The "WTTW, Kole & Archer!!!!" Chat Thread 23

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The "WTTW, Kole & Archer!!!!" Chat Thread 23

Woohoo!

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love the name! Smile

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Well done! Squeal, I'm still so very excited our two handsome boys have made their entrance! What an exciting month it's been!!!

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Erin- does your pain from the disc herniation shoot down your leg? I can't remember seeing where you described your symptoms, just your dx.

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I know! We're so lucky to be on the inside track to welcome such adorable little monkeys.

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Yeah, I get pain shooting down my thighs if I sit upright or stand too long.

That's weird that your DS will sleep better when DH is away. I'm dreading the nights DH is gone. T is finally STTN most nights and its because DH deals with her after she's down for the night. If I have to deal with her she might get the idea that its OK to nurse at night again.

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oh wow Erin, that doesn't sound fun at all. I hope your back heals quickly.

My son just ran up to chloe and dumped his sippy cup of ice water over her head!!! That boy is being BAD today! Her head was soaked yesterday but she was also playing with her sippy cup, I am thinking now that he had something to do with that. You should have seen his face when he noticed I was looking right at him! little butt head!!!

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"TiggersMommy" wrote:

Yeah, I get pain shooting down my thighs if I sit upright or stand too long.

That's weird that your DS will sleep better when DH is away. I'm dreading the nights DH is gone. T is finally STTN most nights and its because DH deals with her after she's down for the night. If I have to deal with her she might get the idea that its OK to nurse at night again.

oooo, didn't think about her nursing situation and how well that goes with DH around.

I think my DS just likes to screw with DH. I'm not a nice person when I'm woken in the middle of the night. Don't judge me but there have been multiple times where DS has woken up in the middle of the night and DH nudges me but I don't go in there, I just yell at DS to go back to sleep in a not so nice tone. Now, if he sounds scared like he's had a nightmare I will rush in there and hold him because there is just something about any of my babies being scared that just tugs at my heart but just a random I need a drink or wah wah I need some attention, yeah, I don't handle that well from older than infants children in the middle of the night Smile

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"Newlywed630" wrote:

oh wow Erin, that doesn't sound fun at all. I hope your back heals quickly.

My son just ran up to chloe and dumped his sippy cup of ice water over her head!!! That boy is being BAD today! Her head was soaked yesterday but she was also playing with her sippy cup, I am thinking now that he had something to do with that. You should have seen his face when he noticed I was looking right at him! little butt head!!!

sorry but Lol my reaction probably would've been based on her reaction!! what did she do?

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Kids are such stinkers!

I'm not a pleasant person in the middle of the night either. There were some expletives flying last night.

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Wow what I wouldn't give for a hubby that helps, I am about ready to kill mine. He had yesterday off, all day home alone. Did he tidy anything up, wash up, maybe do some washing or cook dinner. Nope he sat in his jocks on a recliner and played World of Warcraft all day and ordered pizza for tea. When I got home at 6:30pk (I have started running with a friend to try and lose weight and get fit) he just said tea is in the oven and didn't get up. So I fed Ronin, bathed him and got him ready for bed, put him down and he woke up screaming not long after I asked hubby to get him and he took a few minutes then told me if I just lay with Ronin until he went to sleep it would be fine. Ronin was refusing to sleep so I went and told him it was his turn for a bit so I could get some down time and you know maybe wash up or have 10 minutes sans toddler, he flat out refused. I am so cranky at him right now. I feel like his mother not his wife, everything is left for me to do and he complains that I don't clean much on weekends, umm I have Ronin with me and I try to do things with him, but apprantly I should just be house wenching the whole time and ignoring Ronin.
I am stressed from work because it is crazy and I take over my new role in a month and have some huge things involved with that straight after I take over so I am scared and in general completly over everything.

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:bigarmhug:
I just have to repeat that your DH frustrates me. He's not treating you like his wife or even like his mother. You wouldn't put up with that sort of behavior if you were his mother, right? His inability to get up off his lazy *** to help you out in any way is absolutely disrespectful and unloving. If my DH acted like that I'd be asking him to find somewhere else to play video games all weekend.

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wendy! I do not know how you deal with it! Dh and I have been kinda at eachother since we have added walking into our daily routine. For some reason he thinks that since he goes walking with us, that means that anything he did before to help me out went out the window. I feel your pain. All I can say is maybe talk with him about it? hugs!

