soo.. i need advice

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Chris_85's picture
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soo.. i need advice

I have been missing from the form so much i hate to ask you all but i need advice.

I just had this feeling like some thing was off, and so i tested and got BFP!

things with Dh have been pretty rocky lately, and i am not sure how or when to tell him about or surprise #2.

see we went on vacation mid august and i had my Af the whole trip fast forward to Lilly and my Bday weekend, and bam we were going to go back to using protection, but in the heat of the moment well you all know.

then later that week we got into a heated discussion about ttc or not and going back to using condoms, anyway I am not sure we really came to any agreement since we have pretty much avoided dtd and he made me test which was way too early i rubbed it in that it was negitive, then i told him af came which i thought did, but that was 3 days ago, when in fact i only spotted for those days, thinking it would start and i just know i had to test again since BF has been very sore. I waited until he went to work and after Lillys nap today and BFP!

omg, i am tryign not to freak out. help keep me sane.:help1:

By the way i am thrilled to be prego again. I have enjoyed Lilly so much and i can't wait for her to have a brother or sister.

Nell4Him's picture
Joined: 10/25/06
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Sounds like it's time to have someone take Lily for a few hours over dinner time one night. You cook something nice for DH and be honest. Say something like "You know how you made me test and then I got my period? Well.. I thought it was my period but it dissipated and ... I tested again....."

:goodluck:

and

congrats!

Chris_85's picture
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thanks Janelle, i decided to write him one of my famous love letters, I just hope he takes he news well. i plan on giving i to him later this afternoon.

Nell4Him's picture
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KUP!! Smile

rebgrace's picture
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Good luck!

Chris_85's picture
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well it didn't go they way i pictured but i could have been way worse.

at first he was shocked, and then he had to say the dreaded "I told you so"

he says he is just scared, and doesn't think we are ready for a 2nd baby yet.
I know it will take some time for us to get every thing worked out, but ready or not here comes another.
I do have a hard time believing that he is not mad at me tho.

I do not want to feel bad or guilty for being prego, I am soo happy and my worries are else where.
I hope that doesn't seem selfish.
Babies are blessings.

Nell4Him's picture
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Pick up and move forward. You have no choice in the matter anymore, you are pregnant and you are going to be expanding your family with the new addition.

Now, do not confuse what I just said with "LEAVE YOUR HUSBAND!" That's totally not what I am saying. I am saying. No matter how your feel (or he feels) you will have to simply get over it. Wink

Also, not telling you there is no point in feeling sad, mad, scared, regretful, etc. Feel what you need to feel and pick up and move forward. Smile

HH9M

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Congrats. I agree with Janelle. It is what it is and ready or not here baby comes. He's got 9 months to get ready. you guys will be fine and at least he communicated with you that he's scared. its alot more than most would have admitted to. so keep up the lines of communication and burst with excitement. you deserve it.
hugs and congrats and YAY!!! a new baby on the way. very happy for you HH9M!!!

Chris_85's picture
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Thanks everyone, but sadly our journey ended, i have a little angel now. it just wasn't meant to be.
I am dealing with a lot of emotions right now. I just knew something wasn't right and i am sure i will heal in time.

Nell4Him's picture
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Oh sweetie. I'm sorry. Sad

:bigarmhug:

grovey2's picture
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big big hugs girl.....

bumblybees's picture
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oh sweetie...i'm so sorry. time yes will heal but you'll never forget. and that's ok. Hugs Hugs Hugs

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I'm so sorry for your loss (hugs)

Joined: 03/06/09
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I've been MIA too. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, Chris. I hope you and your little family are finding peace.