the inlaw drama rant thread, since i know the holidays can be hard, i woudl love to say what i really think, and yet i still grin and bear it.
I am just so thrilled with my MIL, and now i have decided to always talk to the SIL first.
If i was writing this yesterday I would be telling you all how i am skipping out on inlaw drama, but no, my SIL had to insist we do a version of Christmas with them.
rewind last Wednesday night Dh was talking to MIL, i told him to tell her what days and times we would be available for xmas with them. Saturday 17th, Sunday18th afternoon or Friday afternoon or xmas eve afternoon. She pitched a fit i was trying to nurse Lilly to bed, then Dh just gives up and hangs up with her. I was mad, because it always has to be at SIL which is a 45 in drive for us, and when it is convenient for them. Why not have it here in town At MIL ??? 2 min drive for us.
Then i get a text from SIL asking when we can get together for xmas, which we all know is next Sunday. I text back Saturday afternoon, since we have a party at 6 and Lilly is in bed at 830. SIL calls, says sorry i didn't get back to you, we politely argue which days are better for us, and come up with this Friday afternoon, but it is an inconvenience for her, we both agree its not fair to make the kids wait until after xmas... I really could careless about actually spending time with them, but i do it for Dh whatever. so I get off with SIL she calls MIL, then SIL calls back argues that we should just come over xmas eve because it is there tradition to host and have family over their house, blah blah, well it is our tradition to go to our friends party every xmas eve, we had no family me and my mom, so we made our friends our family, we all drink and be merry, and talk about how the year has treated us exchange gifts havea great time, and everyone is welcome. so close i could walk home.
sorry this is long anyway then the truth comes out of SIL... My MIL tells SIL that she does not want to do it during the day because MIL wants to spend a couple of hours with Lilly and watch her and play with her. UM yeah you all know that i have a hard enough time getting Lilly to bed and i am lucky if she naps, so why would you want to keep a baby up and cranky.
By the way MIL has been told she can come and see Lilly when ever she wants just to call first. She has only been to visit 2 times since we came home. It really pissed me off because she lives 2 min away, and where is she every weekend at SIL baby sitting Lillys cousins must be nice to have a free baby sitter. not that I would ever leave my baby with a women who can't put a baby in a car seat.
I could go on, I only pretend , and get along with MIL because of Dh, if i had it my way i wouldn't even bother.
I am sorry this isn't so posed to be the nature of the season but i go through this every year, they had us on Christmas last year , and this is Lilly's first , plus my dad is going to get to be here, remember he is over the road truck driver. so he hardly ever gets to see Lilly.
thanks for reading my vent if you made any sense of it.
i know i am not the only one.