Chloe sat there with her mouth open and shouted at me "bubba!!" Then the melt down happened and she ran to me crying. I sent him to the corner.. Boys are so fun aren't they? Smile

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Wendy- I'd hang your DH from the window by his toes if I were you! I honestly have no idea how you do it girl! I literally could NOT do it all, no way, no how with all these kids without my DH putting in his 75% LOL!

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"TiggersMommy" wrote:

:bigarmhug:
I just have to repeat that your DH frustrates me. He's not treating you like his wife or even like his mother. You wouldn't put up with that sort of behavior if you were his mother, right? His inability to get up off his lazy *** to help you out in any way is absolutely disrespectful and unloving. If my DH acted like that I'd be asking him to find somewhere else to play video games all weekend.

I'd probably have a temper induced meltdown and throw the whole computer at his head, but then I've mentioned before that I have temper issues right?! Yeah, I wouldn't even put up with that behavior from one of my own children let alone my DH.

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Hubby doesn;t listen when I talk to him, he sees that he is contributing and inn his head he does a lot. He has always maintained that his days off are for enjoying himself and nothing will change his mind on that. I have tried everything. The nights he is home he won't even help with getting Ronin to bed, he just says oh Mummy stinks so she should take you for a bath (in a joking way and if I didn't take Ronin for a bath I probaly wouldn't get one that day) and I can't put him to bed I don't have boobs. It's just frustrating and I am just over it today, I want to curl up in a ball and cry, but theres a lot of compounding issues there, but I have to go hang out clothes, bring up clothes for today (I can't wait for the rain to stop so I can take stuff off the line and leave it baskets pretending I have an intention to fold it, when it's wet like this things tend to go mouldy easily so if they stay on the line the air circulates and fewer mould issues) and start making lunches.

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When I went back to school after my maternity leave I needed to drill it into DH's head just how much he needed to help out for this to work. I drew up a list of chores that each of us had to take care of and then had him read it over to see if it seemed fair. We both agreed it seemed fair and now I have that list to point to when he slacks off. I usually point out that my chores cannot go undone. Nursing Teagan, putting Teagan to bed, buying groceries, & cooking dinner cannot be put off.

Perhaps sitting down and hashing out just how much you actually do will help.

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We did that last year when I was forced into counselling by work, the counseller came and talked to us both, thats when I really realised how much he believes in his head he does and because he believes he does it there is no way to change him. He is truely of the belief he does heaps and his answers to the other issues are to buy a dishwasher and a deep freeze then he will bulk cook and freeze ( and leave me the dishes to do). I have tried leaving things so he can see what I do but then I just end up with a filthy house. I have even asked him to be in charge of simple things like the bins (taking the full bags down and getting them out for bin day) his answer is to just buy a bigger indoor bin so you only take it down once a week, which doesn't work as we end up with a gross smelly bin, and also feedng the cats, but I doubt that gets done with any regularity. I guess I just need to remove my recration time more to get everything done, because right now (remember 98*/I am tired and frustrated and angry and stressed) seems like the only real solution.

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What exactly does he do around the house that's got him so convinced he's working so hard?

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He beliueves he cleans and he cooks sometimes when he is home ( sometimes true, but then he leaves all the washing up) and he washes his uniforms each night.
Everyone tells me to clean once Ronin is in bed, but these people also assume Ronin sleeps 7 to 7 and if I mentioned he didn't it would cause even more of an issue so I just let them assume. I just feel like the world jusges me as a bad wife and mother and sometimes I feel like Ronin and hubby would be better off without me.
I think if hubby had a different job things might be different, but I truely think his current job and the hours etc are a huge contributing factor tho these issues.

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How very, very frustrating Wendy!

My husband was done for the day and home by 1:30pm. Yes, super early! Aiden is doing fine today and is full of energy. Mama has zero energy and feels as if she's been ran over (bad nausea, headache, and extreme exhaustion). I got all excited thinking I was going to get a break. The man fed himself lunch and then sat down to play video games. I told him how I was feeling and his response? "I didn't come home just so you can nap. I came home to relax." Meanwhile I'm running around trying not to puke as I play pick up after the toddler. I told him he can either help out or go back to work because I don't want another useless body here. I ended up going on an emotional tirade complete with lots of tears. I got my nap. Blum 3 Still feel like crap, but at least I'm able to keep my eyes open now.

