DH vent- Who's with me?!

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DH vent- Who's with me?!

Lets here them ladies. I know its not just me that gets irked by DH lately, so spill it!!

Mine- was supposed to watch Tommy so I can go to this going away brunch tomorrow- followed by a walk around the Reagan Library which is here in town- Nope!! Long long story but the just of it he broke the ford truck last weekend and had to drive 8 hours today to fix it and bring it home. needless to say more than 1 thing broke and he had to have a friend make the 8 hour drive to drop off parts. So he should be home by- oh 5 am tomorrow! Seriously? I rarely rarely go out and this is one reason. And then he wants to know why I am mad?! lord help me.

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I have one of those that seem to get lost and then leave the phone in the car so no one can get ahold of me at 1am to find out where I am.... yyeeaahh..
My husband ate a Reese's pnut butter cup and sat the wrapper on the end table next to where he was sitting... 4 DAYS AGO! I finally picked it up this morning because it was on the floor...
Also, not sure if anyone else has this aggravating problem but mine doesn't seem to know where the dishwasher is. He always puts his dishes, glasses, silverware next to the sink. THE DISHWASHER IS APPROXIMATELY 12 INCHES FROM WHERE HE SITS IT! Oh, and God forbid he rinse anything off... always have to get the industrial scrubber out to get the crap off!
Yeah, and he NEVER watches Noah so I can do something by myself... I take him EVERYWHERE with me... irritates me if I just need to run into the store to grab a few things... don't get me wrong... I looooooooove my little man but a few minutes alone at the grocery store without someone wanting something other than what I intended to buy would be a small slice of paradise sometimes...

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Ok so Im pretty lucky, Because mine does A LOT around the house and spends SO much time with the kids....
BUT I DO HAVE SOME PET PEEVES......
He never puts a new roll on the toilet roll holder although there are always some in the holder next to the toilet, so you dont even have to get up!!!....AND the empty one he takes off the holder somehow only makes it to sitting on top of the rubbish bin, although THAT TOO is right next the toliet, AGAIN no need to even get up!!!
He complains almost every night about how much rubbish our small family makes....UMMM we are now a family of 5!!! and rubbish just goes with the territory....ANd always goes on about how come nobody can either get the rubbish IN the bin OR empty it...BECAUSE THE BIN EMPTYING IS HIS JOB hahahahaha.....
THEN when he is doing the dishes after dinner (yes like I said hes very good in a lot of areas, its our deal, I cook dinner, he cleans up dinner) He ALWAYS complains about how many dishes there are!!!! DO YOU WANT TO COOK DINNER YOURSELF MALE?????.....I always used to reply with a break down of how you need the pots/pans for each part of the meal....NOW I just say, DONT QUESTION ME MALE!!!!....Or I will cook for us and not you!!! HAHAHAHA....Im so mean...
OHHHH and then when hes stacking the dishwasher, he complains about where things have been put...(My daugthers job is to empty and stack it after school) So I just told her last Friday that if hes going to complain, he can do the lot himself....so for the last few days, hes had to do the LOT.....Males learn the hard way hehehehehe......

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I relate on both of your vents! DH always puts things in the sink. dishwasher is literally right there!!! And TP- geez. He uses the last bits and leave the empty roll- so no throwing it away or putting on a new one. Lordy! Dh does do better the older tommy gets but man, things are common sense. Men- you have to literally hand hold them sometimes!

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I have to say my DH is pretty awesome. He gets up with the kids at 530/6 and lets me sleep until he leaves for work at 630. I usually get to sleep in on the weekends too. He helps out a lot with the kitchen cleaning, not much for other cleaning but I'll take it Smile He is also willing to take the boys whenever for me- like tonight he's going to take them to the park when he gets home from work so I can get some cleaning done and make supper. I really hate cleaning during the day with the boys. They just don't allow me to. He's just an awesome husband and Daddy.

I definitely have some pet-peeves though! He likes to leave dirty diapers lying on the floor, leaves dirty clothes in the bathroom, throws his dirty clothes on the floor next to our bed, puts garbage in the sink sometimes, and leaves receipts everywhere. WTF? I dunno, this stuff bugs me, but that's just the way he is and I'm used to it Smile

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I think they are always things about our hubbies that will never change!
Mine yes, will often, leave his dirty clothes RIGHT next to the basket. Seriously? We joke about it often and it's really not a huge deal to me though. He also lets a pile of half-dirty stuff collect on top of his dresser so that eventually it's a mound so tall it almost reaches the ceiling. I kid, I kid, but it gets REALLY tall sometimes.
DH rarely ever does the dishes and when he does I usually have to fix everything because he put it in the dishwasher wrong. But I never complain about it; I'm just happy he does it.
He also never cooks dinner for us. A small annoyance for me. Even when he is making something for himself he never asks if we want any. He really almost always expects me to cook for him unless it's leftovers. Oh and I don't love cooking either.
He also doesn't help me with putting the kids to bed at all. I've talked to him about this some and usually he says it's because he really doesn't like doing it and he's usually busy doing something else and is already unwinding for the night. He doesn't do baths either.

