Thread: What do you think?

Hey ladies

I had an appt today with the doctor for me (nothing new really) but we got to talking about Simon. She commented about how he's the biggest baby they've had there. She is concerned that he is BF too often and that he uses it for comfort. She also said that breastmilk is incomplete and that he needs table food.

I know he's a big boy, but he doesnt really eat tons or bad. I breastfeed him on demand yes, but he often refuses. She pretty much said she wants me to wean him and start by scheduling when he BFs and offereing to BF after he eats solids.

This all seems wrong to me. I dont know why he's huge. It doesnt feel like he eats tons. Ok, sometimes he does pack it away, but generally speaking I think he eats normally.

What do you think. He's 35 lbs now.

wtf! first of all, don't you have a ped? If i am wrong then sorry

He is big, but lots of babies are big out there. I personally would ignore her. How many times a day do you bf him where he actually eats?

I would personally do what the doctor is suggesting. If she is concerned he's put on too much weight, shes got reasons to say that to you, not to be mean or to get you to stop BFing.

I think she is nuts for saying your breast milk isnt complete. Its the perfect food!!! She is a cwack to think jarred food, or even cut up food would better than breast milk..

Now if a baby were breastfeeding and not gaining or losing weight than it would make sense to add other foods into the mix, but to tell you to wean him because he is too big, I would be pissed.. (Oh and not mention if you stop breastfeeding you will have to replace that with milk or formula, so that doesnt really make sense)

I dont think her suggestion is a bad idea about offereing foods first or second, I usually offer breast and solids, in 1-2 meals, and then rest of the time its either breast milk, or cut up fruits and veggies..

Well coming from a doctor you always wanna believe they are right. My 3 year old is 33lbs lol. But he is tiny for his age... I'd just schedule his feedings... No more on demand. That way you can control his calories. But your mommy! If your concerned and don't agree with that doctor, I'd go to another one.

Janice, he did have a ped, but that was for his reflux that is mostly gone, only spits up on occasion now.

I think I'm going to try doing the solids first at lunch and dinner from now on, but in the am still doing bf first since that is when he drinks best anyways. I cant imagine he's getting too many calories from bf really, since dont they always say you cant overfeed a bf baby? I dont know. I dont want him to be fat or anything, but I dont like to deny him if he's truly hungry.

And no, he's not really eating each time he bfs. Sometimes it's just for comfort. He likes to cuddle.

I know I need to get more fruits/veg into him though. He's been spitting it all out lately. Well not ALL, but he's just loving his carbs right now. Like his Mama!

k, I thought she was just a Dr. sticking her nose in

She WAS a doctor sticking her nose in. The appt was for me!!! LOL!

What!! Yeah she def. was being a nose sticker inner!

First of all, I wouldn't take tons of unsolicited nutrition advice from someone who tells you that BM is incomplete. It is the most complete food for babies. The only things it is lacking is vit D (which they are intended to get from sunlight) and, when they get older, iron, which they can easily get from other sources. No other table food is going to come close to that.

Is this the dr you see for the OCD about feeding him? The reason she may have felt compelled to comment is because she knows you have been on meds in the past for feeding compulsion, and maybe she is just trying to keep tabs on that?

Is he off the charts for height, too? If he's proportionate, I wouldn't worry. If he is of average height for age, I would be concerned about the weight. 35 pounds is a very big not-quite-one-year-old, although if it fits with his height then it's probably just normal for him.

At his age, I also don't think it would hurt any to start offering table foods first and then BF second. His weight gain should start slowing down as he gets older and more mobile. They can't keep gaining as much the 2nd year as they do the first year or they would be 100 pound 5 year olds! I know I was surprised to see how much my DD slowed down in gain after her first bday.