Christa, that sounds like a fantastic walk! I wish there was somewhere more exciting I could walk to other than the commissary/BX. It's over 2 miles for the round trip, which is just too far for me right now feeling like this.

I always dread DH leaving. Aiden always sleeps worse (or as when DH was gone last November for 3 weeks, not at all).

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Glad you got your nap Jackie.

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Wendy you're not a bad mom. Trying to take care of a house and toddler is overwhelming. I can't imagine doing that while working full time too. My house is a wreck and I'm home way more than you! I want to take pictures to share on FB (cause this is a VERY nice house for base housing!) but it's never clean enough for pictures. Ever. If fact I don't like FaceTiming my mom because of how messy it is. Blum 3

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Cleaning and cooking occasionally isn't a lot of work and washing *his* uniforms isn't helpful. Who gives a **** what the world thinks. What matters is what you think and what Ronin and your DH think. If your DH thinks you don't do enough or are a bad wife then he's bat **** crazy and YOU deserve better. He and Ronin would both starve to death without you.

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At the rate I am going this morning Ronin will starve to detah at day care today because I still haven't got up off my fat bum to makes lunches.

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I'm glad you got your nap, Jackie. Your DH is on my **** list today too. They need a collective smacking.

I think I'm going to go home and take pictures of my mess so that you too can see what a disaster we live in 90% of the time. Perhaps seeing my mess will make you feel better about your messes.

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I like expletives today, apparently.

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Erin is saying naughty words, umah. Blum 3

I take very closely cropped photos so no one sees my mess. I pass it off as Ronin being the star of the photo

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I think I used too small a container to mash my egg for sandwhiches today. Oh well I'll make it work, they might just be chunky.

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"TiggersMommy" wrote:

I like expletives today, apparently.

I noticed. ROFL

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disastrous houses, now here's a subject I know A LOT about!!! I had a friend stop by today to bring me a toy her DD had outgrown so she gave it to Clara. I ran outside to meet her in the driveway because the thought of letting anyone in my house right now makes me want to vomit. Seriously, I'm just going to bite the bullet and take a picture of this pit and you can all see just what slobs I live with Smile and yes, I'm pregnant but really at this point, it's a non issue, past the 1st trimester exhaustion and not to the waddling 3rd trimester yet so while I use this pregnancy as an excuse to DH it really isn't.

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Our church pastor and his wife are bringing us dinner as I type this. DH cleaned the house today for that reason. It's the only reason we aren't tripping over toys and looking like borderline hoarders today. Maybe I should talk a picture so that I in a day or two I can remember what my house looks like when it's mostly cleaned up.

I'm glad you got your nap, Jackie. You totally deserve it. And I say use the 'emotional' (tears included) as much as you need to!

Wendy, your DH can shut up about the condition of your house! When he gets a driver's license and cleans his 'room of doom' then he can talk! Blum 3

Erin, bring the a$$ kicking! Sometimes the DH's need it! I know mine does from time to time. He's been good lately though.

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in all fairness I'm very busy shopping online today so I just don't have time to clean up for the little tornadoes to just destroy it all immediately anyway!

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my dog just ate a clump of hair, his I think... does that count as vacuuming?!

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"AnnaRO" wrote:

I know mine does from time to time. He's been good lately though.

I'm very happy to hear that Anna!

So, what are you getting for supper?!

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"momW" wrote:

my dog just ate a clump of hair, his I think... does that count as vacuuming?!

Sure!

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I'm very happy to hear that Anna!

So, what are you getting for supper?!

They are bringing us Mexican take-out from our favorite little Mexican joint!

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They are bringing us Mexican take-out from our favorite little Mexican joint!

Oh, for heaven's sake, now I'm craving Mexican!!! That sounds delicious!!!!

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That sounds good! And much better than the jarred alfredo sauce with pasta DS and I ate for dinner. DH is at a mansion with a private lake for dinner. It's some sort of rich guy in town who says he supports the military and hosts an annual dinner. DS and I were invited to join him, but after yesterday's ordeal and me feeling like crap I decided no way no how am I dressing up (cause it's a nice dinner of course) and dragging DS and I out. Curious what DH ends up eating though.

