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What do you NOT miss?

I figure in attempt to reel in our baby making hormones, we could also list some of the things that we don't miss about the newborn stage.

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I do NOT miss the super long marathon nursing sessions that seemed to happen every single day for weeks. At one point DS would nurse for 45 minutes to an hour straight. Break for an hour and then repeat.
I also do NOT miss getting up to change diapers 999 times during the middle of the night! I was so excited when he stopped popping at night. Lol

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i do not miss the overwhelming feelings of helplessness/second guessing that i went through the first month or so.

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Ditto on the long and never ending nursing sessions! I also don't miss the floppy head/neck.

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I do NOT miss my floppy neck baby!! LOL Lol

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I do not miss the feeling I got when she cried, you know that stomach twisting feeling that I'm sure is part nerves and mostly hormones that make you do absolutely anything to stop the crying. It's not like now I don't care when she cries, but I don't feel that frantic instinctual need to stop it immediately. kwim? Anyone else feel that when their's are little?

I don't miss the 2 billion diaper changes and all the poop that comes with a newborn bf baby.

I don't miss the newborn bf'ing at all.

I don't miss the fragility of a newborn, the floppy head, the chicken legs that look like they're gonna snap off at any moment, etc.

I don't miss the way I feel so completely exhausted for the first few months, especially the bf'ing narcolepsy (when you are just fine and then you go to nurse the baby and it's like you can NOT function without sleep all of a sudden).

I don't miss the pp bleeding.

I don't miss the "dying of thirst" feeling I always get for the first few months while bf'ing.

I don't miss hiding out to keep her protected from germs and Walmart for the first couple months.

I don't miss not seeing her smile or coo.

Did I miss anything? Have I ever mentioned I'm not a big fan of the newborn stage Biggrin

Did I mention the sleep thing already, cause it's really the one thing keeping me from having a whole slew of children?! Biggrin

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"momW" wrote:

I do not miss the feeling I got when she cried, you know that stomach twisting feeling that I'm sure is part nerves and mostly hormones that make you do absolutely anything to stop the crying. It's not like now I don't care when she cries, but I don't feel that frantic instinctual need to stop it immediately. kwim? Anyone else feel that when their's are little?

yes. i was actually thinking about this today as he was crying and i put the vacuum away. in the beginning it would have been screw the vacuum and everything else!

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You're so right about the cries Christa! I now know that he'll be okay for 30-60 seconds. And half the time he shuts up in that time frame. lol.

PP bleeding. VERY good one.

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"janijanis" wrote:

yes. i was actually thinking about this today as he was crying and i put the vacuum away. in the beginning it would have been screw the vacuum and everything else!

Me too! And that's not me by nature, I'm so laid back.

In the beginning, it's like nails on a chalkboard for me. I am not an anxious person by nature, I'm really not, but man when one of my own newborns cry, my stomach turns into a ball of knots. I know, logically, (s)he'll be just fine, it's not a big deal, but my instincts seem to take over and force me into action, no matter what my brain says. It has to be an animal-like instinct. That's what it feels like for me. Anyone else's newborn, meh, no biggie, a 6 month old of mine, meh, no biggie, a newborn of mine, HOLY CRAP BATMAN GET THE BATMOBILE!!!

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I do not miss her wanting to be held/fed pretty much 24/7-very hard to do anything when you have to do everything with one hand while holding a baby! I do not miss her having fussy periods in the wee hours of the morning where I had to get up and rock or walk with her to keep her calm.

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The baby blues, lack of sleep, pp bleeding, not being able to put her down without crying, trying to bf, all of the visitors and phone calls.

If I could have a newborn, who slept decently I'd have a bunch of more kids! lol

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"redneckgirl82884" wrote:

The baby blues, lack of sleep, pp bleeding, not being able to put her down without crying, trying to bf, all of the visitors and phone calls.

If I could have a newborn, who slept decently I'd have a bunch of more kids! lol

AMEN to all of it sister!!!!

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No neck control the feeding like every hour. And the sids worries. You all are doing a great job of keeping my baby fever down! Smile

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Feeling like I want to punch dh in the face for being a jerkface right after birth. I love him again and that makes it so much easier to be a mom!

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The dang vajaja pain...I still cant DTD!!!!!!!!! I was so sore so sore! OUCH!
The sleep is getting better!

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The sore nipples and issues that come with BFing a newborn. And the absolute turmoil that a new baby brings into a house. I hate not having a routine to my day!

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Hmm Ronin is still no where close to STTN, I have more trouble with cracked nipples now than when he was a new born, he can still sometimes whip out an hour long feed at night and PP bleeding didn't bother me, so what don't I missthat constant worry of oomg is everything ok, is he breathing etc etc. Now thats only maybe a twice a ay worry session.

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SIDS worries. I was so scared the first few months. I would constantly check on him.
PP Bleeding. Super glad when that left!!:yahoo:
Floppy Baby.

There are things that I do miss, but I am so enjoying where we are at right now. He is so much fun to play with.

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Good idea for bringing down the baby fever. Smile

I don't miss the 12+ diaper changes and the 12+ nursing sessions per day.

I don't miss the baby blues. Ugh, I spent so much time bawling for no reason... And yes, the damn pp bleeding.

I don't miss how I felt so distant from DD1 one for the first month or so, since I was primarily taking care of DD2, while my DH primarily took care of DD1.

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I don't miss being worried about him getting sick, esp the pertussis hype.

I don't miss him being so fragile.

That's about it...I love that stage!

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"PeanutGirl" wrote:

Good idea for bringing down the baby fever. Smile

It's like I actually saw my baby fever grow wings and fly away Biggrin

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"momW" wrote:

It's like I actually saw my baby fever grow wings and fly away Biggrin

ROFL

This thread was really helping my baby fever up until last night. That's when my husband looked over at me in bed asking when we were going to start TTC #2. Yeah, the man who made me promise that we didn't need to be pregnant till after he was completely done with pilot training. :eek:

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LOL...My husband has the baby itch as well. He keeps asking if we can start now. I keep reminding him that we still have a baby and that I do most of the baby work. I think he just likes the practice part TTC, a lot.

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I'm really glad that I haven't had AF return yet! As much as I want another baby, I know right now is not great timing. Who the heck wants to move while pregnant AGAIN only this time while chasing after what may be a new walker?! No thank you. Lol

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I do NOT miss
*not sleeping
*marathon nursing
*sore nips
*PP bleeding
*PPD
*NB POOP!
*5,000,002 diaper changes PER DAY

I know it's not a newborn thing, but I really don't miss that stinky third trimester either.

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Honestly, I'm not sure I miss much of anything other than not having to go to work. At the time, I loved having a newborn. Now that she's out of that phase I have a hard time understanding why I liked it so much. All the poop, crying, not sleeping, floppiness, no smiling, everything. Plus, she didn't smile, coo, giggle, or interact with me in anyway. It was like taking care of a floppy poo bag. Albeit a really cute floppy poo bag. On top of that, I was leaking from every orifice, my boobs ached, my nipples burned, my bajingo hurt, my brain didn't work (no that it does now ;)), and I cried constantly. Why would I ever want to do that again. Oh yeah, because then I'll get to go through this stage again. I love this stage :p.