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Maybe you ladies will understand :)

So, obviously I know that weight gain is a part of being preggo. I totally get it. And, this pregnancy I'm accepting that fact MUCH better than my first pregnancy. BUT - what I don't accept is the fact that I'm getting larger (almost an INCH) in my upper thighs! Really? I am working out - to the best of my ability - doing the P90x in the mornings. I've been doing it for 3 weeks now, and I'm almost an inch larger in that 'bad' area of my upper thighs...you know - the inner thigh chunk. I tried on my shorts yesterday bc we are traveling in about a month and I'll need to wear them and they were ALL tight. I thought it was maybe cuz they were fresh out of the washer. Nope - its not. I wore all of those shorts straight through my first pregnancy. They fit in the legs...and this time they don't Sad I'm not spoiling myself and eating whatever I want. I don't eat ice cream - ever. We don't do fast food (even though I'm dying for come McNuggets with sweet & sour sauce). We do eat out on the weekends, but not always. I don't snack on junky stuff. So - its not fair that I'm packing on inches in my legs! Ugh...I'm discouraged and people keep telling me that I'm pregnant and its to be expected. I think weight gain is to be expected - not inches in my thighs. Especially when there isn't a reason for it! I'd love to get a muffin from DD, but refuse to because who knows what that'll do. If I can't keep the inches off w/o eating that junk, whats it gonna do if I DO eat it?!

Hopefully you ladies don't think I'm being a baby about it. I'm just frustrated that I'm working out, and not even getting to eat what I want, yet still putting on inches Sad

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I'm sorry. Yes I do understand though. Is it possible that the increase in inches happened before pregnancy?

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Totally understand. Hormones do strange things to your body and your metabolism. My frustration right now is that when I am not pregnant, I have will power to not eat certain things and to eat healthier. This pregnancy I have been completely out of control, like my entire personality has changed. So while I know why I have gained 14 lbs so far, I still feel like my body is playing tricks on me. Sad
By eating healthy and exercising, you're doing the right thing for you baby and your body. Keep it up and my guess is that those inches will melt away after baby is born. :bigarmhug:

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I have learned through my pregnancy books that womens bodies start storing fat in the upper thighs, upper arms and back during the 2nd trimester so they have energy stored for the 3rd trimester when you are supposed to run out of room to eat well. It is due to hormones and a naturally occuring event that you cannot change.

I am battling the same thing. My thighs are huge. They seem to be getting bigger every day and it is frustrating (I even had lipo suction in my thighs in 2008 because my thigh area has always been a problem) - yet this pregnancy my thighs are bigger than they have ever been. My hips are widening too. I get so frustrated looking in the mirror now a days. I keep trying to be optimistic, telling myself my body is adjusting itself to make sure the babies get here safe and sound but it is hard.

:bigarmhug:

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Veronica - I would say yes, but I measured them like 3 weeks ago (after being fitted for a bridesmaid dress and being down about the size). Thats actually the measurement that I'm using as my base.

Beth - yeah, those cravings are wicked! You are only 2-3lbs above me - and I'm eating as best I can! So - I say enjoy what you are eating because it isn't adding up on ya!

Jennie - no way! Thats crazy!! I have never heard that...it does make me feel a little better though. And it sounds pretty logical. As far as your situation goes, I do know exactly what you mean about the whole mirror thing. It is definitely hard to accept the changes we go through sometimes. I'm sure it doesn't help, and at the risk of sounding like a hypocrite, you are carrying twins...I know that probably won't help - but you are definitely feeling it a million times more than us singleton ladies. Smile

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Any chance that some of it's muscle from working out? When I was exercising pre-pregnancy I was doing the wrong types of leg exercises and my thighs started getting bigger. It was quite frustrating at first until I realized the problem and changed to exercises/machines that toned more and bulked less.

Of course I also notice an increase in my thighs seemingly just due to pregnancy. Not too happy about it either since that is definitely not an area that I want any extra weight!

