who else is done?

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lioness4's picture
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who else is done?

I am just wondering if your done having kiddos and what you did to ensure this...if your still having more kiddos how many do you plan and how far apart do you want them? Sorry if I am being intrusive!:rolleyes:

For Me I am done!!! I had a tubal ligation the day of my daughters birth via c-section...I wish somedays I would have given Julia a sister but maybe some day (I'm not holding my breath) I can adopt a daughter from china...a toddler or a pre-k age one.

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Not sure here...I'm pretty sure I would like a 3rd but DH is being practical and talking about the expensive of raising 3 kids. I'm not ready yet - maybe in a year we'll have a serious discussion.

Joined: 01/25/02
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I am not sure if we are done. 5 has always been my magic number (I am the second of 8 kids, and dh has a large family also). But not planning on anymore anytime soon. I feel super overwhelmed with four some days, and I definitely do not want 3 in diapers. lol. But I still kind of feel like there is one more for us, dh may need some more convincing. Smile

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Joined: 11/03/10
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I would like to say that we are not done yet. DH and I always talked about having two kiddos, and I definitely want another baby... but I'm not in a hurry right now. With DH struggling with depression and us going through some stuff lately, I haven't even brought the subject up--if he's feeling unsure about us right now, I certainly can't, and wouldn't want to, bring up having another munchkin until we get us straightened out.

I think I'd like to have Izzy out of diapers before trying for a second, and we might have a cruise at the beginning of 2013, so I think I would at least wait until that point to start actively trying again.

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DONE HERE!!!!!................Charlie was the deal sealer here...........DONT WANT ANOTHER ONE LIKE THAT!!!!!!!!!!
But I could easily have another one now HAHAHA would LOVE a little girl, but realistically it was NEVER going to happen anyway, I was lucky to even get one child out of Andy...........having Charlie was a bonus (not that the first 6mnths felt like a bonus HAHAHA, more like he11 to be honest)..........

Andy got the snipitty snip snip when Charlie was 6mnths old.... Dr questioned us OVER and OVER again "Are you SURE????" she said "How could you not want to bring another one of these gorgeous kids into the world" We said "Take Charlie home with you and within 10mins you will know why" HAHAHAHAHA........."Dont be fooled by the cute little face"...................Really I love him to pieces, BUT OH MAN!!!!!!!!............A Charlie is the best birth control in the WORLD!!!!!!

So yeah no more here.....I just have to get my baby snuggles else where......Andy cringes when he enters a room and sees a baby, he knows thats me gone for the next hr or so HAHAHAHA...............Just as well I look after babies and toddlers for a job aye Smile

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Joined: 12/06/08
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I am not done. I have major baby fever and having 7 friends preggo is not helping the thoughts. DH though I think is fine with DS. He doesnt like baby babys. The older Tommy gets the more DH helps. Ideally, I am thinking TTC end of this year, that will put tommy a little more than 3 when next baby arrives. But I am kinda sweating the discussion with DH. I am worried he is done and he is stubborn and if that happens its going to be a major issue to deal with. We always said we wanted 2 but with personal issues, DH being deployed when tommy was born it was just not what we expected. I think he is worried things will go south again. I am very slowly working up the nerve to have the discussion.

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I'm at the point where I think of pregnancy and my skin crawls Smile I love my freedom at the moment and being the master of my own body. While I love loved being pregnant, I am now loving working towards and achieving goals other than simply gestating. I find pregnancy extremely easy, motherhood is the real work of it all! I also have three kids (barely 5,4 and almost 2) so I am really in the throes of the challenge of it all. I look around our dinner table and I feel like I see everyone who belongs there. That said, we can afford more kids and we love watching the sibling relationships that they have, so some days we think about adding one more. That would not happen for a while as we have travel planned next year that I don't want to be pregnant for,and I have a marathon coming up. I also would want at least 2 of my kids in full time school before adding a new baby. We would also consider adoption ~ my mom was adopted so that has always felt like a possible option for us. Most days I'm 100% sure we are done. I think that I will know for sure in October, when I decide to either get surgery, or have another baby.

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Done here. DH got the snippity snip too. And the DR tried to talk him out of it too, as he was one of the youngest guys (30) he'd ever done the snipitty on. I kind of think if I didn't have a boy and a girl I might have tried for one more. Maybe. And part of me still kind of wants a 3rd. But then I think, man I don't want to start over again! I think I'm just going through a slightly broody stage because my baby really isn't a baby any more. And I have sold most of my baby things. I'm happy with the 2 crazy kids I've got!

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"pickles07" wrote:

Done here. DH got the snippity snip too. And the DR tried to talk him out of it too, as he was one of the youngest guys (30) he'd ever done the snipitty on. I kind of think if I didn't have a boy and a girl I might have tried for one more. Maybe. And part of me still kind of wants a 3rd. But then I think, man I don't want to start over again! I think I'm just going through a slightly broody stage because my baby really isn't a baby any more. And I have sold most of my baby things. I'm happy with the 2 crazy kids I've got!

My man was only 30 also, yeah they consider that to be young....I dont know why they didnt think 3 kids in our family was enough!!!!.....
We are very happy with what we have and feel very lucky to have 3 healthy kiddos....

Joined: 01/18/06
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Some days we're done. Other days we're not. I've been on the fence for two years now. However, lately we've been leaning towards one more. We wouldn't ttc til next Feb or March though. Pregnancy is really hard on me and there are a few factors that make me very nervous to do it again, even though I'd love the baby I get at the end of it.

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We are done. 5 boys. I got the tubal while in the hospital with Andrew. I'm actually really glad to be done. 5 is a lot of kids. Smile it is a little sad at times when I'm nursing the 5 month old thinking it's the last time Sad but I'm ready to move on.