One thing he's really good about though is taking the kids for me. Sometimes he takes them to the park in the evening and he will always let me run errands on Saturday without them. He's very open to me taking girls nights as well. I can be thankful for that!
And the only room he leaves messy is the bedroom. He doesn't clutter up the rest of the house with his junk, mostly because he likes to keep the couches free to sit on.

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"KatieWillis" wrote:

I have to say my DH is pretty awesome. He gets up with the kids at 530/6 and lets me sleep until he leaves for work at 630. I usually get to sleep in on the weekends too. He helps out a lot with the kitchen cleaning, not much for other cleaning but I'll take it Smile He is also willing to take the boys whenever for me- like tonight he's going to take them to the park when he gets home from work so I can get some cleaning done and make supper. I really hate cleaning during the day with the boys. They just don't allow me to. He's just an awesome husband and Daddy.

I definitely have some pet-peeves though! He likes to leave dirty diapers lying on the floor, leaves dirty clothes in the bathroom, throws his dirty clothes on the floor next to our bed, puts garbage in the sink sometimes, and leaves receipts everywhere. WTF? I dunno, this stuff bugs me, but that's just the way he is and I'm used to it Smile

HE CHANGES DIAPERS??? I work part time and when I get home, Noah nearly ALWAYS has a poopy diaper on. When I question him about it he says, "Well, if you weren't home in the next couple of minutes I was gonna change it" What the duece? How long has he been sitting in poop???

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I think they are always things about our hubbies that will never change!
Mine yes, will often, leave his dirty clothes RIGHT next to the basket. Seriously? We joke about it often and it's really not a huge deal to me though. He also lets a pile of half-dirty stuff collect on top of his dresser so that eventually it's a mound so tall it almost reaches the ceiling. I kid, I kid, but it gets REALLY tall sometimes.
DH rarely ever does the dishes and when he does I usually have to fix everything because he put it in the dishwasher wrong. But I never complain about it; I'm just happy he does it.
He also never cooks dinner for us. A small annoyance for me. Even when he is making something for himself he never asks if we want any. He really almost always expects me to cook for him unless it's leftovers. Oh and I don't love cooking either.
He also doesn't help me with putting the kids to bed at all. I've talked to him about this some and usually he says it's because he really doesn't like doing it and he's usually busy doing something else and is already unwinding for the night. He doesn't do baths either.

One thing he's really good about though is taking the kids for me. Sometimes he takes them to the park in the evening and he will always let me run errands on Saturday without them. He's very open to me taking girls nights as well. I can be thankful for that!
And the only room he leaves messy is the bedroom. He doesn't clutter up the rest of the house with his junk, mostly because he likes to keep the couches free to sit on.

I would looooooooove to have a few hours (heck, even an hr!) to clean up the clutter from the day! My DH takes Noah outside when he gets home (in the summer) but it usually only lasts for a about 15 minutes... not much time to get anything done...

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Mine does diapers on a good day. If he is in charge of the kids, he takes responsibility, but if I'm around, he doesn't. Of course Noel is wearing underwear at home now so it's not a huge issue. But yeah, he's not the kind of dad who will just say "I'll change it!"

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OH DEAR I feel mean now....My man is actually really good (other than my pet peeves hahaha)

He changes nappies, always has....both wet and poopy ones hahaha...

.He does the bathing of the 2 boys, I somehow managed to get out of that, I think I used my bad back as an excuse right back when I had Liam hahahaha, but it was really bad back then I could hardly move....I still have got a bad back but..... NOT SO MUCH NOW HAHAHAHA!!!! Oh well Ill just keep going with the flow Smile He baths and I dress Smile Although while hes bathing im cleaning up the mess and vacuuming as its the only chance I get to do it....

He puts Liam to bed and I put Charlie to bed.....In the night if Liam wakes he gets up to him, I get up to Charlie, thats a deal we started up when Liam only wanted daddy if he woke in the night when he was about 2.....I just keep rolling with that one now too Smile WHO WOULDNT RIGHT!!!

AND in the weekends I pretty much get to sleep in Saturday and Sunday....Hes used to getting up at 6am so a sleep in to 7am is enough for him, once hes awake he doesnt go back to sleep....NOT LIKE ME!!!!....I do offer to let him stay in bed but he hardly ever takes me up on the offer....I know when he needs a sleep in, cos he doesnt budge when Liam turns up in our room, they are the mornings I get up and leave him to sleep....:) See I am nice SOME TIMES HAHAHAHAHA......

Weekends are a real break for me, the kids just hang out with him, doing man stuff.........I guess I got it pretty good right???

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Nat, that's how I am: We start habits for one reason or another and then when that reason goes away, why rock the boat? My DH has always cleaned out the cat's litter box because when we got our cat I was pregnant and couldn't do it. So it's his job now. I'm sure happy I don't have to do that!
He's also great about doing yard work/law mowing. He is anal about the grass getting too high so once the weeds start growing he has to cut it. And he loves getting out and weeding/raking etc. and will always help me with the grunt work while I do the planting.

He sometimes gets up with the kids but I usually can't sleep because our bedroom is right off the main room. It is really cute to listen to the dialogue though and what he gives the kids. Since M is so scheduled and likes things just so, he is always telling him what he is and isn't supposed to give him for breakfast.

Nat, sounds like you got yourself a great helper! My DH knows he needs to help more, but he has to want to do it because if I nag him he just gets mad at me...