So I feel like we made a huge mistake switching to the toddler bed. It worked great the first few nights and then everything went horribly wrong. She gets out and sleeps on the floor, or she did. Now she wakes up and starts crying, gets out and goes and bangs on the door. I'll go put her down to sleep and within 15 minutes she's out of there and asleep on the floor, then she'll wake up somewhere between 1a and 4a and refuse to go back to sleep. Sunday night she somehow managed to skin her nose. She was up most of that night and DH finally got her back to sleep at 5:30am. She woke up for the day at close to 10am and her nose was bright red and several layers of skin missing. It looks horrible.
There has to be a solution that doesn't consist of either CIO and sleeping on the nasty 20 year old carpet, or us being up ALL STINKING NIGHT!! This was not a problem until recently. She started STTN at 10mo and rarely woke up. Now we are lucky to get two good nights of sleep a week. I can't deal with this!
DH is unwilling to move the crib back into her room, so we are going to try the pack-n-play tonight and see. She slept in it fine when we were traveling over the last few weeks.
Ugh that is so frustrating. Totally let DH deal with some of it during the middle of the night so you at least get some rest, at least a good chunk of it.
Sometimes I notice my kids have sleep issues when life events are hecktic or big things are coming up. I'm sure some of the stress and emotions over the past few weeks, and the upcoming birth, effect her even if she doesn't understand what is going on. Kids can feel or sense those things without having anyway to understand or express any unsettled feelings they may have. Lots of times you see it as change in behaviors or sleep. My DS1 started waking up in the middle of the night and being up for the day at like 4:30am a few weeks before and after Odin was born. He was a kid that STTN for years at that point. Maybe its something like that, added with the ability to get out of the toddler bed, that are causing some of the sleep issues if she isn't teething or getting over a cold. I don't know of any great solutions but maybe soothing her before bed with kind gental words about how you are feeling and what is going on (Kinda like talking out loud to yourself, or praying, even if its nothing you feel she will grasp) will help make her feel a sense of calm and peace. Just a thought.
Sorry you are dealing with this now. Odin had a few weeks of rough sleep following a cold, about 2 months back, and I was loosing it big time and would be even more at this point.
~Joy~ DS1-8/5/05, DS2-10/18/10 (VBAC#1), DS3- 4/11/12 (VBAC#2!)
It's unreal. I feel like I can't take it anymore. Nothing we've done has worked. We've had the same routine forever and can't get this kid to sleep. She gets plenty of snuggle time for at least 2 hours before bedtime and nothing helps. I've tried every reasonable thing I can think of. I've searched online till my fingers cramped and all I can find is people talking about letting their kids CIO for HOURS at a time for so many days before it got better. I feel there has got to be a better option than THAT!
She also doesn't eat. I mean really does NOT eat at all. Today she's eaten maybe 2 cheese it crakers. Nothing else all day! She lives on milk! I'm so heartbroken I've been crying all day because I can't figure it out. She hungry, I know she is. Right now she's had nothing but water since noon (it's 4 o'clock) and I just tried to feed her and she absolutely refused to eat even one single tiny bite. She's cranky too because she's hungry, but I absolutely REFUSE to give her more milk. She needs to EAT something!!!! I just want to go into a padded room and scream until I'm hoarse and hit something.
what about moving her mattress to the floor? Instead of her sleeping on the carpet, maybe sleeping on the mattress on the floor?
My DD goes through phases of picking and snacking all day rather than sitting and eating a meal. Then she will go back to full meals again after a few days. Could you cut down on the milk or water a bit to see if she will eat something? Or create small snack portions more often throughout the day?
Sorry if i'm not much help. Hang in there. As i keep hearing; everything is just a phase. It very well could be linked with everything happening in your life that she is picking up on.
DD Gemma December 9th, 2009
DS Luke May 13th, 2012
I agree Anna, there totally has to be a better option than having her CIO. I hope something clicks for her soon. I'm sure the not eating thing doesn't help the whole sleep issue either cause she is probably hungry when she wakes at night making it hard for her to go back to sleep.
What are those pumped up milk drinks they have for little kids with the extra calories, similar to Ensure for adults? Is it pediasure or something? I'm not a big fan of those things in general but if I would enable my kiddo to sleep a little better then I'd totaly go for it. I wonder if you could get her to at least drink one of those before bed to fill up a little and maybe sleep better. Doesn't help the whole eating thing but then at least everyone can get some sleep.
~Joy~ DS1-8/5/05, DS2-10/18/10 (VBAC#1), DS3- 4/11/12 (VBAC#2!)
Sorry, Anna! Maybe there are a couple other things you can try. Maybe the mattress on the floor, so you can lay next to her for a little bit while she's falling asleep? Or try a baby gate across the doorway so when she gets up you can go in easily and get her laid back down. Is DH wanting the crib for Kole? Because if you have a basinet he probably won't be in the crib for a while so Lyla could use it for a few more months.
As far as not eating, maybe she is either playing the power struggle game with you, or just filling up on milk. Maybe limit her milk to only meal times, any other time she asks for a drink she has to have water. And give food first, then milk later after she's had a little to eat. If she doesn't eat, don't make a big deal out of it and don't try to push it. Maybe if she sees she can't get a reaction then she'll stop refusing.
Good luck! Hopefully you'll find some solutions that work!
Kurt doesn't want to move the crib back into Lyla's room because she CAN get over the rail if she wants to and it's a major pain in the butt to move. The mattress on the floor wouldn't work unless we could put it right where is blocks the door. We close the door to keep her from roaming around the rest of the house. She has no problem getting on and off her bed, she just get's off on purpose and goes to sleep by the door. We are just going try the pack-n-play for a while and see if it works better to limit her options of roaming around.
She is a very stubborn, bullheaded, independent child. She got it honest, so I guess I shouldn't be able to complain. I just want my kid to eat at mealtime, and sleep at night. That is all I am asking for here! I just feel like we must be doing something wrong and aren't seeing it. DH said earlier tonight that he'd gotten a good look at her top gums and they looked like red and swollen, so she is STILL teething. I guess she'll get all of the rest of her teeth at once, but then again maybe once they are all there we'll get some peace back. . . Just in time for #2. ugh. I love my kids, I promise I do. I just need some quality sleep.