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Oh I saw a new episode of Thomas today (stupid Sprout channel) and OMG it's awful! Told DS to enjoy it because he's never watching it again.

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I've never actually seen Thomas on tv, I've read a couple of Thomas books to DS and played with Thomas toys but we've just never seen it, new or old.

I'm thinking about ordering in for supper. it's after 6pm here and I have nothing made, no ideas and DD1 is with her friends so I have no help either.

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If people actually delivered to the base I would have been doing delivery a lot recently. lol

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It was good! A smidge cold because she got lost on the way over, but still good.

I've never seen Thomas either so all this talk about new Thomas and old Thomas is beyond me. I have discovered that Lyla likes Yo Gabba Gabba (or whatever it's called) on Nickjr.

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My little sister was addicted to Thomas at one point; that's the only reason I know anything about the older stuff. lol

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Thomas is one of the only shows Lucas will actually watch. He also likes role play. that show can be pretty hilarious sometimes though.

yo gabba gabba, caillou, and backyardigans drive me nuts lol

and wth with the men?? Wendy, you are NOT a bad wife/mom don't let anyone make you think that! eff them!! DH is pretty good for the most part, i still feel like i do a bit more then him, and i get annoyed when Lucas is clinging to me screaming while he plays video games but he does help. i just wish he had a little more patience. I also don't like when he says stuff like he comes home to relax or needs a day off without Lucas for a break. wtf, where is my break?:p

Speaking of, since the moment we got home he has been screaming all night:rolleyes: From getting home until he went to bed we probably had about 20 minutes of silence...ugh, i really don't like this phase. Everything is a total meltdown

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"janijanis" wrote:

yo gabba gabba, caillou, and backyardigans drive me nuts lol

We don't watch those at all!

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oh, so you don't have the pleasure of hearing this theme song?:p

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aCKqZD1-ITU

we don't watch it either, but sometimes it is on in the background if we are in the other room. i hate the song!!! lol

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I avoid them b/c they all creep me out. If I'm not willing to watch it then Aiden doesn't get to see it. Most of the TV he does get is with me in my lap.

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ahh he actually sits in your lap? i can't get him to sit with me unless he is sick or he is having milk

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Wendy, I am sorry your DH is being so frustrating. And you are not a bad mom or wife, I think you are a super mom. I also work full time and every time I read your posts you are either just done doing something or just about to do something and I always wonder how on earth you do so much on top of working. I am lucky that my DH is great about helping out-he probably does more to keep the house clean than I do. If he wasn't willing to help out, I just wouldn't do it-I do the cooking, and grocery shopping and that is about all I do on a regular basis. Cleaning and laundry get done by him or else when I get to it which would not be very often. And bad things would happen if my DH wasn't willing to help out and expected to have tons of relaxation time when I wasn't getting much. Have you ever kept a chart of exactly what was done by each of you every day for a week and how much time each of you got to have as "me time" each day, I don't know if that would make any difference to him but I sure would be tempted if I were in your shoes.

Anna, the Mexican food sounds good, that's nice that they brought dinner over for you!

Isabelle has had a cold for like 2 weeks, I thought it might be getting better but tonight she had a fever when I got home from work. And she gave it to me as well so we are both coughing and I sound like a frog with my hoarse throat.

We don't really watch TV but Isabelle will come sit on my lap to read books. She also will climb on my lap if she sees me trying to read one of my books and will try to pull it away until I give her my full attention, lol!

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"janijanis" wrote:

ahh he actually sits in your lap? i can't get him to sit with me unless he is sick or he is having milk

He zones out to Sesame Street and prefers to watch it on me or beside me. It's about the only time he's still. lol

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Isabelle has had a cold for like 2 weeks, I thought it might be getting better but tonight she had a fever when I got home from work. And she gave it to me as well so we are both coughing and I sound like a frog with my hoarse throat.

We don't really watch TV but Isabelle will come sit on my lap to read books. She also will climb on my lap if she sees me trying to read one of my books and will try to pull it away until I give her my full attention, lol!

I hope y'all are both feeling better soon! Aiden still has a running nose from the sickness that struck us a couple of weeks ago.

And that's super cute! Aiden picks out books and sits in our laps before naps and bed. But won't let us read to him any other time right now. lol

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