My turn to rant??

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My turn to rant??

I have tried soo hard not to be that cranky, pregnant woman but I am feeling like I am her now.

I have told you a little about my mom...she is "special". I have been pregnant for 9 months now and have seen her twice and both times because of my making it happen. She has never even asked to see me but she does complain that she does not get to. This is her first and will be her only grandchild. She never calls to check on me and when I call (which is less and less) all she does is complain about how hard her life is.

I am due in 2 weeks from tomorrow and I feel horrible. I have constants BH and they hurt but nothing is happening. I cannot sleep due to lack of comfort, having to pee every 30-45 minutes and acid reflux. I come to work everyday and get b*tched at all day by customers, co-workers and boss. I am losing it and quick!

My mom sends me 3 e-mails today (2 to home and 1 to work) asking for help to get her car which has been in the shop for weeks. She said that my sis (who lives with her) is very sick (which she has been for 10+ years) and has a Dr. appt tomorrow so she needs help to get the car today. She sent said e-mails at 715am so I know that she did not make the appt this morning. She had all freaking weekend to ask me and waits until 7am on Monday. I get off work at 4PM (or later) and she wants me to drive over 1.5 hours to get her during rush hour (way past my house) and then 1 hour back the other way past my house to get her to her car by 6pm.

I am sorry to complain and I am trying so hard not to but seriously????? She does not call, she does not write, she makes no effort to see me, forgets my b-day (for the 5th out of 7 years) and wants me to drop everything and help her.

This kid needs to come out soon b/c this stress cannot be good for her.

Thanks for reading...I appreciate it.

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joysiloo's picture
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I'm sorry that she's so inconsiderate. It sounds like she's pretty self absorbed. I would tell her to take a cab.

LauraMae78's picture
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are yo sure your mom isnt my mother in law??? :rolleyes:

Im sorry you are stressed! just take care of you and LO, that is what matters now.

Shoobie Doobie's picture
Joined: 12/31/10
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I'm with Joy...ask her to take a cab.

Don't give yourself anymore stress than you need right now, no matter who it is...

I'm being exactly that way with MIL - LOVED her before her 2 week stay with us in July for the baby shower - what was here with us, a spoiled 63 year old princess, was not the woman I'd been emailing...and I don't have time to entertain her bull**** and she knows it...

Don't be expected to do anything you don't want to do...relax these last few days...we won't get them again...

xxx

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:bigarmhug: Vent away! You don't need her stressing you right now. While I am all for helping family out, there is a point that it becomes ridiculous. Take care of yourself these last few weeks.

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Oh man. I'm sorry you have to deal with that. Doesn't help being 9months preggo! I agree you should tell her to call a cab, or maybe someone else she is more involved with and close to her.Try to relax ... Get yourself a treat!

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Joined: 02/26/09
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I am so sorry you are having to deal with all of that. Stress is not something you need in your life right now. I'd been battling with my own parents when I was pregnant with dd and I finally realized that I didn't need to take it anymore and that the stress was just too much. For a lot of reasons I haven't spoken to them since she was born and its a lot better for me. Too bad for them of course since my 2 are their only grandchildren.

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Thank you, ladies, for your encouragement.

I did e-mail her back and let her know that there was just no way...I have not been sleeping, the BH are driving me nuts, there was not enough time to actually do what she needed, I had stuff going on at home (we had a flood this weekend), and that I was terribly sorry I could not help but she needed to call someone else or a cab.

I assume that she got it handled and I do feel badly but I did not even get home until 6 tonight as I went to the Dr. after work to make sure they are BH and not real ones.

The midwife said that I am having constant contractions but they are BH and she offered to check my cervix but confirmed that they tell her nothing really so I told her there was no point and she agreed. Baby is doing super and I will see them for my 38 week appt on Thursday.

Thanks again!!

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"jessica2575" wrote:

Thank you, ladies, for your encouragement.

I did e-mail her back and let her know that there was just no way...I have not been sleeping, the BH are driving me nuts, there was not enough time to actually do what she needed, I had stuff going on at home (we had a flood this weekend), and that I was terribly sorry I could not help but she needed to call someone else or a cab.

I assume that she got it handled and I do feel badly but I did not even get home until 6 tonight as I went to the Dr. after work to make sure they are BH and not real ones.

The midwife said that I am having constant contractions but they are BH and she offered to check my cervix but confirmed that they tell her nothing really so I told her there was no point and she agreed. Baby is doing super and I will see them for my 38 week appt on Thursday.

Thanks again!!

Good for you hon, I know i can Be a people pleaser too, even if i don't particularly care for the person or am at odds with them. But some times we have to say enough is enough, and say no way. since no one else will for us.

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"jessica2575" wrote:

Thank you, ladies, for your encouragement.

I did e-mail her back and let her know that there was just no way...I have not been sleeping, the BH are driving me nuts, there was not enough time to actually do what she needed, I had stuff going on at home (we had a flood this weekend), and that I was terribly sorry I could not help but she needed to call someone else or a cab.

I assume that she got it handled and I do feel badly but I did not even get home until 6 tonight as I went to the Dr. after work to make sure they are BH and not real ones.

The midwife said that I am having constant contractions but they are BH and she offered to check my cervix but confirmed that they tell her nothing really so I told her there was no point and she agreed. Baby is doing super and I will see them for my 38 week appt on Thursday.

Thanks again!!

Good job not dropping everything to cater to your mom! I definitely would have done the same thing if my mom acted like that. And, just as a positive - I had a TON of BH the last few weeks of this pregnancy and at 37 weeks I was 2cm and 50% and at 39 weeks I was 3cm so you might be progressing! Any progress now is less you'll have to do during labor!