One thing that has helped some friends of mine, more in the realm of natural healing than a religious/spiritual sense, is to detoxify the body.
I would recommend that you take a month or two off from TTC to do this though, so your system can fully flush itself BEFORE conception.
Natural food stores sell various detoxification kits, but one of the simplest is to switch to raw organic fruits and vegetables... great for weight loss too.
I recommend that you do it gradually, cutting back on meats and processed (baked goods etc.) foods over 2 weeks then take 2 weeks of almost exculsively raw food, then 2 weeks to reintroduce your normal diet. If you do it too fast your system will kind of rebel.
This can be kind of difficult and expensive this time of year though, so you might decide to wait on it until summer.
I know it sounds a little bizarre, but I swear I had two friends that concieved with 3 cycles of doing this, after years of trying with no success.
The herb pouches ~ What a wonderful idea!!! One I've heard of before, I've also heard of instances where a couple will make the pouches together, do a small ritual (nothing "set in stone" just a simple ritual) and then put the pouches under their matress on each side of the bed and leave it there until they concieve. Then once they've concieved they do a blessing and protection ritual and put the pouches under the babies matress ~ if you co-sleep just put them back under your matress. I thought that was a neat idea.
False Unicorn root is a very powerful herb, it's WONDERFUL for fertility however it's also very rare and beginning to become less and less available. So I would only use it if it's your last choice. So i would porpably go w/ the Dong Quai ~ if you take it orally start out w/ a small dose & gradually increase, that way you'll know if you have any reactions to it. So far I've not met anyone who has though, so you should be okay One side not of caution, you don't want to take this herb while on your period as it can stimulate af .. Something I do while on af is I discontinue all supps that I'm on while on af, on the exception of my pre-natal. This will allow your body to fully cleanse itself while on af & then once you've ended begin your supps as per usual.
Ylang Ylang is a great oil to burn if your looking for an aphrodisiac. I love the smell too ~ Lavendar for me is too relaxing to be an aphridisiac, so you may want to try burning some lavendar inscense before you use it for anything to see how your body reacts to it. I've also used Jasmine and found no effect, however that's not to say that it wont affect you
I think Calendula is a great choice!!! It's a wonderful flower/herb and if it's calling you to as one to use I would deffinatley call upon it for help.
I also like your choice of the Saw Palmatto Berry for your husband. DO you know if he has any specific problems assciated w/ his productive glands? There are a lot of herbs out there that are great for men and fertilty. But if your looking for just an over all fertility booster then I think you've picked a great herb.
Teegs ~ no it doesn't sound silly at all!!! It's a wonderful idea. Although one needs to be very careful while going through a detox and they need to not be doing much while their on it as it takes a lot of energy from the body, both physically & spiritually. I've done many detoxes and have found great benefits from them, but they also need to be approached w/ caution and a full understanding of what that particular detox does.
It sounds like you've done a few yourself? What have your experiences w/ detoxing been? I've heard A LOT of neat things about the raw diet, not something I could do 100% of the time though lol From what little I do know there are some great benefits to it. Even for just a detox or short term.
Wow what a wonderfull book of knowledge you all are. Thanks for the info on Aphrodisiacs. I think I will try the Ylang Ylang as I also find Lavander too relaxing. Plus it reminds me of my grandmothers perfume, LOL. Not much of an aphrodisiac there. My DH dosn't have any reproductive problems that I am aware of, I just liked the idea of making him a herb pouch that would stimulate fertility as well as being an Aphrodisiac. I am also going to look more into the Calendula as I don't know much about it. As for doing a cleansing, I usually do one twice a year but I am still Bfeeding and I am not too sure how safe a cleansing is while BFeeding so that may have to wait, but Great advice . Thanks a bunch ladies! I also picked up Scott Cunningham's Encyclopidia of Herbs. I love his books so far so I thought I would check this one out too. Anyways thanks again
A huge LOL about Lavendar and your grandmother .. I LOVE lavendar, I burn a few sticks a day to have the smell in my house. Although I only like this certain brand, the others I've tried were horrible smelling lol.
Ya wanna know what else smells HEAVENLY? Cinnamon vanilla candles but that was OT
VERY neat about S.C's book ~ I have it somewhere in a box in my garage (moving sucks what can I say lol) There are sooo many wonderful herb books out there .. You'll have to let me know how you like it
Have you ever tried http://www.half.com? I worship that place ~ deff. somewhere to look to get books and all kinds of things for SUPER cheap.
Okay ~ back to herbs ~
Have you ever heard of Fertlity Blend for men and women? It's expensive but worth taking, it's also cheaper to take it this way than to buy specific herbs when taking them orally.
Sorry it has taken me so long to respond. This is from the book Casting the Circle: A Women's Book of Ritual by Diane Stein.
