Because Adrian refuses and it drives me crazy. I have tried offering rewards, giving consequences, telling him he can't go outside to play until he dresses himself. Nothing works or it works only when he feels like doing it. Sometimes he will take off his own clothes and sometimes not. He rarely even tries to put his clothes on. He says he wants me to do it. I am tired of fighting with him about it, but DH says he needs to be dressing himself and that I baby him. I'm wondering if most kids his age are doing this for themselves. Thoughts?
Adrian - 4 years
Mila - 20 months
Mieka dresses herself, for the most part. She has had a real interest in it though for a long time, lol She can do all the different parts of getting dressed, but sometimes fights it with daddy for some reason.....
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I definitely find it to be a boy/girl thing. Shai and Benny both resisted getting dressed long after they were able to. Julia, on the other hand, was dressing herself by 18 months.
For Benny, I made an incentive chart. Each article of clothing is a separate box - underpants, undershirt, shirt, pants, shoes, yarmulka/cap. (There is no box for socks so the shoe one really just means shoes or socks.) If he puts on that piece of clothing by himself he gets a check. The last box on the chart has a specific prize in it. Once the whole chart is full, he gets that prize. It took 4 full weeks of charts for him to get that dressing himself is non-negotiable. And I still have to coax him almost every day. It's one of my frustrations almost every day.
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Harlee does not dress herself. She can, for the most part, undress herself (she struggles with tighter shirts). She also resists dressing herself, except for putting on underwear and socks. I'm going to start soon just laying her clothes out and telling her to get dressed while I do and see what happens.
Brandon dresses himself and has been since around 2? Sometimes he needs help but he's getting much better with buttons and other closures. He also likes to wear multiple outfits so we keep a lock on his closet. He is totally going through the "I do it myself" stage right now though.
There's lots of other things he won't do though, like wipe himself, or sometimes he refuses to feed himself. He does love to dress up though.
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Eliza has been able to dress herself for some time. But, the problem with that is that she often refuses to cooperate with what I want her to wear. She loves to wear her long underwear all day long and/or her one-piece fleece jammies. Or a pretty summer dress when it is 30 degrees outside! I have a rule. Clothing has to be clean and weather appropriate before we leave the house. So, she often goes to preschool in the long underwear or the jammies. Sigh. But, hey, at least it is not a battle. Because it would be a battle if I tried to get her to wear something different.
Both my girls have been very opinionated about clothing since they were babies. Neither would wear a bib or anything in her hair. Stinkers!
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Sometimes... she actually just began being somewhat interested in picking out her own clothes and getting dressed herself. A lot of times I offer to choose out her clothes or give her a choice to do it herself and she always chose me to do it. Lately, more often she has been choosing to do it herself. She still gets frustrated with socks and can't work zippers and buttons on jeans though. She has been getting undressed for quite some time but the getting dressed part has is just beginning for us.
And on days where she wants me to get her dressed and pick out her clothes, I just do it. Sometimes, she changes her mind before I get her dressed too.
Brady knows how to dress himself, and can do it by himself, he just doesn't want to do it all the time! I would say he dresses himself about 1/2 the time. There are days (like today) where he will sit in his jammies until lunch time.