ever feel like...(vent for all)

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ever feel like...(vent for all)

do you ever feel like strangling your MIL???

ok so you all know I am having a hard time, and taking care of my terminal ill pet. my MIL had the nerve to call and ask me 9 months prego and in emotional distress for a favor.
mind you we are in a heat advisory for this whole week, and i refuse to leave my dogs side unless my mom is here to care for him.
she wants me to take care of her two little pugs saturday night and sunday morning, so she can take care of my niece and nephew at my inlaws. Mind you this always falls on me and DH and has for ever since he moved out. Like we don't have a life of our own. Not to mention since i am a dog lover i only ever let them out for them not for her. I am so sick of her pretending to care about her dogs since she is never home and leaves them for hours on end.
why have pets if you aren't going to take care of them.
i told her no and to take them with her, but then she says how stressful it will be for the one since it is blind. Take a freaking doggy Pack in play or something, not like they are huge dogs.
then she is all like well call me later this week and let me know.

mind u usually her advance notice is the night before, but i am sick of taking crap and picking up the pieces for everyone all the time.

this new mommy is going to snap on people soon.
there is always on going issues with me and her, but i am so tired of playing nicey nice for Dh.

Please feel free to vent, cus I am so sure i am not the only one sick of rude family members, or what have you

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I'm sorry. Did you explain to her to condition of your dog and that because of that you don't want to leave him/her alone?

Everything with me at this stage of the pregnancy seems to annoy and irritate me so I completely understand!

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HAHAHHAA!! OMG I just finished ranting to DH about both my mom and MIL. Lucky me had to deal with them BOTH for 5 minutes and I want to kill... LOL! So YES!!! I can rant with you!!! Driving me friggin nuts. Everything from my mom telling me something common and simple and treating me like I didnt already KNOW what she was telling me... to both mothers having a brag a thon of what they bought/did for DS. Geez, a friggin pi$$ing match between grandmothers. Someone get out a ruler to measure the... ahh never mind. LOL K Thanks I feel better.

I'm sorry your MIL is being a pain, and that she dumps her pets on you. thats annoying at the best of times, never mind having all the stuff you are dealing with right now!!

lol oh and to KerriWeasel when you read this - see, I can top all your MIL stories. LOL! Wink

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"VCoates" wrote:

I'm sorry. Did you explain to her to condition of your dog and that because of that you don't want to leave him/her alone?

Everything with me at this stage of the pregnancy seems to annoy and irritate me so I completely understand!

Yeah, I was listening when Dh told her about our dog, and how serious it is. I guess MIL must have told my SIL because after I wrote this, SIL text me about how sorry she is about it, and how if i need anything to let her know, she seemed concerned about me and the baby, but there really isn't much anyone can do for me.

Then I got pissed with my dad, cus he called me in a bad mood b$%ching about his job, and how its not what he envisioned. Well heck if you knew him you would know he is mental, and a Jack of all trades, I wish he would have stayed in the service because that was the longest job he has ever held. cry me a river the only person he has to take care of is himself. waah waah waah.

Geez I hate to keep getting upset, one minuet i am pissed off and the next i am crying.

when will the cycle end.

Marilyn ~ omg, I can only imagine the grandma wars, lol, of corse I don't even want to leave my LO with MIL, she couldn't even put my niece and nephew in a car seat. but that is another story.
My MIL would rather just through money she doesn't have at things.

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"squirrel27" wrote:

lol oh and to KerriWeasel when you read this - see, I can top all your MIL stories. LOL! Wink

hahahahaha!!! I know you can! I wish the MIL wasn't in FB. She called me today to ask me about wine. And asked why I was so out of breath. I said ibwas in the other room starting putting laundry in the washer. Her response, "wow you're out of breath because of that?"

There comes that time when you just want to say F Off!!!

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oh yeah my MIL is a martyr and doesn't really care about anyone else and she has the gal to call my FIL selfish.....FIL has alzheimers/dementia (she won't take him to a doctor that could really diagnose only their family doc.....who in my opinion is a quack), so how does he really know that he's being selfish....KWIM?
We try to help she's always like...i'm at my whits end i don't know what to do, we've got no $$ but i can buy cat food for the strays in teh yard and cheap toys that hte kids don't need anyway (my DS1 would be happier with her just actually talking to him than anything else). And OMG the dogs....mind you i really like behaved dogs but these dogs aren't trained. they think that its ok to pee on teh floor if they get excited, they bark at every little thing, they believe that they should be on the couch and they frequently have flees (i know cause i'm allergic to them, see my legs 4 weeks later are still marked by the bits and i'm afraid i'm going to be scared....ugggg). and to top it off my DS1 has to wait his turn to sit next to his grandmother, with who you ask...the dogs.....oh and did i mention that he's allergic to dogs so we have to do breathing treatments with him. DS2 is scared of the dogs cause oh he's eye to eye level with them and they growl and bark at him.
She's always wanting DH to help her fix things (like the situation with FIL) but when DH and I spend hours looking up places near then and near us and talk to people about the facilities....she won't give us a clue at the finances to know if it is even possible.

she's so wrapped up in her own drama that she doesn't really ask after the boys. makes it seem like she could care less as to what they're doing. and only when i'm standing in front of her does she maybe ask how the baby is doing.
The important thing in her life are the dogs, the dogs, her husband, the dogs, DH, the dogs, the outdoor wild cats, DS1, the dogs, DS2, the dogs.......ehh i think the only reason she puts up with me is cause i do make her son happy. sigh........