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This conversation is just so depressing. Smile

I (unfortunately) understand exactly what you mean. My biggest thing right now is that I have not felt any movement so I look down at what is usually a mostly flat tummy and see this protruding thing and I feel so removed from the pregnancy at that moment and feel like it is fat that has no purpose. I hope that Jennie is right and that my body is storing extra in the other areas for 3rd tri.

Have a good night ladies!

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What is P90x? could it be increasing your thigh size like bike riding does? have you tried maybe walking too that will elongate the muscles.
i've been struggling too. i'm STARVING all the time. i'm really trying to be smart on my food choices but its hard when there are so many snacky things in the house. (i work full time from my home, i telecommute)
i'm up 15 pounds Sad which seems like alot at this point in the pregnancy. sigh.......

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"nmc" wrote:

Any chance that some of it's muscle from working out? When I was exercising pre-pregnancy I was doing the wrong types of leg exercises and my thighs started getting bigger. It was quite frustrating at first until I realized the problem and changed to exercises/machines that toned more and bulked less.

Of course I also notice an increase in my thighs seemingly just due to pregnancy. Not too happy about it either since that is definitely not an area that I want any extra weight!

I'm SUPER interested in what kinds of exercises you were doing that bulked you up. Were they with weights? The dvds push more streneous exercises but less reps. I was always kinda worried that would bulk me up. I will say that every woman on the dvd's has legs the size of tree trunks! When we first started doing the disks, I literally said 'I DON'T want legs like those ladies' to my husband. I told my friend yesterday and she doesn't think its related to the workout because I've only been doing it 3 weeks and she says I'd have to do a leg workout everyday for months to bulk up? I tend to disagree though.

Jessica2575 - I completely see where you are coming from! I don't know if this is your first baby - but I know when I was pregnant with my first, it was super tough to gain all that weight and have that big belly out in front Smile I still BARELY feel any movement so I know what you mean.

bumblybees - Its an exercise program that you do from home. Its supposed to be a crazy workout (and it could be - not preggo Smile ) that is 12 dvd's I think? But it has a meal plan that you can follow and they break up the workouts into sections. You are supposed to do 6 days on, then rest one day. As soon as it warms up here (if EVER) I'm going to start walking after work around our neighborhood. And I'm with you on the food situation. I'm always trying to find snacks that are better for me. I had my husband pick up Special K Meal Bars at the market yesterday and I'm going to try and eat them as a snack to keep me full longer. Fruit doesn't always keep me full for long.

OH - and as a side note. I'm seriously such a goober some times. So I go home, and my husband is like 'Have you ever looked at the Klondike bars info?' I'm like - 'No. They are 100 calories, thats pretty much all I saw'. Yeah - apparently, each one is 10 grams of fat :eek: So, here I am, thinking its a delicious snack for just 100 calories - WRONG-O...and on Sunday - I ate TWO! For the past week-ish, I've had like one a night. Duh. So, needless to say, I won't be eating them anymore!

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wow really, I mean what do you ladies expect we are going to get Fat every and anywhere that is part of being pregnant. Our bodies are preparing us for feeding a and nurturing a new born baby. oh and i don't care who you are but the fat in the inner upper thighs seems to be there in 99% of women, it is jsut part of being a women, regardless of how much one works out. i am sure even the super models are all like" omg it jiggles and it's gross, i need lipo again." talk about vane.

So sorry I just don't understand why Women can't accept their bodies and love themselves, I am not saying don't try and be health but geez.

I know we all have those days, just like i don't look pregers/ or have the round belly yet, and while it is disappointing my mom said she didn't pop with me until 8 months, so yeah.

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"Chris_85" wrote:

wow really, I mean what do you ladies expect we are going to get Fat every and anywhere that is part of being pregnant. Our bodies are preparing us for feeding a and nurturing a new born baby. oh and i don't care who you are but the fat in the inner upper thighs seems to be there in 99% of women, it is jsut part of being a women, regardless of how much one works out. i am sure even the super models are all like" omg it jiggles and it's gross, i need lipo again." talk about vane.