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We both want one more. Not sure when we'll start TTC again. We had talked starting in September, but we have a trip planned, so it may be October. We'll see. We'll have just moved to another state, so we're going to have to play it by ear. We may not feel comfortable starting that soon after a big move.

DH and I both really feel like we want just one more. I can't see us with more than 3 kids. I sometimes have a hard time with just the two that I have now, but we don't feel like our family is complete yet. I'm with some of you with the whole "starting over" thing. I try not to look at it like that, but there are so many things that you do feel like you're starting from the beginning with again. My husband put it a good way with saying "doing it over". I remember when Jackson was born. I had got so comfortable with the fact that Carson was less work than a baby, and I was going to have to do it again. Now that I'm comfortable again, I ask myself why I want to start over Wink lol

I'm looking forward to the day that we know we're done, and we can just raise our kids and be a family. No one in diapers or potty training. They start to dress and do most things by themselves. We can take trips without packing the entire house. Love that thought!

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yea I had quite the baby with my daughter her pregnancy was the deal sealer..8 months of morning sickness...3 months of no sleep due to back and leg issues/insomnia.... I had ppd when she was born plus she got colicky on every formula when I switched her to it!!! I nursed her 6 months..my supply quality always wanes around 6 months so I switch..having a colicky baby with 3 toddlers makes a lady crazy!!!

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We are done too.. had my tubes rendered (fried, shattered, snipped, burned, lacerated and cursed Blum 3 ) after Dalton's C-Section. 3 boys is all we can handle LOL!

Truthfully, I DO get a twinge here and there... for a girl especially! But, I know Taylin is in heaven waiting on us! We will see her soon enough! And I get to skip those scary teenage "girl" years LOL! Woot!

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ARRRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHHH.....Teenage girl years!!!!!
We are just starting them!!!!!!!!........NOT LOOKING FORWARD TO THE NEXT 5 YEARS!!!!!

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"zobi" wrote:

ARRRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHHH.....Teenage girl years!!!!!
We are just starting them!!!!!!!!........NOT LOOKING FORWARD TO THE NEXT 5 YEARS!!!!!

SEEE?????? AHAHHAHA!!! Good Luck Nat!

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Joined: 11/17/06
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We aren't sure yet. I go back and forth every single day. We both WANT another baby, but we'll see if that actually happens at this point... That was the good thing about Charlotte's pregnancy, she was a surprise, so we didn't have to make any decisions. Sometimes those are the best kind. Smile

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not looking for any teen age years...either the surly,quiet,body odor/hair/hormones in boys or the teen age years in girls!!!! I am cannot believe my youngest sweet little dude will soon have facial hair and chase ladies!!! I picture him a sweet lil sensitive moms boy forever....alas I know that will change!!!!:help1:

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"lioness4" wrote:

not looking for any teen age years...either the surly,quiet,body odor/hair/hormones in boys or the teen age years in girls!!!! I am cannot believe my youngest sweet little dude will soon have facial hair and chase ladies!!! I picture him a sweet lil sensitive moms boy forever....alas I know that will change!!!!:help1:

Ryan gets little zits on his nose now.. just a tiny precursor to the DREAD P word.

NO BABIES!!! Don't grow up!

zobi's picture
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I freak out hearing about my nephew and what hes up too....girlfriends and DTD....ARRRGGGG NO!!!!.....Im scared about those years!!!

ANd yeah also dreading the boys as teenagers, I KNOW WHAT THEIR FATHER WAS LIKE!!!.....He was a bad boy, A REALLY BAD BOY....I might them them to him HAHAHAHA.....

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You mean they wont stay the sweet little ones forever? I really have a hard time with DS being anythng than the snuggling silly boy that he is. Makes me want to stop time. hence why I dont really mind MOTN waking, extra snuggles for mama!

I agree on the starting over. TTC is on my mind all the time right now. I have a hard time "planning" on how to juggle 2 kiddos. It scares me more than having Tommy for the first time. That and the whole how can you another one as much as your first. And spending enough time with two. But I just dont feel done, but if for some strange reason, tommy is it, I am more than thankful for my sweet boy. But no to growing up and facial hair !

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I've been MIA but wanted to chime in. We plan on TTC in July. I'm getting super-antsy for a baby.
Sometimes though, I think that two is all I can handle. The two I have really wear me thin. But by the time I have the baby, DS will almost be in school full time and I will have that break during the day which is why we waited a little longer this time. I think we'll probably have another one 2 years after the 3rd so 4 in all. I was an only child and used to love going to my cousin's house with 8 kids running around. That's a little much for me but I think 4 would be nice. Smile

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Well, we've been saying we are 100% done for a while. DH even got the V 8 months ago....but we were talking last night and it seems we BOTH really want another...so...maybe...I think we've decided that if we still feel this way in one year he'll get a vasectomy reversal. But Lio will be almost 2, so then we can decide if we both really want another, or if we're just antsy because I had just gotten pregnant again when Halloway was the same age Lio is now. Yeah...so much fun and craziness!

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Kilah you are HILARIOUS!!! Lol

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We're done here. I'm entering early menopause and was told last week that my only real chance of anymore was via IVF and honestly, we took that as a sign that we're not meant to have anymore naturally. Although we might investigate the adoption/foster option in a few years time when the others are much older....

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Joined: 03/14/09
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Pretty sure we are done here also. I have PCOS and had several complications with Dom (As in my liver started to fail) so I am not feeling another baby. Because we have one child I get lots of questions about him needing a sibling, or almost like we need a back up child. People are so weird about the thought of just 1!