I don't know how to do this, but I think also not making Brandon your whole universe is a good idea. My mil made dh her whole universe when he was a baby and when his sister arrived (he was 2) he did not like her at all. He did not like sharing his mom, he fought with his mom whenever she tried to care for the baby. He was the center of her world for those two years and he did not like the surprise.
Not saying you are doing this, but I just wanted to share.
I tried to make sure Paulina was loved and attached (she still coslept until Eliza was born when she was 4) but not the center of my universe. She was in preschool and had playdates and did daddy dates. I think that helped a lot, too. So, she had a bit of independence from me, while we were still very much attached.
Holly and Esti have great advice!
Mama to Eliza and big sis Paulina
I understand exactly what you are going through!! Brooke was fantastic during my pregnancy, she was amazing with everything, but now that we're 6 going on 7months into Sophie being here, things are starting to change. Brooke is having a hard time sleeping at night, and is up more than the baby. She's starting to have accidents again, and her volume control is near null and void. I don't know if it's because she's been couped all winter and she's gone a bit stir crazy or if this is her way of showing her jealousy; but it really sucks. She's really good w Sophie, tho we have to explain, she's a real baby with real needs and not a doll that you can toss around and forget about... but she's really loving and likes to help & play w her... But Brooke SCREAMS all the time; and it's a screechy kinda scream. Like if she wants milk, she screams it. If she wants a different tv show on, she screams it. Or if she's walking around the house she'll sing/scream opera (lol) and it DRIVES ME CRAZY! She does it all the time, and no matter what we do to make her stop, it makes it worse. I don't know if she just wants the attention or what... but I've got no idea how to make her stop!!
Bah, I'm totally hijacking your thread! Sorry!! I kinda just wanted to let you know that I understand where you're coming from... tho I might have scared you thinking of the possibility of what's to come!! LOL!!