Does your child dress himself/herself?

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capricornchrissy's picture
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Does your child dress himself/herself?

Because Adrian refuses and it drives me crazy. I have tried offering rewards, giving consequences, telling him he can't go outside to play until he dresses himself. Nothing works or it works only when he feels like doing it. Sometimes he will take off his own clothes and sometimes not. He rarely even tries to put his clothes on. He says he wants me to do it. I am tired of fighting with him about it, but DH says he needs to be dressing himself and that I baby him. I'm wondering if most kids his age are doing this for themselves. Thoughts?

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Sam does but I think I have turned her into a little fashionista, she loves to try on clothes and will wear multiple outfits a day!

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Mieka dresses herself, for the most part. She has had a real interest in it though for a long time, lol Smile She can do all the different parts of getting dressed, but sometimes fights it with daddy for some reason.....

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I definitely find it to be a boy/girl thing. Shai and Benny both resisted getting dressed long after they were able to. Julia, on the other hand, was dressing herself by 18 months.

For Benny, I made an incentive chart. Each article of clothing is a separate box - underpants, undershirt, shirt, pants, shoes, yarmulka/cap. (There is no box for socks so the shoe one really just means shoes or socks.) If he puts on that piece of clothing by himself he gets a check. The last box on the chart has a specific prize in it. Once the whole chart is full, he gets that prize. It took 4 full weeks of charts for him to get that dressing himself is non-negotiable. And I still have to coax him almost every day. It's one of my frustrations almost every day.

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Harlee does not dress herself. She can, for the most part, undress herself (she struggles with tighter shirts). She also resists dressing herself, except for putting on underwear and socks. I'm going to start soon just laying her clothes out and telling her to get dressed while I do and see what happens.

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Brandon dresses himself and has been since around 2? Sometimes he needs help but he's getting much better with buttons and other closures. He also likes to wear multiple outfits so we keep a lock on his closet. He is totally going through the "I do it myself" stage right now though.

There's lots of other things he won't do though, like wipe himself, or sometimes he refuses to feed himself. He does love to dress up though.

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Madi dresses herself but occasionally she comes out with things on backward. She can work zippers but not buttons/snaps. She also has trouble putting on her tennis shoes though she knows which shoe goes on which foot. Dressing is still a work in progress I guess, lol.

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Eliza has been able to dress herself for some time. But, the problem with that is that she often refuses to cooperate with what I want her to wear. She loves to wear her long underwear all day long and/or her one-piece fleece jammies. Or a pretty summer dress when it is 30 degrees outside! I have a rule. Clothing has to be clean and weather appropriate before we leave the house. So, she often goes to preschool in the long underwear or the jammies. Sigh. But, hey, at least it is not a battle. Because it would be a battle if I tried to get her to wear something different.

Both my girls have been very opinionated about clothing since they were babies. Neither would wear a bib or anything in her hair. Stinkers!

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Sometimes... she actually just began being somewhat interested in picking out her own clothes and getting dressed herself. A lot of times I offer to choose out her clothes or give her a choice to do it herself and she always chose me to do it. Lately, more often she has been choosing to do it herself. She still gets frustrated with socks and can't work zippers and buttons on jeans though. She has been getting undressed for quite some time but the getting dressed part has is just beginning for us.

And on days where she wants me to get her dressed and pick out her clothes, I just do it. Sometimes, she changes her mind before I get her dressed too.

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Brady knows how to dress himself, and can do it by himself, he just doesn't want to do it all the time! I would say he dresses himself about 1/2 the time. There are days (like today) where he will sit in his jammies until lunch time.

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Eva's been learning for some time, but still needs a bit of help. She doesn't do buttons yet, but now that you mention it Lenora, I want to try teaching her that next.

Lately I've been emphasizing (sp?) that she should learn to do them all herself since she's a big girl and going to be 4 this year, and she usually does go along with it and and tries, and sometimes will say "I'm going to do it myself" etc. She can do most of it herself, when she wants to.

I have showed her how to more easily pull up her undies & pants by sliding a thumb/finger along the inside edge of the elastic, to keep it from rolling up, so that's made it easier for her with undies & pants. I just have to remind her as she's doing it--"grab the top edge...use your thumb to slide it along"....lol

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For the most part Ethan does...not always correctly, but he tries.

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Caitlin loves to dress herself....actually too much. She will want to change several times a day, and she always picks out the same outfits. I have to try and hide particular items from her. She does have issues with buttons, I should probably start working with her more on that.

She is very particular in what she wears, she will reject something just because I picked it out....she sometimes drives me crazy with all of this.

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Thanks... maybe one of these days Adrian will reach that "I'll do it myself" stage. For the most part, he is stuck in the "mommy do it" stage. :rolleyes:

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"Jaxie" wrote:

Sometimes... she actually just began being somewhat interested in picking out her own clothes and getting dressed herself. A lot of times I offer to choose out her clothes or give her a choice to do it herself and she always chose me to do it. Lately, more often she has been choosing to do it herself. She still gets frustrated with socks and can't work zippers and buttons on jeans though. She has been getting undressed for quite some time but the getting dressed part has is just beginning for us.

And on days where she wants me to get her dressed and pick out her clothes, I just do it. Sometimes, she changes her mind before I get her dressed too.

This is exactly how it is at our house, too. Except he can put on his socks, but gets really frustrated with shirts. I can literally hear him huffing and puffing, & having a tantrum when he can't get his shirt on. I have to constantly remind him that he can calmly come to me and ask for help.

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"jcali" wrote:

This is exactly how it is at our house, too. Except he can put on his socks, but gets really frustrated with shirts. I can literally hear him huffing and puffing, & having a tantrum when he can't get his shirt on. I have to constantly remind him that he can calmly come to me and ask for help.

This was Madi a few months ago (except I don't think she was putting a whole lot of effort into it in the first place). But somewhere along the line she just started doing it on her own and I'm not even sure when that was. It has made our mornings much more peaceful though!

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Claire dresses herself and loves to change her outfits. On laundry day if I don't put laundry away immediately she will change her entire outfit 3 or 4 times in one day. Most of the time she picks out her own clothes, or will sometimes agree to wear something I pick out. She loves "twirly dresses" and wears them over her regular outfits (ie: shirt and jeans with a dress over). She looks ridiculous but it's not worth the battle and I honestly don't even notice any more. I also follow the "clean and weather appropriate" rule for leaving the house; otherwise what she wears is pretty much a non issue.

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Zander has been dressing himself for quite a while now. He typically wants nothing to do with me or anyone else helping him. He is obsessed with tags so that helps him get all of his clothes on right because he knows that tags go in the back.