So sorry I just don't understand why Women can't accept their bodies and love themselves, I am not saying don't try and be health but geez.

I know we all have those days, just like i don't look pregers/ or have the round belly yet, and while it is disappointing my mom said she didn't pop with me until 8 months, so yeah.

Chris, with all due respect, I find your comments out of line. Jaimers opened her post with "...I know that weight gain is a part of being preggo". I know VAIN people and they are the type of people who starve themselves and their babies because they refuse to gain weight and end up hospitalized at 34 weeks. Sometimes the changes that your body goes through when pregnant are hard to accept. Especially when you've worked hard to be healthy and fit. Sometimes it's nice to know that other women are struggling with the same feelings.
I understand what you are saying, Chris, but there is a way to say it that is supportive and helpful (what this board should be) without adding personal insults.

I have learned through my pregnancy books that womens bodies start storing fat in the upper thighs, upper arms and back during the 2nd trimester so they have energy stored for the 3rd trimester when you are supposed to run out of room to eat well. It is due to hormones and a naturally occuring event that you cannot change.

I've read this a lot too. It's amazing that our bodies are designed to provide baby with nutrition before and after birth.

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"countrygirl83" wrote:

Chris, with all due respect, I find your comments out of line. Jaimers opened her post with "...I know that weight gain is a part of being preggo". I know VAIN people and they are the type of people who starve themselves and their babies because they refuse to gain weight and end up hospitalized at 34 weeks. Sometimes the changes that your body goes through when pregnant are hard to accept. Especially when you've worked hard to be healthy and fit. Sometimes it's nice to know that other women are struggling with the same feelings.
I understand what you are saying, Chris, but there is a way to say it that is supportive and helpful (what this board should be) without adding personal insults.

I've read this a lot too. It's amazing that our bodies are designed to provide baby with nutrition before and after birth.

I never called her Vane!! I was saying that some people are very vane. I was not trying to make her feel bad in any way, but really we should love our selves, and I was in no way attacking her. was not meant to be that way.

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Chris - while I can appreciate where you are coming from and completely understand that we are gaining weight and all that, I'm not so sure I agree. During my first pregnancy, I gained about 30-35 lbs, but didn't run into any of the problems with increased inches (at least not the extent this time). I know every pregnancy is different, but I was just shocked at the difference between my first pregnancy and this one. And while I accept that I'm going to gain and grow in all kinds of areas, me eating right and working out yet still 'expanding' was just frustrating, know what I mean?

"Chris_85" wrote:

I never called her Vane!! I was saying that some people are very vane. I was not trying to make her feel bad in any way, but really we should love our selves, and I was in no way attacking her. was not meant to be that way.

While I didn't necessarily take your response personally as I do mostly accept my body for what it is - but I also do my best to keep it looking as I'd like by working out and eating right - some of the other ladies that also responded might have. I know you didn't direct this at me personally, but you did direct it to all of us ladies that responded to the post. We're all pretty sensitive right now in each of our own areas (body image, weight gain, etc.), so that might have hurt/offended other ladies that replied.

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I am sorry to all the ladies here , but this whole thread also upset me in the opposite way. I to am sensitive. Every women is beautiful and every women should love them selves for who they are. that was really the only point i was making, i was never saying don't be healthy or work out. Why must women and people in general be so obsessed with weight? I just really hate how society makes women feel about their body image. It does not matter what size you are, every one of us is beautiful.

I am sorry if anyone does not like what I had to say, but i have a right to my opinions and i would rather be honest with you all. once again i in no way intended to offend.

