Teaching kids to wipe their bum/ OT

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VCoates's picture
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Teaching kids to wipe their bum/ OT

DS is fully potty trained but still wears pull ups to bed for accidents. Obviously, when he goes #2 I wipe his bottom for him.

We're started taking a diaper wipe and letting him wipe himself but he barely gets in their if you know what I mean and i end up finish cleaning him.

How do I teach him to clean his own bottom? I think I need to pick up those fulshable wipes instead of diaper wipes.

Anyone else have any advice?

I googled it and one women said her kids are 5 and 8 and she still wipes their bottoms. I'm thinking this is a bit redicilous. I do NOT want to be wiping my kids butts forever!

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We are dealing with this with my five year old who has been potty trained since he was two!!! I had just never thought much about it and always wiped his bottom for him. Well then, he started 4 year old preschool and obviously, his teacher wouldn't wipe his butt so he just avoided going to the bathroom (number 2) all together during school and oneday, I picked him up and he said his tummy hurt and he pooped (TMI) all over himself and the carseat b/c he had been holding it in all during class. He told me why he had done it and at first, I was upset with the teacher and I still don't think it was handled well, she should have come to me and told me that she had noticed he was having trouble wiping on his own (I figured he just didn't have to go in those 4 hours he was there or that he was managing on his own) but I understood why she didn't wipe them. So, I really worked with him on it and sent him with some flushable wipes (which his teacher still wouldn't let him flush, she made him put them in baggies and throw them in the trash outside their room so everybody in the class knew what he had done in the restroom) but I sent him with wet, flushable wipes b/c regular TP didn't do much at getting him clean and I think it just rubbed him red. He's pretty much got it down now unless he has "a bad poop" (like upset stomach). But, yeah, I talked to other parents and they, too were still wiping their 5 year old's bottoms just b/c they just didn't really do a good job and their butts would get irritated. My 8 year old step-son, obviously, I do not still wipe his butt and haven't since he was potty trained (b/c I didn't ever take him to the BR) but he still gets skid marks in his underware and I'll say he needs to be careful to wipe well. I think it's a kid thing, what child wants to spend the time to wipe their butt properly when there's toys to play with? Smile Eventually, they have something happen like mine had happen to him, or a bad case of irritation, and they pay a bit more attention to that job.

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Ack, I've been struggling with this too. I teach a 2-3 year old Sunday School class and obviously don't wipe their bums. So I've been hoping to teach DS to wipe his own, but he's very picky about getting it clean and wants me to do it for him. Plus, he's too young to understand that he can get bacteria everywhere before he has the chance to wash his hands (which he is thankfully very good about).
I am thinking keeping flushable wipes in his backpack are a good idea. Other than that, I don't really know. I don't want him to get irritated and stink because he's not doing a good job, but like you, I don't want to have to worry about it when he's 8. DD is now potty trained so I have two to think about, LOL.

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Hi i can understand what you moms are all saying... I am pregnant with my first and will get to experience this first hand ..however i have worked in the early childhood field for 13 years and have potty trained hundreds and i mean hundreds of kids... and one of the first things we have to be careful of is going into the bathroom alone with the kids.. not that happens to often but the child could turn around and say "mommy when i went to the potty miss so and so touched me down there" and with out knowing that they having a hard time with wiping the parents freak... and all we are doing is helping the child... i know its hard but like one of you ladies it's a kid thing and it will pass... but i understand its frustrating when they have sore bums and ruined underwear.. Smile hopefully it will pass and you will get through it.. Smile

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I dont have any advice unfortunately. We will be starting the potty thing soon with DS so I know eventually I'll be dealing with this too!! But for now, I think the idea of flushable wipes might be good.

Like others said, I'm sure its a "kid thing" to not care about wiping, or not pay attention to it until they get irritated or have an accident and are embarrassed etc. Its a "crappy" way to learn (hahaha sorry couldnt resist the pun, lol) but maybe its something that teaches them to be more careful. Its just like teaching them to clean themselves properly in the bath/shower, etc. One of those things they eventually take more seriously. Sorry I'm not much more help.

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"WonderWomanExtrodinare" wrote:

We are dealing with this with my five year old who has been potty trained since he was two!!! I had just never thought much about it and always wiped his bottom for him. Well then, he started 4 year old preschool and obviously, his teacher wouldn't wipe his butt so he just avoided going to the bathroom (number 2) all together during school and oneday, I picked him up and he said his tummy hurt and he pooped (TMI) all over himself and the carseat b/c he had been holding it in all during class. He told me why he had done it and at first, I was upset with the teacher and I still don't think it was handled well, she should have come to me and told me that she had noticed he was having trouble wiping on his own (I figured he just didn't have to go in those 4 hours he was there or that he was managing on his own) but I understood why she didn't wipe them. So, I really worked with him on it and sent him with some flushable wipes (which his teacher still wouldn't let him flush, she made him put them in baggies and throw them in the trash outside their room so everybody in the class knew what he had done in the restroom) but I sent him with wet, flushable wipes b/c regular TP didn't do much at getting him clean and I think it just rubbed him red. He's pretty much got it down now unless he has "a bad poop" (like upset stomach). But, yeah, I talked to other parents and they, too were still wiping their 5 year old's bottoms just b/c they just didn't really do a good job and their butts would get irritated. My 8 year old step-son, obviously, I do not still wipe his butt and haven't since he was potty trained (b/c I didn't ever take him to the BR) but he still gets skid marks in his underware and I'll say he needs to be careful to wipe well. I think it's a kid thing, what child wants to spend the time to wipe their butt properly when there's toys to play with? Smile Eventually, they have something happen like mine had happen to him, or a bad case of irritation, and they pay a bit more attention to that job.

DS starts preschool next month. I guess I better ask if this is something that he needs to know by then. He can't get into the 4 year program because his birthday is past the cutoff mark (by 1 month) but they still wouldn't let him into the 4 year pre-K because of his age.

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editing, accidentaly posted a thread here. placenta brain at its best. this is what happens when i read and think at the same time...sorry