Wwyd?

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ange84's picture
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Wwyd?

So I have been thinking seeing as ttc is on the cards what I should do about early antenatal care. I have to see the gp for the first twenty weeks which is a pain because it's a waste of money, nearly fifty dollars an appointment. Anyway the last gp I saw routinely sends women for an eight week viability ultrasound, all well and good I don't mind, but I may not get him again as he is super busy and i wasn't overly happy with his level of care last time. However that ultrasound may be to my advantage this time if i lie and say I am not sure how far along I am as when I had it last time Ronin measured a bit smaller than my due date put me at so the ultrasound Edd was three to four days later than my lmp Edd, but the gp doesn't change it unless it's over a week out. If thats the case this time that's an extra few days it buys me in the vbac fight. So my question is would you lie and say you didn't know when your lmp was ( still nursing so it's plausible to have erratic cycles) or not.

I also won't see a midwife or ob until after twenty weeks so won't know until then how supportive the obs are of vbacs, the midwives should be no issue all the ones I have spoken to at various times have been supportive.

redneckgirl82884's picture
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You know, I probably would lie about it. You'll know what your EDD is and can always go off that, but with the way your healthcare works, I'd lie about it.

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Not only would I lie, I did lie with Teagan. I fully expected to go super late with her so I lied by 5 days. I figured 5 days would give me enough time to stay at the BC (they risk you out at a pathetic 41 weeks) and wouldn't be tooooo obvious if they gave me a dating u/s. I never had a dating u/s and they just went with my date. Don't tell them you don't know when your LMP was, just tell them a day further in the future. Worked out great for me but Teagan was only 37+5 according to the date I gave them. If she'd come earlier I would have risked out in the opposite direction. Just be aware of that possibility. Having a "preemie" adds a whole other level of intervention.

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Yeah, it's risky if you go early so I wouldn't do it by too many days.

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I wouldn't say that I didn't know, I would lie though to give you an extra 3 or 4 days. I am so excited for you to TTC!! Ronin is going to be an amazing big brother!

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I would just pad the date by a few days. Like the others said, you don't want to go to far & risk being termed a premie.

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Also in agreement here. Try to pad it by just the right amount of days. Yay for TTC!!!!

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aMy local hospital has no services for a Prem really so that could be a concern, especially as Ronin. Was smaller anyway. Not sure how good a big brother he will be though Anna, he is very jealous and possesive of his Mummy and hates when other kids are around me, and when i held a new baby the other day he looked ready to rip it's head off

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I would and have lied too. I went with the not sure thing for Archer and doctor #1 was lame and dated me by LMP which put my EDD 2 weeks early. I know when I O'd and had a really long cycle. So when I saw doctor #2 I lied and added a week to my LMP which put me closer to my EDD and gave me enough of a buffer in case I went over. No one questioned a thing and since it was past 20 weeks they never did any dating or size u/s which I would have refused regardless.

So Archer was born at 38w5d according to me, 39w6 according to doctor #2, and 40w4d according to doctor #1. LOL

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"ange84" wrote:

aMy local hospital has no services for a Prem really so that could be a concern, especially as Ronin. Was smaller anyway. Not sure how good a big brother he will be though Anna, he is very jealous and possesive of his Mummy and hates when other kids are around me, and when i held a new baby the other day he looked ready to rip it's head off

DD1 cried when I first held a friend's baby, and she's a fabulous big sister. It's different when it's their own sibling. Not saying he won't be the jealous type, because you just never know, but there's going to be lots of love and kisses there, too.

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I would have no problem telling a lie about this, I agree to make sure you don't add too many days so as to run into a problem with the baby being labeled a premie.

I think some jealousy at that age is pretty normal. I was 2 1/2 when my brother was born- my mom told me that one time I didn't want her to hold him and she told me she had an arm for each of us so I could share. I responded "I'm not a sharing girl" lol! I did learn to share, however Smile