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I noticed that certain cardio machines tended to 'bulkup' my thighs more than others. Stairmaster and certain elliptical ones in particular. It was very frustrating until I switched to using either just the tread mill or the tread climber (I think that's what it's called). I varied the incline on occasion but mostly used speed to get my heart rate up. As far as weights, I stopped using the machines and started using free weights. This seemed to make a huge difference for me in terms of toning rather that bulking muscle especially in my legs. I bought a book that showed variations on lifting that targeted all the muscle groups and then used different exercises each time I lifted. This way by using the free weights I could better target the individual muscles in each group. I lifted weights (arms/legs) 2-3 times a week and then focused just on cardio the other 2-3 days. It was a little time consuming at first just learning the new routine, but once I figured out what worked best for me and got used to it it was very easy. This made a huge difference for me in terms of the way my body looked. I don't know that much about p90x, but not every exercise routine is for everyone. For me personally, I'm prone to gaining weight/muscle in the thighs and had to readjust my thinking to start to get the results I wanted. Once I did, I started enjoying working out more. Of course through all of this I also completely changed my eating habits and was eating a much more healthy, well balanced diet.

Sorry for the novel!

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Lurking...
As hard as it is to accept, I think as long as you are eating healthy and reasonably, you are going to gain what you are going to gain.

I had a really hard time the first time because I gained 54lbs (I didn't gain any weight until the 2nd trimester). I really stressed about it and closely monitored what I ate for several months. When it seemed like it didn't make a difference, I gave up and my rate of gaining weight didn't change. However, with BF, I lost most of those with no effort. I have a naturally thin friend who gained 15 lbs and was back to her pre-preg weight when she left the hospital and she gave up on BF because she could not keep the weight on and felt like BF was draining the life out of her. I think if I hadn't gained all that weight, I would have felt the same way. This time, I look at it as this is what my body feels it needs.

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I think it could totally be the P90X. For lean muscle, you need less weight (or strain) and more reps. Last spring I was working out like a mad woman and I was SO frustrated because I was gaining weight and not really decreasing in measurements...when I took my body fat % again though, I had gone down 2%! I had just gained a ton of muscle. I was able to trim out a bit when I changed up my routine.

As for gaining in pregnancy, it is important to gain the weight for breastfeeding purposes...I also know women that have struggled to maintain their body weight and produce milk after not gaining enough.

Personally, my thighs don't seem to be a problem, but I'm totally gaining in my back. WTF? It's hot here and i put on a tank top and couldn't believe it...and I've only gained 3lbs. Pregnancy is weird.

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I totally get where you're coming from. I work out and eat healthy.... i didn't gain any weight until 2nd trimester and when i did, it was like bam! and it's in my upper inner thighs too and it drives me crazy........ I know this is all part of pregnancy, but my body has never looked like this...kwim...... and one thing i keep telling myself....is it's only temp. I have laxed a little on the food choices, only cuz i was not giving in to cravings and watching what i eat, but still gaining and now i'm okay with some in moderation though... i figure pregnancy will probably be the only time i let myself enjoy foods i normally wouldn't.

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"joysiloo" wrote:

I think it could totally be the P90X. For lean muscle, you need less weight (or strain) and more reps. Last spring I was working out like a mad woman and I was SO frustrated because I was gaining weight and not really decreasing in measurements...when I took my body fat % again though, I had gone down 2%! I had just gained a ton of muscle. I was able to trim out a bit when I changed up my routine.

As for gaining in pregnancy, it is important to gain the weight for breastfeeding purposes...I also know women that have struggled to maintain their body weight and produce milk after not gaining enough.

Personally, my thighs don't seem to be a problem, but I'm totally gaining in my back. WTF? It's hot here and i put on a tank top and couldn't believe it...and I've only gained 3lbs. Pregnancy is weird.

Thats what I think too. I've changed around the routine I do when doing the leg workout. I do more reps of just squats instead of doing their crazy workout! I've definitely seen improvement in my top half (arms/back)...I just need to get that bottom half to cooporate!

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I just gotta say that you ladies that are working out rock! I am just walking modified push-ups and some ab exercises, but not regularly. It's awesome that you're keeping it up.