"This is a ritual for a woman who is pregnant or who wants to ask for conception/fertility. The woman has chosen the rite of passage of motherhood, and the circle validates the great changes coming to her life as a result of her decision. The ritual can also be adapted to other forms of creation - the beginning of writing a book, the recording of a music tape, the start of a business or career. To do this, the baby symbols are changed for those meaningful to the woman and occasion.
For a pregnancy ritual, decorate the altar with baby toys, bottles, diapers and baby clothes. If there are gifts for the mother, place them on or around the altar, and put a bowl of colored eggs on the altar as well. Use pastel candles and flowers, and a baby rattle to purify. As another way to decorate, try a birth/rebirth theme with baby photos of the women in the circle, photos of foremothers/ancestors, and candles in red, white and back (birth, death and reincarnation). Use a feather to case the circle, and a bowl of eggs that are red or white.
Put a malachite pendant or shaped gemstone on the altar as a gift for the mother; it hastens labor and is not to be worn until labor begins. Or use aquamarine or emerald to prevent miscarriage, carnalian or orange/red coral to stimulate conception, or age to help morning sickness.
Pastel flowers and candles on the altar (or in rebirth theme,use read and white flowers; red, white and black candles)
Incense - Purify by shaking a baby rattle around the women's auras (or in rebirth theme, use sage or myrtlewood incense for immortality.)
Baby toys, diapers, bottles, baby things on the altar. (Or use photos of the woman as babies, photos of foremothers)
Bowl of multi-colored hard boiled eggs
Pendant or gemstone for baby - Malachite or other choice
Gifts for mother and baby, if any, are on and around the altar.
Invocation/Poem -use the following or choose others
Comfortable chair in center of circle for the mother to be.
After ritual foods or potluck dinner contributions.
Matches to light candles and incense, charcoal block for loose incense, ritiual wand (or use feather to cast the circle.)
Purify - with baby rattle or incense.
Cast circle/Invoke mother and child Goddesses. Use ritual wand or feather to cast the circle.
Earth - Oddudua, Mother of the Goddesses (Africa
Air - Lilith, who makes children laugh in their sleep (Hebrew)
Fire - Parvati, Mother Goddess (India)
Water - Isis, Mother Goddess (Egypt, Africa, Greece)
Spirit - Demeter, Earth Mother, mother of us all (Greece)
Invocation - The mother to be sits in the chair at the center of the circle. High priestess says:
"We are here to honor (name) who will be a mother. As she makes the passage through pregnancy and labor, she becomes the Mother Goddess and her life will change forever. no more the Maiden, and the mature lover, she takes on the care of another life with her own. We are here today to invoke the Goddess in wishing (name) as safe birth, a strong child, and happiness in motherhood."
Creation Poem by Monica Sjoo
The most holy one created the world like an embryo, as
an embryo grows from the navel, so she began to create
the world by the navel, and from there it spread, grew,
multiplied in all directions....and she was both seed and
flower, both primordial and final. The first vibrations of
the egg of the world which unfold to the edges of the
universe are both expanding and contracting, emerging
from the source and pulsing outward to disappear into a
spherical vortex. The still center (the heart) is the axis of
creation - the universal continuum perpetually un-
folds, pulses outward, contracts - perpetually spinning
through it's own center.
Meditation - The high priestess leads the women in a meditation on pregnancy and birth. Watch the egg divide, become the fetus, and grow inside the womb. The fetus develops and becomes a child. She is born, grows into yourself, grows up. The cycle starts again with a child in the womb of the mother-to-be. Ask the child for a message, send her blessings and love. Wish her well in her beginnings and come back to now.
Body of ritual - The high priestess takes the malachite gemstone from the altar, passing it clockwise around the circle. Each woman who holds it puts three blessings in it:
For easy childbirth
For the mother
For the baby
The malachite is given to the mother, but not to be worn or held until she is in labor. Other stones - emerald, aquamarine, agate - can be worn throughout the pregnancy.
Go around the circle again. Each woman shares he own stories of birth or stories from their mothers. Make them positive ones. Share remedies for morning sickness, easy delivery, tips on newborn care, etc.
If the mother-to-be agrees, the women together put their hands on healing and blessing on the pregnant woman's abdomen. Do Reiki, touch healing, polarity healing (gentle touch only) for several minutes, offering blessings and well beings to the woman and the child inside.
Pass around the dyed hard boiled eggs. Each woman takes one as a symbol of fertility, birth, creation and reincarnation.
Raise energy - Use the sound of the baby rattle, chants or songs to raise the cone of power. The women visualize a safe and easy delivery, a healthy baby and a smiling mother. Direct the energy to these things manifesting.
Ground. Send excess energy into the earth for healing and new growth.
Present gifts to mother to be.
Have a pot luck dinner, after-ritual celebration or food sharing."
I don't think this is exactly the information you were looking for, but I hope it helps!
Actually this is exsactly what i am looking for. It sounds like a beautiful ritual. I was just, also interested in herbs for fertility as well. Thank you so much for sharing If you don't mind i may also share this with others. Thanks a bunch