Need help with LO biting

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baby_schultz2's picture
Joined: 02/24/12
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Need help with LO biting

My little one Cora has always bit her big sister... but it is getting really bad...
We have tried time out, sent to bed, making her say sorry(big task for her), tapping her mouth....
We are so lost on what to do... nothing bothers her other then us yelling stop at her... but i am so tired of yelling...

any help would be great... but please not hate or talk about we have tried...

thank you

Ladybugsteph's picture
Joined: 06/21/06
Posts: 2971

Sometimes punishment isn't enough, and only time will correct it. Sad When Carson (4) was 2.5-3, he was a hitter/pusher/shover. I swear I tried everything with him and he would still do it. Then, one day, I just noticed that he had pretty much stopped (though he still does occasionally, but not a problem like it was).

I just kept on him every time he did it. Maybe he just needed to hear it a thousand times before it finally sunk in? I don't know. All I know is that like with most other things, it's a phase and, most likely, it's going to go away with time. But man, I know how frustrating it is to see and hear. Just keep being consistent with your punishments and it'll sink in eventually. (((HUGS)))

Joined: 01/25/02
Posts: 2023

I have a little biter and it is exasperating! He bites his twin brother ALL the time and sometimes bites my cousin's daughter that I watch a few times a week. He bites hard too, leaves some serious bruises. It is not fair to Wyatt, and we too have tried everything! We do time outs and saying sorry giving a hug, while emphasizing, "We hug our brother, not bite him" etc. I have even resorted to biting back, not that I like it, but I remember doing it with my younger siblings and they all turned out okay. Logically it makes no sense, "I will teach you not to bite by biting you" but when my other son has at least one bruise on his arm and back at ALL times, it is not fair either. Abram is a very verbal kid, he can tell you when he is frustrated etc, but he just gets mad when he wants something someone else has and such and he bites out of frustration. I cannot be there 24/7, it is impossible, and even when I am right there, I can not always stop it before it happens. I asked the ped for advice and she said sometimes ppl have had this work: Basically tell them they are not allowed to bite their brother and give them a stuffed animal or something and say, "You can bite this though". That went over like a fart in church for us. Anyhow, I had vented on the multiples board and one of my friends was lurking and offered to send me some dvds her son had outgrown. It is a Canadian show called, "Poko". The little boy is always getting frustrated with his dog doing something he doesn't want, or the dog not doing something he doesn't want to do, and the narrator talks to Poko about coping skills, like, "Does that make you want to yell and shout and make a loud noise?" And there is this little routine of "Breathe in, touch your ____ Breathe out, touch your toes" and such. We have only had it less than a week now, but as I see Abram getting frustrated and ready to lash (he hits and pushes too) I say, "uh-oh, When Poko is grumpy with Minas (or Midas, still not sure lol) does he bite him?" and we say together, "noooo" as we laugh, and talk about yelling and shouting and making a loud noise. So far this is really clicking for him, and I think as he gets a little older it will click even more.

So I don't know if you could get those, but maybe you could utilize the ideas anyhow. Biting is hard!

This is the show: http://www.amazon.com/Episodes-Volume-Volumen-Import-Latin-America/dp/B001EDZWK0/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1335970591&sr=8-1

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Joined: 04/24/07
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(((hugs)))

Dalton has bit a time or two.. when he was REALLY frustrated. I am so thankful it hasn't gotten worse, but i do know it has the potential!

Like everyone, I just try to teach him better skills, like hug instead of (hit, bite, yell) or re-direct him on. Punishment pretty much does nothing for this age LOL.. they just keep trying till they are bored of it! Feels that way, anyway! LOL!

girlisrad's picture
Joined: 04/24/07
Posts: 1587

(((hugs)))

Dalton has bit a time or two.. when he was REALLY frustrated. I am so thankful it hasn't gotten worse, but i do know it has the potential!

Like everyone, I just try to teach him better skills, like hug instead of (hit, bite, yell) or re-direct him on. Punishment pretty much does nothing for this age LOL.. they just keep trying till they are bored of it! Feels that way, anyway! LOL!

baby_schultz2's picture
Joined: 02/24/12
Posts: 16

At least I am not the only one... i will say i tried the bitting back thing... it worked with DD1 but DD2 could care less...
so far so good today with out biting but the hitting is still bad...
I will try the movies in hopes that will help but she still isnt talking much so it is so hard with her...

thanks

zobi's picture
Joined: 12/24/07
Posts: 607

I too am dealing with a biter....Ive never had to deal with it before, my other to NEVER bit...

We always knew he was going to be a biter, as we have seen it forming...In frustration he clenches his teeth, tenses his body till hes shaking and then bites something, toys/clothes whatever is in his hand at the time, or within reach...So we knew that one day his brother would become a victim to his biting...
He has however only maganed to bit him 3 times (That we know of) good bites, huge bruises that lasted a week + One even broke the skin...Daddy resorted to biting him back and would you believe it, hes not biten again....?????....So dont know if it worked or we have just been lucky....
Ive heard of people using, soap, hot sauce...something to assoicate bad outcome to a bad behaviour etc....
I feel your frustration with it though, as you said it is unfair that another child has to repeatedly suffer from their sibblings biting ways....ANd the last thing you want to happen is for other sibblings to resort to the same behaviour...
If nothing works, just survive off the fact that it is a stage and USUALLY the behaviour will stop....(im thinking this with the SCREAMING we get) FINGERSCROSSED you find something that works, or the stage is outgrown fast!!!!

Joined: 01/25/02
Posts: 2023

Yeah, the biting back things always worked with my siblings. The first time I resorted to that (after a fair bit of his biting) he laughed in my face.. Little stinker. Then I told him, "We do not bite" and he hit me in the face. Love that kid, he definitely has spirit!

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Joined: 04/30/06
Posts: 366

Separate them, tell her no and make her say sorry! Julia has bit her bro's before...if they are bugging her she does! I tell her "No bite and bad girl." she acts like I took her b-day away!!!:rolleyes:

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