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So this post is to share my hope that breast feeding goes better this time around. When my son was born in 2008 it was chaotic with moving and only having 7 weeks off with a c-section and all. So this time I will have the 12 weeks and we don’t plan on moving and I’m still hoping for the V-bac so recovery should be better, if not a v-bac then at least I’ll be prepared for the c-section! I was proud that DS was still fed breast milk exclusively for 11 months because I pumped religiously, but he never really got what he needed when I would try BF. He was fussy, and I would freak out and it was like a two hour process sometimes! I felt trapped and frustrated with that and adjusting to everything else. I did go to La Leche meetings a few times but they are all kinda far from my house. So my issue is that along with breast feeding, I need to make sure the baby is comfortable with bottles because I will be going to work after the 12 weeks. What’s everyone’s tips for breast feeding and bottle feeding?

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Unfortunately i have no advice other than to try the la leche meetings. Im a first timer, so i am getting all my tips from my older sister (who is a HUGE BF'er). She BF'd my nephew for over 2 years..so she has plenty to say on the subject! But i hope it all goes better this time around for you!

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W2G for BFing for 11 months under such stress! My only tip is don't put so much pressure on yourself. That was my mistake with my son. I didn't know what to expect and I just became overwhelmed. It will help a TON knowing kinda/sorta what to expect. I'm still a bit nervous, DS was such a fussy baby and DD was easy-peasy-- so I'm not sure what to expect this time but I'm kinda dreading the thought of another fussy baby b/c we literally just had to grow outta that with him, and he was fussy the first 7 months. GL!
Oh! And I am planning on exclusively breastfeeding. The only bottles I should have to pump are the ones that I will need to leave while I take mys on to school in the morning, so like one bottle a day. I'll be pumping a stock-pile but I plan on pumping once during the evening if I can. I got some medela breastmilk storage bags, some glass medela bottles, and one breastflow bottle (to try it out) but I may end up using avent, which was the only bottle DS would take.

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Great topic to start thinking about!

I hope to BF this time - we FF (formula fed) DS, so I'm a first timer for BFing.

I really really want to stress what Becca said to everyone - don't pressure yourself too much. Especially with stressful situations.

With DS, Because I had so many problems with delivery and then all the complications after (I was in the hospital for a week) I needed to recover myself. The doctors told me a) I was lucky to be alive and b) it would be better for me and baby if I FF, so I could actually heal and recover and be a better mom. It took MONTHS for me to understand that. I dealt with PPD and Anxiety, I felt like a failure as a mom for not BFing. It broke my heart every day with every bottle. But In the end, it was the best thing I could have done. Both DS and I are strong and healthy, and I was able to enjoy him and be the mom i wanted to be (minus BFing).

So This time I really want to BF. It would save us money, and more importantly it would be nice to have that experience. But I wont guilt myself if it doesnt work, or if things go wrong. I am prepared for a bad delivery (its the only kind I know... ) and to deal with a bad situation. If things go great, I will be ecstatic. i have a 6month goal, and we'll re-evaluate at that point.

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I think it's healthy to set breast feeding goals for yourself. Because honestly, breast feeding is freaking hard and there were days when if I hadn't had a goal in place, I might have given up. Set short term goals, and after the first 4 months it will all be cake...until the next growth spurt. Smile

I would avoid introducing a bottle until about six weeks if you can help it. If baby is introduced too early, they can refuse or fuss at the breast (like you described) because they get frustrated since the bottle is so much easier. And then, I would stick to the lowest flow bottle for as long as possible for the same reason.

Remember also that newborns really need very little milk. In the first few days, they are designed to live off about 1/2 ounce of colostrum at a time. Babies are expected to lose a little weight in the beginning and they are supposed to want to nurse ALL the time (for hours at a time). That's how your milk production gets stimulated. So if he's fussy in the first couple of days, I know it's hard, but remember that's how nature intended - that's how your supply builds and that's how he learns to develop a good latch.

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I think it's healthy to set breast feeding goals for yourself. Because honestly, breast feeding is freaking hard and there were days when if I hadn't had a goal in place, I might have given up. Set short term goals, and after the first 4 months it will all be cake...until the next growth spurt. Smile

I would avoid introducing a bottle until about six weeks if you can help it. If baby is introduced too early, they can refuse or fuss at the breast (like you described) because they get frustrated since the bottle is so much easier. And then, I would stick to the lowest flow bottle for as long as possible for the same reason.

