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Mustanglisa's picture
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Gotta vent (ot)

It has been such a roller coaster of a weekend and now its just downhill. MIL moved yesterday, back into their house next door, her and FIL may or may not be getting divorced, its a mess but for her its better. We were going to do SIL's birthday today because we are out of town next weekend when her birthday is. We were going to go to pizza but then MIL took SIL and her family to pizza last night and never bothered to call us. One bump. Then SIL caused more drama last night, assuming in a drunken state, several bumps. Everything just seemed to fall apart today. I swear she is off her meds again or something, she is totally fine and normal most of the time and then she just goes off the deep end. Dh, SIL and FIL are now over at MIL's next door, been there too long, would love to be a fly on the wall, maybe. It is so frustrating, she can be so nice and fun to be around. but she acts like such a spoiled brat other times like everything should just be given to her, she doesn't work, she owns 4 horses, 5 dogs (just got another recently), lives in a house her parents own hasn't paid rent in almost a year, demands all time and attention from MIL which of course isn't fair for anyone else, especially dd who rarely spends time with her because she is always busy with SIL. errrrr!! I am so frustrated, I hate when this happens. I am about to cancel the baby shower she is supposed to throw for me cause of course I am doing everything for it and I am tired of not having any help at all. I am not throwing myself a shower and having her take the credit cause she showed up.
Ok, its out, still don't feel better. Thanks for reading if you got through the whole mess :confused:

squirrel27's picture
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Aww :bighug:

I'm sorry you get to deal with that. I understand having difficult inlaws... And as curious as you are to be a fly on the wall, maybe its better if you just let them hash it all out. It also sucks when you have irresponsible people (be it friends or inlaws or family) who take credit they shouldnt, like with the shower. Maybe you should step back, let her actually do some of the work. Maybe it'll end up a smaller shower or something different, but at least then you can enjoy it and it'll be "hers" to give, rather than pretending she did it. Im not sure if thats an option for you... And then of course add alcohol ontop of it all and it makes everything worse.

:bighug: again, sorry you get to deal with this. Feel free to rant when you need to!!

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Joined: 02/26/09
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"squirrel27" wrote:

Aww :bighug:

I'm sorry you get to deal with that. I understand having difficult inlaws... And as curious as you are to be a fly on the wall, maybe its better if you just let them hash it all out. It also sucks when you have irresponsible people (be it friends or inlaws or family) who take credit they shouldnt, like with the shower. Maybe you should step back, let her actually do some of the work. Maybe it'll end up a smaller shower or something different, but at least then you can enjoy it and it'll be "hers" to give, rather than pretending she did it. Im not sure if thats an option for you... And then of course add alcohol ontop of it all and it makes everything worse.

:bighug: again, sorry you get to deal with this. Feel free to rant when you need to!!

Well the problem with the shower is that its at my house. Which would have been fine if she would help. She always promises to help with things, like the yard sale have given up on having, and then she finds a reason to not be available or forgets.
What makes it worse is I don't speak to my own family, haven't since before dd was born, so they are the only family I have.

VCoates's picture
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I am so sorry! It seems like quite a few of us are having issues like this, myself included. Why can't people just be mature and responsible?

isuche02's picture
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:bigarmhug:

How frustrating.....

rubyslippersbaby's picture
Joined: 12/29/10
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So sorry you have to deal with this on top of being preggo! I hope it gets better for you soon!!!

gdsgft007's picture
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:bigarmhug: So sorry that you are going thru this. But I can identify with you a little. Hopefully things will calm down soon.

jaimers617's picture
Joined: 10/30/09
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sorry you have to deal with this extra stress! i know it probably won't help, but things always seem to be tough all at once. So, things will turn around eventually. It always ends up being a rough go of it for a while, then things will work out and turn around and get better. Hopefully that happens soon, I can't imagine having to deal with all that. Family is always tough and full of drama, but I think thats better than having nothing. As far as the SIL goes, I would be MORE than frustrated. I hope things turn around for you soon!!

3-o-me's picture
Joined: 12/28/10
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Hugs to you! I can only imagine how you are feeling. I'm living with my MIL and going stir-crazy.
Best of luck with the shower, I will send nothing but good vibes that she steps up at the last minute. Gotta try right? As for SIL - I can totally understand that too. I really really hope you can de-stress for a minute and get some great you-time. You deserve it!!