist which is really nice because you can add things from tons of different stores or places that you choose. It might even let you add from etsy but I'm not super sure. I love it because I've added stuff from cloth diaper places to Waldorf specialty toy shops and have it all on one list for the kids. Everyone seems to really like having us set it up and getting the things the kids really want. My dad, however, still get the pointless gifts headed for the shelf for elsewhere.
Also just a though. If she really wants to drop money and great kid stuff to be awesome grandma, try redirecting her into a more constructive spending lane. I love the college savings thing but I'm sure she wants to purchase some tangible as well. You could always push for some really nice high end, space saving toys, that you'd welcome into your home. Here is a link to one of my favorite toy places: Home page | Nova Natural Toys & Crafts that carries really well made toys that last and are more along the lines of things I dig (not sure if your into the same stuff). They are pricey though so I usually add things from here as gifts for the kids. But she could have spent a lot of $$$ on a doll from there that R would have probably loved to cuddle. KWIM? Just an idea
~Joy~ DS1-8/5/05, DS2-10/18/10 (VBAC#1), DS3- 4/11/12 (VBAC#2!)
Here's another site with lovely expensive ideas listed by age. A map shows where there's a store near you. Heck, they don't even show prices!
I like these....
Last edited by gardenbug; 12-16-2012 at 05:03 AM. Reason: added suggestions from site
Ivy (4) visits Nana
Donate the doll to "Toys for Tots" or some other charity that gives Christmases to children in need. Tell you mom that the labels with the age on it are on there for a reason and she needs to, at the very least, stick to the age limit on the packaging and if she doesn't you'll just donate the toys to charity if you don't have the storage room. If she's already mad at you anyway, then it should get the message across loud and clear.
I don't have that problem, but my MIL and SIL tend to buy huge amounts of clothes at garage sales in sizes they won't fit into for 3 or 4 years and then I'm left feeling obligated to store them, but don't really have the space. Most end up a Goodwill. I'm not crazy about garage sale clothes anyway and definitely don't want to store crap that I'll forget I have stored anyway.
I wish I could to a wish list anywhere. My IL's aren't online at all and anyone else who is would never look at it. Both my wedding registry and my baby registry went completely ignored. Never again.
If you really don't think she'll be into it anyway, I agree that you should just let her unwrap it and then put it up in a closet right away. That way you don't have to lie or make any excuses or get into an argument about going over grandma's head. She opened it, it's not appropriate for now, it's in storage.
Maybe if she's simply determined to buy ridiculously expensive gifts for a toddler, instead of fighting it OR accepting things you don't want/aren't appropriate, just try to come up with some ridiculously expensive things that are actually appropriate to suggest? Like, if I had this problem (I don't) I'd pick some super awesome all natural dollhouse that costs $400 or a really great playhouse for the yard or something like that--KWIM? It's not like there aren't some fabulous super high quality toddler appropriate toys out there...no, Rowan doesn't NEED them and I totally get how the whole situation is irritating, but...to me that would be the closest to win/win you're likely to get here.
(I just noticed that Joy had basically the same suggestions...so yeah, I agree with Joy! )
I would def. keep it and put it up for her later. While it's not a great gift now they are very expensive dolls and Rowan will probably love it when she's older.
I would give her the necklace and if Mom asks, just tell her that the doll isn't such a good idea right now but thank her for it and hopefully that will be the end of it.
Like others have said, make her a list on amazon, or mail her a list of things to get Rowan.
If she wants to drop a lot of money on her, suggest opening a savings account at a local bank for her college fund.