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Sorry, I just have to rant a little and all my outlets are unavailable to me. Why? Because my MIL finally joined FB (gee thanks - the one place I could at least suggest frustration), and I feel bad sending my hubby a rant email about his own mom. I'm staying with her 6 hours from home to be on moderate bed rest and closer to the hospital. It's been over a month and I'm going INSANE...

- when you have two animals that shed, one should CLEAN. Cleaning entails vacuuming on a regular basis, dusting, keeping the animals out of the kitchen/off the counters/etc. And OFF the furniture. Now, this is a tad hypocritical b/c I have two dogs that are allowed in the kitchen, but they can't reach the counters and are not encouraged to beg b/c they don't get table scraps except once in a blue moon. Yes, our dogs are allowed on two pieces of furniture, but we vacuum regularly!
- most people do not eat with their mouths open or make noises while they eat. Argh! A trait I am so glad my hubs did not inherit!!
- WW will not work if you have no self control. With triplets I'm supposed to be eating quite a bit daily. Sometimes I even bring in things that most wouldn't such as chips or cookies. I try to keep them in my room, but if I ever bring them out it's like the vultures circle. Today she was in the back room talking on the phone so I brought out a few pringles - when she came into the living room i hear "PRINGLES!" and she rushes over to grab some. She buys me food, then eats it regularly. UGH!
- it is 2011. You do not need to yell into the phone to be heard. I can hear phone conversations from anywhere in the house. This am I was trying to fall back asleep, which is not an easy feat for me at the moment, but instead all I heard was her talking to my SIL at 7:30am!

This all gets exacerbated because she was supposed to have hip replacement surgery which meant she wasn't going and doing anything. She had been a pretty active retiree, but the hip changed all that. It was initially scheduled for 4-25 but postponed to 5-13, and now postponed indefinitely because of a heart blockage issue. I do truly feel for her, but having two people basically bed ridden in the same house is making me crazy.

I just want my life back. I miss my husband. I miss my house. I miss my dogs. I miss my cooking, cooking with my husband, and my husbands cooking. God give me the strength to get through the summer. Thanks so much for giving me an outlet for my frustration. I'm just extra cranky today.

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oh sweetie....what a mess it sounds like you're living with. please vent any time. We're here for ya as best we can be.
hugs!!!!

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It is so hard to adjust to living with someone else...especially a MIL! I would just repeat the mantra "she means well" over and over and over in your head. That's what I try to do when my MIL visits (although, she's never here for more than a week).

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awwww, I'm so sorry!!!! There is NO WAY I could do that I would have my mother in law tied up somewhere! hahaha Maybe hospital bedrest would actually be "better" at least you'd have your own room and some privacy and no one getting into your food stash! I was on bedrest with dd and I know how much it works on your nerves. toss in a MIL and WOW! frame an u/s pic and keep your eyes on the prize (s) Wink

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I definitely feel for you. I can't imagine being on bedrest - let alone bedrest in a different house, away from my family, and living with my MIL. WOW - is all I can say. Feel free to vent any time. You deserve it.

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Ugh! I feel for you! While its a good thing to be closer to the hospital, I couldn't imagine being that far away from home! And I'm 100% with you...if you are eating, I don't need to hear it! In fact, I don't WANT to hear it...its totally gross! I hope time goes quickly for you! You are absolutely free to vent as often as you need!

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A shovel or frying pan to the back of the head will cure all this, lol. Then again you'll be having your baby in jail, if found guilty.

I say this because I think the same thing of my own mother!!! How sad is that?

It's hard to say over and over she means well, she means well, she means well. I try that and I just get so frustrated I cry. I gigle at the thought of me finally telling her off or just something ridiculous happening. I also keep a secret word document file and write letters to her that she will never see. This really helps me and I feel better and then I can chant she means well she means well. I am lucky to have someone who cares.

However, I still write her nasty letters she will never see. And I come on here and rant. Keep ranting and venting. It won't do you any good to keep it bottled up.

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I'm so sorry you're taking with this. I couldn't imagine. Thankfully I get along pretty well with my mil but I don't think I could handle living in the same house as her.
Have you tried taking to dh about it? Maybe he could talk to your mil for you.

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Thanks for all your support. Some days are just really hard - especially when I think I've got a few more MONTHS of this. I really like the idea of the word document, will have to do that. This was kind of my release w/o anyone related to it seeing it. Of course, in the right mood I like the shovel/frying pan idea too. lol

I really do like my MIL - just in smaller doses than actually living with her. Thanks again for the support, it is much appreciated!
~Stephanie

PS - heart issue turned out to be nothing, so hip surgery is back on for next Fri. I get next weekend to myself. Woot woot!

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Lots of T's and P's for you!!