Any of you who are on my facebook are probably familiar with this as I get near losing it every few months, but this time I am literally in tears when I think of it.
I don't know what to do. I have been very anit cry it out but I am very close to giving in as I don't know what else to do.
Roman is breastfed and has nursed to sleep since day one. At one of our well baby visits the ped said I should start laying him down awake.... but at that time he was IMPOSSIBLE to wake after nursing and it never happened.
Roman is now 13 months old and has never... yes NEVER fallen asleep with out being nursed if by me, or rocked if by someone else to sleep, other than in the car.
He wakes MULTIPLE times a night and has to nurse to get back to sleep. Last night he went down at 8.. was up at 10, 1230, 300 and then at 5 he woke and I didn't get him back down until 615... he would fall asleep and then either I would start to lay him down and it would wake him, or he would wake back up 5 mins after laying down. Then he was up for the day at 730.
I am so ready to be done breastfeeding, but I don't know how I would ever get him to sleep... I tried the other night to not bf between 12 and 6 and gave up after almost 2 hours. Roman is 29 pounds, it's a lot of baby to walk and rock.
With all the research about damage to babies done with cry it out, and also my gut saying it is wrong wrong wrong for us I have fought all the suggestions I do it. I also don't think R would be one of those fuss a few mins and go to sleep babies... I think it would be an insane screaming fest , and I worry he would hit his head on the crib.
We have a bed time routine.. I have tried to get him attached to a lovey (no success). I say a key phrase when he is going to sleep nightly. I bought a sound machine for his room. I have tried with and without a nightlight... I have tried warmer and cooler temperatures.
Every once in a random blue moon he will do something like sleep 5 1/2 hours, but I can never see a pattern as to why.
I am so tired... and my back is MESSED up and this is making it worse. I picked up the vacuum the other day and it went out so bad I have been in labor intense pain and picking up and putting down a giant babers multiple times was like torture last night.
I don't know what to do . I am in tears as I write this. I am so frustrated. Last night I was so mad at Roman and that is the last way I want to feel towards him. It makes me feel so guilty.
He is also an incredibly awful teether. He has been constantly teething for months.... months. The only thing that helps is ibuprofen, and I can only give that so often you know?
I just.... I just need some help and perspective here.
For anti cry moms... is there a point that you would give in and try it? Would you let them cry while you patted their backs and sat with them. check in every few minutes...... what? Not give in and keep going because they have to sleep some day?
I am sure this post is all over the place... but I am exhausted. Help.