My 19 year old sister in law, whom i've known since she was 7, now has a 7 month old son. She chose to have this child with a guy she'd known for a few months. She's young and can't support herself and has been out of highschool now for almost 2 years without a diploma!!!!!!!!. her Job is a nanny to a four year old child. but she's never held a traditional job. Her grandmother had saved some money for her starting from when she was born, so last year when she turned 18 she bought a new car with most of that money, but still has a car payment, and thats her ONLY bill. My in laws pay for her food, she lives rent free, her cell phone, and insurance all paid by my in laws. She's on a state program to help with food for her child. Because she lives with her parents you'd expect for her to help there, but thats a struggle. whaa whaa whaa... I have to take care of my child whaa whaa whaa. I can't stand when Im over there and she's yelling at my MIL to change her baby or when MIL and I are out she calls and demands more formula/diapers. I DO love her with all my heart, but it seems that even though shes a mom she's made no sacrifices. She's out with her friends and always asking for babysitters starting from her child's first week in life... she's already had two boyfriends after her child was born and frankly I am sick of it, but what am I going to do? She's not my child.
But my top blew off this morning at 6:30am when she called to see if I had a "spring break" UMMMM NOOOO!!! I WORK 40+ hours a week, AND GO TO SCHOOL AND I'M PREGNANT WITH A TODDLER! NO I won't watch your child so you can go fool around at a water park for a few days.:puke2: She keeps saying she needs a brk. but come on...life doesn't give you that, generally its MORE work when you get older.
I know she loves her child, but I have a hard time not being judgmental with her. DH is on the same page as me, and I think can't wait for his sister to grow up, but no one will ever let her feel the real consequences to her poor choices. Don't know what to say to her when she asks me that kind of stuff. :bangheaddesk: