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I apologize in advance. I have some pent up frustrations that I just need to get out. Please, feel free to join with me. I'm sure a lot of you have either expierenced this, thought this or just need a laugh. I think the man thing that brought this on besides my breakdown in Babie R Us as I was overwhelmed with all the damn products out there was having to wait in line to pee at work.

I don't even know where to start. Hmmm...

Okay first, I'm almost 5 and 1/2 months pregnant. I don't feel my baby kick, I feel some flutters, but I don't feel a definite kick, prod, hit, probe, slap anything. I feel a little butterfly move. This sucks, I want to feel it. And for those of you who say, "just wait, you'll regret saying that", remember I'm a frist time mom and I want to fell my baby so it feels real. I mean I still check the toliet paper to make sure there is no spotting every time I go to the bathroom.

I don't have a maternal instinct yet. I just don't feel motherly yet. I keep worrying that I am going to scream at my baby like I do my dogs out of frustration. Yes, I know I will realize the difference between my baby and my dogs, but this is a constant worry and fear. I fear I'm going to be a terrible mother.

To the other employees at my work: I friggin pregnant. Yes I am a bit on the chubby side, but I am pregnant. That bag cooler you point at has food and drinks for me and my child in there. I can't leave anything in the fridge because you people proceed to eat it. Also, how is it okay for you to do number #2 in the potty and when I go you make a big deal about it? There are only two stalls and I can't hold it. Also when a pregnant woman throws up, it would be kind if you would not run out of the bathroom screamin someone has the stomach virus and is throwing up. Get a life.

To my boss: This chair sucks. It's broke, you know it and I know it. Fix it. Also my pregnant *** can't sit or be comfortable after 8 hours. I get hungry, crampy and sorry *****y. I want to go home and I'm not suppsoed to get overtime,. Let me leave instead of having to help the other people who are out smoking half the day or watching YouTube.com. I do my work and get it done, quit punishing me. This is why I am quitting soon. Just saying.

To my SIL: I hate to break it to you but you are not the only pregnant woman in the world. I can not bend over backwards for you when you visit like my DB does. Just because you are two months to the day due before me, does not mean you can boss everyone around, nor do you know everything. This is your first child and you are 7 years younger than me. By the way, I'm not as big as you because I was sick and kept losing weight and instead of gaining. I finally gained like 5 lbs to your 30 and I'm 5'6 not 4'11. But I am still pregnant. My body hurts and I can't pick up after your ***. BTW I don't think it's cool that my DB does everything for you including put on your seatbelt and carry your purse. He already works, takes care of your dogs, cleans the house, makes dinner, etc. You are using him!

To my parents - actually my mom: To clarify, THIS IS MY CHILD. It is weird that you have an entire nursery and I probably won't visit more than 16 times a year. It is also weird that you keep buying tons and tons of baby stuff and won't let me and my DH have the opportunity to do so. I don't think it was cool that you bought both boy and girl clothes before we knew the sex. I also don't like you make comments or actions like oyu have some stake in this child. You don't. You were verbal abusive to me growing up and still to this day - can you for once be normal? BTW your son feels the same way.

To my DH: I love you. You are the best hubby anyone can ask for. However, you can drive me mad. I am in a nesting phase. That means we need to pick furniture and bedding. This 3 month decision is not cutting it. I want a decision! I am not going to wait, I want to get this done. SI that too much to ask for. I do not want you to paint the room, because you tried to paint both our bathroom nad the guest bath inone day and guess what? The huge masgter bathroom we use everyday still needs a coat of paint. This was 4 months ago! you really think I'm going to let you paint the nursery - do the touch up work in that room.
Also - and this maybe TMI for you guys - my boobs hurt. Leave them alone. To me they lok gross, hurt and I wish you wouldn't gawk, touch or whatever. I also understand my sex drive is higher and you knwo this - but that doesn't mean I want to do it every single day. Sometimes it's easier, less messy if you aren't around. TMI - sorry. Half the time, I feel like a cross between a pig, cow and ape. So I don't feel overly attractive and there is nothing you can do to fix that. Also, When I say my back hurts or my feet hurt get off the couch, stop watching the baseball game that ESPN will re-air highlights to and help me.

Other than that, this extra hair growth, seriously I could use it on my head, not on my face arms, belly, legs or where ever you feel like sprouting. I have never used this many razors in my life. Having lymphodema sucks, because my feet swell 4 times the size the normally are. It's attractive to wear support stockings and shorts or to have your feet swell and hang off your sandal. Acne - the only good thing I can say is I'm glad you took to my back and not my face. You're still gross and I dislike you. Lastly - my dry skin. Ugh I really really dislike you. I am keeping lotion companies in business because of you. Now every night my husband gets to rub lotion on me making me feel even more like a greasy pig.

Thanks and sorry to bore you. I feel tons better.

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"KerriWeasel" wrote:

I apologize in advance. I have some pent up frustrations that I just need to get out. Please, feel free to join with me. I'm sure a lot of you have either expierenced this, thought this or just need a laugh. I think the man thing that brought this on besides my breakdown in Babie R Us as I was overwhelmed with all the damn products out there was having to wait in line to pee at work.

I don't even know where to start. Hmmm...

Okay first, I'm almost 5 and 1/2 months pregnant. I don't feel my baby kick, I feel some flutters, but I don't feel a definite kick, prod, hit, probe, slap anything. I feel a little butterfly move. This sucks, I want to feel it. And for those of you who say, "just wait, you'll regret saying that", remember I'm a frist time mom and I want to fell my baby so it feels real. I mean I still check the toliet paper to make sure there is no spotting every time I go to the bathroom.

I don't have a maternal instinct yet. I just don't feel motherly yet. I keep worrying that I am going to scream at my baby like I do my dogs out of frustration. Yes, I know I will realize the difference between my baby and my dogs, but this is a constant worry and fear. I fear I'm going to be a terrible mother.

To the other employees at my work: I friggin pregnant. Yes I am a bit on the chubby side, but I am pregnant. That bag cooler you point at has food and drinks for me and my child in there. I can't leave anything in the fridge because you people proceed to eat it. Also, how is it okay for you to do number #2 in the potty and when I go you make a big deal about it? There are only two stalls and I can't hold it. Also when a pregnant woman throws up, it would be kind if you would not run out of the bathroom screamin someone has the stomach virus and is throwing up. Get a life.

To my boss: This chair sucks. It's broke, you know it and I know it. Fix it. Also my pregnant *** can't sit or be comfortable after 8 hours. I get hungry, crampy and sorry *****y. I want to go home and I'm not suppsoed to get overtime,. Let me leave instead of having to help the other people who are out smoking half the day or watching YouTube.com. I do my work and get it done, quit punishing me. This is why I am quitting soon. Just saying.

To my SIL: I hate to break it to you but you are not the only pregnant woman in the world. I can not bend over backwards for you when you visit like my DB does. Just because you are two months to the day due before me, does not mean you can boss everyone around, nor do you know everything. This is your first child and you are 7 years younger than me. By the way, I'm not as big as you because I was sick and kept losing weight and instead of gaining. I finally gained like 5 lbs to your 30 and I'm 5'6 not 4'11. But I am still pregnant. My body hurts and I can't pick up after your ***. BTW I don't think it's cool that my DB does everything for you including put on your seatbelt and carry your purse. He already works, takes care of your dogs, cleans the house, makes dinner, etc. You are using him!

To my parents - actually my mom: To clarify, THIS IS MY CHILD. It is weird that you have an entire nursery and I probably won't visit more than 16 times a year. It is also weird that you keep buying tons and tons of baby stuff and won't let me and my DH have the opportunity to do so. I don't think it was cool that you bought both boy and girl clothes before we knew the sex. I also don't like you make comments or actions like oyu have some stake in this child. You don't. You were verbal abusive to me growing up and still to this day - can you for once be normal? BTW your son feels the same way.

To my DH: I love you. You are the best hubby anyone can ask for. However, you can drive me mad. I am in a nesting phase. That means we need to pick furniture and bedding. This 3 month decision is not cutting it. I want a decision! I am not going to wait, I want to get this done. SI that too much to ask for. I do not want you to paint the room, because you tried to paint both our bathroom nad the guest bath inone day and guess what? The huge masgter bathroom we use everyday still needs a coat of paint. This was 4 months ago! you really think I'm going to let you paint the nursery - do the touch up work in that room.
Also - and this maybe TMI for you guys - my boobs hurt. Leave them alone. To me they lok gross, hurt and I wish you wouldn't gawk, touch or whatever. I also understand my sex drive is higher and you knwo this - but that doesn't mean I want to do it every single day. Sometimes it's easier, less messy if you aren't around. TMI - sorry. Half the time, I feel like a cross between a pig, cow and ape. So I don't feel overly attractive and there is nothing you can do to fix that. Also, When I say my back hurts or my feet hurt get off the couch, stop watching the baseball game that ESPN will re-air highlights to and help me.

Other than that, this extra hair growth, seriously I could use it on my head, not on my face arms, belly, legs or where ever you feel like sprouting. I have never used this many razors in my life. Having lymphodema sucks, because my feet swell 4 times the size the normally are. It's attractive to wear support stockings and shorts or to have your feet swell and hang off your sandal. Acne - the only good thing I can say is I'm glad you took to my back and not my face. You're still gross and I dislike you. Lastly - my dry skin. Ugh I really really dislike you. I am keeping lotion companies in business because of you. Now every night my husband gets to rub lotion on me making me feel even more like a greasy pig.

Thanks and sorry to bore you. I feel tons better.

I totally get being worried at not feeling it! And I'm totally with you-- I've never regretted feeling them move. It's ALWAYS been comforting to me and this is my third child. Smile I hope you feel that lil booger soon!!!

I did not have a maternal instinct until after DS was born. I knew I loved him more than anything but until he was physically in my arms, I had no maternal instinct. It sure did come then! Though, I have heard of it taking a week or few for it to kick in with other moms. And just so you know, I'm still learning and he's four!!! You won't always have all the answers. Smile

To your co-workers-- ok, they are just immature. Period. Tell 'em to grow up!

With your SIL, sounds like battle of the preggos! Maybe you should avoid one another for right now.....

As for your mom, sounds like my MIL, she'll get the hint after baby gets here though that all that stuff was a waste.

And for DH, they just don't get it. This, unfortunately, never changes from what I've seen. I think you look awesome!!!! I've seen your pix on fb. Smile

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Thanks - I wan tot give you a hug, lol. Smile

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To you: Baby kicks will come... Placenta in the front? And while there is a difference between Pets and Children.. I admit to yelling at my infant son... it didn't help, he just cried louder! Ha... some times you put them in their crib crying to catch your breath... happens to the best of us... Im sure your as "maternal" as the next mom. It comes from the love you provide and the worry that never leaves!

To your Boss: Good Gracious fix the poor womans Chair!

To your co-workers who eat your food: NOT COOL! Co-workers who run their mouth about a sick person in the bathroom: Do your job, leave people alone!

To your SIL: more people in the world then you, even pregger peoples & Help your husband.

To your mom: um its Kerri's baby... let her be the decition maker! But im glad she's excited about the baby!

To your hubby: paint.. and get it over with. Pick out stuff, its fun, not so bad. ESPN plays replays! Wait till Wifey goes to bed to "be by herself". Smile

To your hair, acne, & ankles: get used to the hormones...

* I hope that rant made you feel better! it was a heartfelt rant for sure! Smile

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Thanks Jessica! yup placenta is in the front.

It did make me feel better and ya'lls comments help. It's not like we can have toss back a few "adult beverage" and trade stories, ya know Smile

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I had to read your post. You made me snicker at a lot of it. I thought I was the only one with hair on my belly! I'm a bit ahead of you, but I still check the TP every time I pee. I can't help it. I'm sure you'll be a great mom. Yelling at the dogs is no indication. I've been ignoring the heck out of mine lately from sheer exhaustion, but I'm confident that won't happen with the baby Smile As for the boss, the SIL, the mother and DH, wait until you feel mildly calm and then tell them like it is. They'll be pissed for a while, but you can blame your bluntness on the pregnancy and at least they'll know where you stand. I had to have two good rows with my Mom and now she's much better. You will feel more confident about the pregnancy. THere is this wonderful, if very short, time where it feels real but you are not too uncomfortable. After you get there, things seem easier. You just feel happier about everything.

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OMGoodness, I am right there with you on some of this!

Take a deep breath. I'd repeat everything the PP said but it will be word for word.

((HUGS))

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Oh Hun, reallly big hugs for you tonight!

It's my second baby, and I still feel a lot of the things you do. I wonder how the heck I'm going to be able to look after two when DS can be overwhelming on his own! I also knew I loved baby, but it wasnt til he was born, and even a few weeks after that I really felt "maternal" instincts kicking in. they do hit at some point, but you never really feel like you know all the answers. You'll always second guess... It's okay to do that, you just want the best for your kid! You will learn to trust your gut, but even sometimes that's hard to know. I panic when I don't feel baby. I panic when I feel a bit "moist" down there, and I check for spotting daily too. Welcome to mommy paranoia:wink:

I think from your post and everyone else's, we all know how you feel. We all feel it to some extent. I could rant for hours on my mom and my mil. And DH too some days. But in the end, you are the mom, you know your child, and you will do what's best for them.
As for the work crap, it's just that. Crap. I'm sorry you get to deal with immature people on a daily basis.
Keep your chin up and smile. You have a miracle growing in you!

