Last night I planned a date night for DH and I. He was working some overtime, so I took the kids to my parents. They had them for dinner and brought them back to our place and put DS1 to bed.
DH and I had some "alone" time at home (MUCH needed) and then headed out to dinner and a movie. It was the best thing we could have done. We saw a comedy, laughed our heads off and ate too much.
It was one of those things we probably shouldnt have done financially, but we couldnt afford NOT to do it for our mental state of minds. We both feel so refreshed and facing various stresses (in law issues, DH's work etc) seemed much easier today.
I really recommend every single one of you do this. Even if the "date" means a saturday afternoon without kids cuddled on the couch watching a favorite movie and eating popcorn. Send the kids to grandparents, friends, siblings, etc, someone you trust, and take TIME for yourself and DH.
I feel like a whole new person today, and DH does too.
I know its easier for us since I am not BFing, but you can pump... or even if you have dinner, go back to feed baby, and then do a movie. Figure something out!
DON'T MAKE EXCUSES, MAKE IT HAPPEN!
*ok done my soapbox rant*