Remember also that newborns really need very little milk. In the first few days, they are designed to live off about 1/2 ounce of colostrum at a time. Babies are expected to lose a little weight in the beginning and they are supposed to want to nurse ALL the time (for hours at a time). That's how your milk production gets stimulated. So if he's fussy in the first couple of days, I know it's hard, but remember that's how nature intended - that's how your supply builds and that's how he learns to develop a good latch.

I second ALL of this!!!! BF'ing as rewarding and fun (later on) that it can be... is hard in the get go, time consuming and for me sometimes painful. BUT it does get better, easier and is such a bonding with baby. not to mention a money saver!!!!

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I would get several kinds of bottles, or one of one kind then if that doesn't work get another...some babies are picky about bottles. Introduce it well before your 12 week point so that there is time to adjust. I am only taking a full 4 weeks off and then going back part time for a bit, at least thats the plan, considering I am having a planned c-section, we will see what happens. I bf dd for a year and plan to do the same this time.

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I BF DD1 until she was about 8 months (got a yeast infection in my milk duct causing intense pain, my supply tanked, and then she self weaned) and plan on BF this baby as long as it works for us. I will probably introduce the bottle around 3-4 weeks this time. I waited the 6 weeks that's recommended with DD1 and it was a huge struggle to get her used to a bottle. BF is a huge commitment and I agree with setting goals, even small ones, and then reevaluate when you get to that point.

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Joy pretty much said it all. I will say that I had such a hard time with DD1 and also ended up exclusively pumping for her first year. With DD2 she was early and in the NICU but I was determined to breastfeed, basically I wouldn't let them give her bottles or pacifiers and I breastfed her or at least attempted at least every 2 hours. Oh and I made good use of the hospital LC! Breastfeeding isn't always easy, so don't make it easy for you to resort to bottles if you are having a rough day, and definitely take it one day at a time.
After pumping for my first I went on to exclusively breastfeed #2 and #3 and hopefully will breastfeed #4 too, so it can happen.

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"joysiloo" wrote:

I think it's healthy to set breast feeding goals for yourself. Because honestly, breast feeding is freaking hard and there were days when if I hadn't had a goal in place, I might have given up. Set short term goals, and after the first 4 months it will all be cake...until the next growth spurt. Smile

I would avoid introducing a bottle until about six weeks if you can help it. If baby is introduced too early, they can refuse or fuss at the breast (like you described) because they get frustrated since the bottle is so much easier. And then, I would stick to the lowest flow bottle for as long as possible for the same reason.

Remember also that newborns really need very little milk. In the first few days, they are designed to live off about 1/2 ounce of colostrum at a time. Babies are expected to lose a little weight in the beginning and they are supposed to want to nurse ALL the time (for hours at a time). That's how your milk production gets stimulated. So if he's fussy in the first couple of days, I know it's hard, but remember that's how nature intended - that's how your supply builds and that's how he learns to develop a good latch.

I second everything except waiting until they are 6 weeks. Everyone told me that I should wait a while and I did that with my DS and he HATED the bottle by that time. Actually he never came to like it after 12 months. Unless you are having some issues, I wouldn't wait quite that long. With DD, I introduced it around 3 weeks and she took it easily, but never had any issues with refusing me. By that time they know their mama. I would have DH or my mom give a bottle just once every four days for the first few weeks. As they get older, start giving it with more frequency. Of course, my kids wouldn't take it from me. It had to be someone else at feeding time when I wasn't around. I think that helps with the confusing breast/bottle too. If I never give a bottle, they don't associate the bottle with me- it's only for when mom is gone. Of course, this is all just based on my experience, so it may not be that way for every other person.
Hopefully your second will be easier than your first. At least this time, you have an idea of what to expect and you have more time to work it out. I am sure you'll do great. It's not easy and it's wonderful that you're doing what you feel is best for your little guy!

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Honestly, introducing the bottle all depends on the baby. We introduced the bottle with DS when he was a couple weeks and never had a problem. If it remptely resembled a nipple he would drink out of it. I think if I took a rubber glove and poked a hole in it, he would have drank out of that! LOL!! But I agree with all the PP. GIve yourself goals and don't beat yourself up if it doesn't work.

I nursed DS till he was 6 mos. From birth to 3 months he was striclty on BM then my supply just wouldn't keep up after I went back to work and then we supplemented with formula. By 6 months I was done. I really hope to make it to 1 year with this one.