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spoiled?

already???? for the past few weeks brinley cries every time i put her down? i thought she was too young for this? my dd was very very fussy, cried all the time.... just nightmarish.. i see brinley going down the same rd. is she too young to be left to cry it out? what should i do, i don't know that i can go through what i did w/ dd. she was my first and had a lot of time to sit and hold her... now #3 i'm out of time!!!!

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I wish I had some sorta advice to offer. But my girls are 16yrs apart and I can't let Poetrie cry it out. None of us can. If I am busy trying to fix dinner or do some other chores, my dd1 or DH has her or I try to get things done when she is napping. I know that might be kinda hard in your case.

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They don't recommend using CIO method until at least 6 months old because they can't self soothe before that. I wouldn't worry about letting her cry for a little if you need a few minutes to yourself but I wouldn't do it for longer than that at this age.

Do you have a Moby wrap or some type of carrier so that your LO will be held but you will still have your hands free to deal with your other kids or whatever you need to do. Have you tried swaddling? My DD would wake up after just a few minutes until I started swaddling. It made a huge difference. I hope you can find something that works for you and your LO!

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I was going to suggest wearing and swaddling too. My DS and DD1 was that way at first. DS I just held all the time because I didn't have anything else to worry about. DD1 had to cry quite a bit in the beginning because I had a 15 month old to take care of. But she became a really good baby by the time she was a few months old and became distracted by her big brother bringing her toys and such. My guess is she will probably start to outgrow it. I did have to leave Cassie to cry a lot, but she was one of those who would cry for 10 mins max and fall asleep....
Anyway, I hope you figure out something soon!

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I agree with pp, try wearing baby or swaddling. Or try a swing or vibrating chair? Whatever you have access to.
At this age I wouldn't CIO.... Heck I still can't do it and ds1 is two. Lol. Anyway at this point IMO I think they still need to be reassured that everything is ok and someone is there, they can't understand enough to self Soothe. What about trying a pacifier maybe?

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thanks ladies, I do wear her in a sling and she's fine there, but as SOON as I lay her down because my back hurts...she's wide open! LOL She won't take a paci, HATES to be swaddled, pukes from the swing....but she did sit in her bouncer seat yesterday for a bit while I folded laundry. I've been reading the book " the womenly art of breastfeeding" and it's helping me to understand a lot about why she does what she does. Thanks SOOO much for the replies and help, I'm praying this is something she'll outgrow, I've given up on the house...It'll always be here she won't always be little though.

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i would definately wear her in a wrap. better for her and better for your back. alex doesn't like being put down much either but the wrap has been a life-saver for us. Smile

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I think the best advice I've ever been given was from a little old lady who told me "You can never spoil a baby. They're not food, and love doesn't spoil." I have totally lived by that since my DD was born. Now whether a toddler can be spoiled...;)

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"kilahmaree" wrote:

I think the best advice I've ever been given was from a little old lady who told me "You can never spoil a baby. They're not food, and love doesn't spoil." I have totally lived by that since my DD was born. Now whether a toddler can be spoiled...;)

that's AWESOME! words to live by Wink thanks!

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I am having a hard time also. Lily cries for hours on end no matter what we do. I will put her to the breast and she will suckle for a few minutes then pull off and scream, we will rock her and she will rest for a few minutes and then scream; she does this with everything we try. We got "Happiest Baby on the Block" and the same happened with all they recommend. I really do understand.

I found these 2 articles totally by accident and it makes me realize that I personally do not want to risk CIO and I will just have to trust that I am doing all that I can. Good luck!

http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/fussy-baby/science-says-excessive-crying-could-be-harmful

http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/fussy-baby/shutdown-syndrome

Good luck and please share what works for you as I need help also!

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"jessica2575" wrote:

I am having a hard time also. Lily cries for hours on end no matter what we do. I will put her to the breast and she will suckle for a few minutes then pull off and scream, we will rock her and she will rest for a few minutes and then scream; she does this with everything we try. We got "Happiest Baby on the Block" and the same happened with all they recommend. I really do understand.

I found these 2 articles totally by accident and it makes me realize that I personally do not want to risk CIO and I will just have to trust that I am doing all that I can. Good luck!

http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/fussy-baby/science-says-excessive-crying-could-be-harmful

http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/fussy-baby/shutdown-syndrome

Good luck and please share what works for you as I need help also!

Maybe Lily has reflux? My DD had silent reflux, which I think was probably worse than Lio's non-silent reflux just because it took us a while to figure out what was "wrong" with her. But she was constantly in pain. Once we got her on zantac she was a completely different baby.

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"kilahmaree" wrote:

Maybe Lily has reflux? My DD had silent reflux, which I think was probably worse than Lio's non-silent reflux just because it took us a while to figure out what was "wrong" with her. But she was constantly in pain. Once we got her on zantac she was a completely different baby.

I will have to mention that to Dr. when we go Tuesday b/c she vomits also. Not necessarily right after she eats though, sometimes it is 1.5 hours later and it seems to be a few tablespoons worth. It is frustrating to work so hard on making milk and then she vomits it up and never seems full. Thanks for the suggestion.