Major decision to make--

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WonderWomanExtrodinare's picture
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Major decision to make--

I am seriously considering leaving the current practice I'm being seen at and my current MW and moving to our local birth center to be seen there the remainder of my pregnancy and to deliver my baby. I am just terrified that my MW won't be able to deliver me and that the doctor on-call will try to "bully" me into taking drugs during delivery. It may be b/c this is my first natural delivery but I just want it to run as smoothly as possible. Do you ladies think I'm over reacting? Other moms said my current MW will deliver me if I specifically ask her, NP in the same practice says she will if I ask her, Ob-gyn in their practice says she can only deliver me IF she's on call (all referring to the MW). I was going to talk about it with her on my next appointment, which is on the 11th, and make my decision from there.

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I would definitely ask her if she's willing to come in even if it's her day off. If she says yes, then hopefully that should take care of it. You might want to ask her if she's willing to give you her phone number just in case the services that page refuse to call her (if she's not oncall). My doctor was not oncall when I went into labor but did tell the answering service that they could page him for me and he did come in for the delivery.

Good luck! I'm contemplating changing doctors as well and it's a very difficult decision to make at this point!

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If she says she'll come in even when she's not on call, then I'd stick with it. Otherwise, I'd move to the birthing center. Actually though, I would probably go to the birthing center anyway because it's likely that your MW wouldn't be paged until you were nearing transition and you can't count on the nurses at the hospital not to push an epi on you. That's how I ended up with one at 10cm last time...and one of the main reasons i moved to a birthing center this time. All the staff is supportive of NCB, and really, it's your only option there!

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Is your hospital typically natural childbirth friendly? There was only 1 midwife in the practice when I delivered DS, and she happened to not be on call when I went into labor, but I didn't see the dr on call until after I had already delivered (once I hit transition I go FAST) and even then, I barely remember him being there. I probably couldn't recognize him if I walked past him Lol In the end the nurses were wonderful and followed my birth plan almost to a t (and the stuff they didn't was stuff I agreed to), and never once even tried to offer pain meds. Ultimately I couldn't have asked for better.

Now if you really want a birth center birth than I'd switch now, but I personally like staying the 48 hours and being in the hospital. Something to think about as most birth centers release you a few hours after the birth, might be a bonus or a drawback depending on your preferences.

joysiloo's picture
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The birth plan is a good point. My OB was great with it, but he didn't show up until it was too late and the on-call OB was horrible. I had two great NCB friendly nurses, and then one who really pushed the epi on me.

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Birth plan!!! Write it up and make sure everyone has a copy. Put extra copies in your hospital bag and make sure everyone knows.

I had a c/s with DS#4 and kind of felt silly but I knew I didn't want eye drops nor did I want hep shot and I wanted my mom with me as well as DH but specifically stated DH was to be with baby AT ALL TIMES.

No playing with me but everyone was so kind and completely respected all my wishes...right down to the no paci or bottle in hospital and skin to skin as soon as possible. Even had hubby do it (skin to skin in hospital). Make your needs and requests know to everyone and make sure they know how important it is to you.

If they can't respect it now, then find someone knew but odds are they will. Good luck!

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Wanted to add...make sure your birth partner (and anyone else in the room) knows where you stand and that when you say no they need to step in and take control of any pushy nurses or doctors.

That can make a world of difference. Let them do the dirty work while you do the hard work!

WonderWomanExtrodinare's picture
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I contacted the birth center and I'll be meeting with one of their midwives this week. I'm excited, it feels right. Smile

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"joysiloo" wrote:

If she says she'll come in even when she's not on call, then I'd stick with it. Otherwise, I'd move to the birthing center. Actually though, I would probably go to the birthing center anyway because it's likely that your MW wouldn't be paged until you were nearing transition and you can't count on the nurses at the hospital not to push an epi on you. That's how I ended up with one at 10cm last time...and one of the main reasons i moved to a birthing center this time. All the staff is supportive of NCB, and really, it's your only option there!

I ditto this entirely.

I'm glad you contacted the birth center. Wink If that's what feels right to you, I'd say go for it. It's your baby and your body - no one knows your needs better than you.

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Good luck with your decision. I hope you are happy and excited no matter which way you go. Smile

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"WonderWomanExtrodinare" wrote:

I contacted the birth center and I'll be meeting with one of their midwives this week. I'm excited, it feels right. Smile

AWESOME!!!! I long for this feeling! I'm so unsettled..... good luck to you and kup on how the meeting goes!

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I switched from an ob/midwife practice to a birth center this time around, I while I was hesitant to actually make the switch, I haven't regretted it once since I took the plunge!

It just 'felt' right to me too, and I am so glad I switched. It's just a very different environment than a ob/mw practice. At least in my case, everything is very personal, laid back and seen as 'normal'.

I hope you enjoy your meeting, and find what works best for you! GL!