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Oh dear, you do need a hug. Did it help to get it all out at least? I totally get your frustration, at least you have people to vent to who understand.

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I feel ya!

My wonderful DH is a little comedian at times ... at my expense!

Besides that Hindenburg reference (!) from the other day, he's giving his friends the impression that all I do is lie by my side (just because I say I feel like a heffer doesn't mean I actually AM one!), put food in mouth as I watch Netflix. Oh and that's after getting out of bed at midday.

I said to both of them last night "Um, who are we talking about here, me?"

All light-hearted and laughed off of course but I couldn't help having to explain to his pal that although I have trouble sleeping or falling asleep (through his snoring might I add) until 3 or 4am, I'm still up and out of bed by 9am! And while I'm not eating for two, I am feeding myself or snacking on things our baby girl needs. I'm not spoon-feeding myself mayonnaise like he does from the jar OR drinking flavoured coffeemate straight from the fridge OR eating cream cheese out of the tub...hmmn...DH is having waaaay too much fun using the pregnant woman as the scapegoat here lol!

Oh and the boobs thing. I think men are either severely stupid or deaf. And stupid. My nipples sting like cu-ray-zay, they're constantly alert with the slightest bit of wind in the air and he STILL tweaks them or squeezes them with his thumb/index finger like it's putty. Coming from his sculptor hands...that is a WHOLE lot of friggin' pain. I scream so loud, it can't be good for bobo or sometimes I reflex back in horror and it makes me cramp my muscles including my gut and he forgets!

Grrrrr. Anyway, big hugs to you - anyone that gets in your way, just tell them to bugger off like I do! xxxxxx

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...and glad you got it all off your chest - it REALLY helps as you already know Biggrin

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My Dear Kerri! First, may i say the comment about "doing it without him" had me laughing so hard it hurt! but i completely understand where you are coming from! I noticed last nite that my belly is looking like an ape and i snapped out! LOL DH brought me a razor. As for your boss and coworkers... :fuoops: im not a fan of my MIL either, she wasnta grandmother to DH's first 2 kids and KNOW she wont be for this one either. she probably wont even buy us a onsie for this baby! seriously! OH, and you look amazing! i would give alot to look as good as you look! i should send you a pic of me and MY bare belly...YUCK!

i dont want to bore you with a big long post, but girl, you have my number!!!! USE IT! i'm here for you, talking to you would be a nice break from watching tv with the hubbie!! Biggrin

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I just want you all to know that I love you! Thanks for letting me rant/vent. I feel so much better and it's nice to know that I'm not alone. I hold up a non-alcoholic margarita and say cheers to all of you.

I hope you all have a wonderful Easter.

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:bigarmhug:

Glad you were able to vent and are feeling better now. I know we can all relate on some level.

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omg girl - thank you for getting out most of the thoughts in my head! You are so not alone, but you know that by now. I had to vent a bit on my fam while they visited these last few weeks. Every movement I made was met with "what can I get you, are you ok, what's wrong" and many more questions that drove me batty. I had to tell them to back off, as long as I'm still a little mobile I want to be a little mobile.

My biggest thanks to you is for making me feel less insane for still checking for spotting, freaking about any "moisture" and constantly worrying that they aren't kicking enough. I was in your boat of thinking I'm supposed to be feeling something. I do now, but still worry that I can only feel one or two - where's the third? I'm now convinced it's a never ending cycle for me.

Have a great Easter and certainly enjoy a non-adult adult bev! (must admit I'm pretty pissed at Mike's Hard Lemonade for creating new flavors for this summer... and margaritas too! ARGH!) lol
~Stephanie

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Lol - Stephanie. I am kinda mad at Mike's Hard Lemonade too. And it's starting to get hot again in Texas...dang. You can only have so much water

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I am so sorry you are going through all this!!! But doesnt it feel better to get it all out!!! I feel just like that sometimes! This is my first as well. My SO can get sooo frustrating!! I want to make him go stay with his brother!!

Just breathe, and know that in the end...its ALLLLL worth it once that LO is in your arms!!

*Sidenote* - i thought i was imagining all this freakin hair on my belly!! I havnet gotten it elsewhere, but jeeez...my belly is turning into chubacca!! And the acne sucks! Mine ended up on my face..grrr.

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:bigarmhug: Trust me you are not alone. I can relate. Seriously relate. Glad you were able to vent and get it all out.