Ok.....LOL!! i guess i did have a rant there. sorry. Smile

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i'm not sure if this is a rant, but...

my MIL just doesnt bother. never has. she only bothers when she has something to gain, like $$. i am due in 6 weeks and other than showing up to the reveal party and the baby shower (an hour and a half late), she hasnt bothered at all with this one so far. i gave up on her when she took it upon herself to YELL (yes i meant YELL) at me everytime i saw her. ONce cause she was pissed that i didnt invite her to my growth ultrasound and the next time AT my reaveal party cause she didnt like the middle name we are naming LO. she hasnt even picked up the phone to ask how i am or how im feeling or anything. this is how she works though, we didnt talk to her for 6 years until brian brother passed away. and after that she only bothered cause WE settled ALL of his affairs and took custody of her grandson (the one she does bother with). it makes me sad knowing that not only will she miss out on Kendra and all that that entails, but im more sad that Kendra has one less grandma to love her and to be there for her.

Kerri, i would be pissed after that comment. i get out of breath by doing much less than that anymore. you would think she would understand being that she bore kids too!

Chris, im sorry about your dog and your MIL. i hope things get better soon. As for being sick of picking up the pieces for everyone, this is THE reason my MIL was out of hte pic for 6 years. once she realized we were done being her ATM machine, she saw no reason to associate with us or her grandchildren (well the ones that came from us). my point is, there comes a point where enough is enough! sounds like your there Smile

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I have a nightmare MIL and mother.

My mother has not called 1 time to check on me since getting pregnant, forgot my b-day for the 5th time out of 7 years and I have only talked to her 1 time since 6/11/11. She thinks that my dad and his family do not deserve to be at the hospital when I deliver. I know that when I next call her (b/c she will never call me) she will try and guilt trip me about not calling more. I have only seen her at my shower since Christmas and she acted like this was all my fault...I explained that she had never once tried to get together and when I did she blew me off. Why is it my fault that she shows no interest?

My MIL thinks that she has to out-shop everyone else and does not bother getting what we actually registered for but what she thinks is better. She actually told my step-mom to return the highchair that we registered for b/c she bought one already (that we did not register for). She has also told us that "my grandchild will never wear used clothing" (most everything we have is used). She also told us that "her" grandchild will never want for anything (from us came the comment...except good parents). When I showed her a few things that I bought that were for sizes 2T-4T she said that we should not shop b/c then there will be nothing for her to buy...WTF? I am not allowed to get even a few outfits for my own child (first born and a girl...I mean come on, it is fun to buy a few things).

O'well, this part is almost over for all of us and then on to the real fun of protecting them from these people in the real world... Wink

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Kerri ~I agree with Laura, I can't even go up or down the stairs with out getting out of breath, like there isn't much room in there any more geez. lol Dh is always like are u ok, well yeah but breathing can be hard.

Gretchen ~ some times people can be such hypocrites, take the dang time to train your dogs, it just makes good pet owners look bad. it makes me so mad, my MIL is so concerned about our dogs hurting our new baby, but just because we have a Saint Bernard and a Boxer doesn't mean they aren't well behaved. oh and flees are just disgusting, we have never had flees, its called preventative medicine. If things were that bad at my inlaws, I would never go over there.

Jessica ~ Im sorry that you don't have either to really rely on. I would be so pissed if my own mom forgot my bday multiple times, i mean come on she birthed you. OH and as for your MIL what is wrong with used clothing, children out grow stuff so fast why waste all the money, i would rather put that saved money in to college fund. We have this great second hand store that buys and sells used baby and kids clothing but there outlet is the best because everything is $1 or less. things still have tags on them too.

It is hard to think of all the things we want to protect our kids from, for the longest time used to say I couldn't imagine raising kids now a days, well now i guess I have no choice. the world is definitely different from when I grew up.

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"Chris_85" wrote:

Kerri ~I agree with Laura, I can't even go up or down the stairs with out getting out of breath, like there isn't much room in there any more geez. lol Dh is always like are u ok, well yeah but breathing can be hard.

Gretchen ~ some times people can be such hypocrites, take the dang time to train your dogs, it just makes good pet owners look bad. it makes me so mad, my MIL is so concerned about our dogs hurting our new baby, but just because we have a Saint Bernard and a Boxer doesn't mean they aren't well behaved. oh and flees are just disgusting, we have never had flees, its called preventative medicine. If things were that bad at my inlaws, I would never go over there.

It is hard to think of all the things we want to protect our kids from, for the longest time used to say I couldn't imagine raising kids now a days, well now i guess I have no choice. the world is definitely different from when I grew up.

i have issues with breathing too especially if i'm carrying anything more than myself up the stairs.
we don't go to their house...OMG is it disgusting i haven't been inside it in 2 years but DH has and....well i wont' detail it. but i forbid our DS1 going in when we've had to stay at the Grandmother's house...oh that's a whole other story
As for where i got the fleas it was at teh lake house. sigh....its supposed to be like neutral ground some place that MIL can see the boys and still take care of FIL without being embarrased by him. we're going to tear down the lake house and build something that's safe and clean. and i'm really thinking of only allowing the dogs in their room (they're going to ahve the master on the first floor) and putting a door out the back for a dog area.

We love 2nd hand stuff. its awesome. and you're absolutely right kids go through it too fast to spend money on brand new (other than the occasional something special for a REASON).

My parents said the same thing about being worried about raising kids in our childhood. i just think that parents have to break out of their scardy shells sooner and actually talk to their kids about the world around them. not necessirily to pull them out of childhood faster but to allow them to feel like they can talk about what they're seeing and feeling without being judged or worried about repeating something they saw so they can really understand its implications.....does that make sense?