Vasectomy reversal?

10 posts / 0 new
Last post
kilahmaree's picture
Joined: 08/28/09
Posts: 951
Vasectomy reversal?

Okay, this is going to be absolutely crazy, but... DS is 8.5 months old, he is my 2nd child. After he was born I had PPD pretty badly and insisted that DH get a vasectomy (before he realized I had PPD, otherwise I'm sure he would have said not yet). We had agreed before we even began to have children that when we were done, he'd get cut, so that wasn't a huge issue. But since "getting better" for lack of a better term, from the PPD, I am really heartbroken by this choice. I just always thought we'd have more than 2 children, and although I love my kiddos more than anything else, I just don't feel "done." I talked to DH about a month ago, and we only very briefly discussed a vasectomy reversal (mostly we discussed just being content with out two healthy, happy children). And I thought I was okay with just 2 after this talk...for about 24 hours. And it's like each day it gets more difficult to accept, even though I keep telling myself over and over that it's okay, and that eventuallly I will "get over it."

So, does anyone know much about vasectomy reversal. DH is significantly older than me - 41. What's the likelihood of it even working? DH is worried about the pain. He didn't think the actual V was too bad, but is afraid the reversal would be. And I don't think insurance covers having it reversed, so that's another issue.

If anyone has any insight on this, I'd appreciate it. Or maybe I should just be happy that I'm blessed with two beautiful, healthy babes and let it go. It's just rough. And because DH is much older, I don't want to wait forever if we do want to have more...agh.

Nell4Him's picture
Joined: 10/25/06
Posts: 2455

I don't know the statistics or anything. But I am in similar boat here. I had a very tiring pregnancy and delivery was tiring. So tiring that my body had a mass freak out/seizure thingy after she was born. I'm scared to death of the exaustion with pregnancy and the aftermath of delivery. So I had DH get a vasectomy. He put it off for so long (because he was afraid of the procedure). Then when he DID finally get it done, I wasn't as convinced we were done. I know it's a common thing after you do something so permanent.. but with my god awful hormonal side effects from the depo shot (that is due at the end of the month and we are not getting another), I can't help but wonder if our birth control failed us, and I'm scared to test because I have mixed emotions.

Yesterday was slightly difficult at the end of the day because I started looking at pictures of Evie when she was days old and started feeling weepy that she is supposed to be our last.

I'm not to the point of thinking about V reversal, but who knows. DH's V procedure did not go as it should have and he is still in a slight amount of pain (8 weeks out), so it would take BIG guts on my part to bring up reversing it.

:goodluck:

bumblybees's picture
Joined: 03/24/10
Posts: 559

Hugs. i'm sorry about your PPD. it sucks. i had some form of it after DS2 was born. and like you i could never get over the feeling of not being done. how ever much i tried. so we had a 3rd and it feels right...not that i'd mind if another showed up but its probably not going to happen.
but do some googling? have him/or you call the office that did teh V and ask about the reversal and cost and if insurance would pay for it etc. i don't know if its possible but can they still harvest the sperm and just do intvetro? though that's probably more expensive.
i'm rambling. but do some research and see what you can find. maybe that will help make your decision for you.
good luck!

Jessica.'s picture
Joined: 02/02/09
Posts: 424

I have no clue about it, but I hope you have more children if that is what your heart is telling you. You seem like such a good mommy. Best of luck either way. Smile

Joined: 03/06/09
Posts: 1054

I completely understand what you're going through and don't think it's crazy at all...It's so hard to know what you will want in a year or two (or a month or two for that matter).
The percentage of success is actually pretty good and the sooner he gets it done the better the chance of it working. Like others said, do some research. I doubt insurance will cover it, but I know there's a guy around here who does it for like $700. Pricey, but it's more complicated than the actual vasectomy. I hope you can figure out what's best for your family without too much stress.

LauraMae78's picture
Joined: 01/10/11
Posts: 969

i know lots about vasectomy reversals. Kendra is the result of one! Smile I cant give you statistics, but i can tell you the procedure is not guarenteed, ofcourse. You need a good doctor and a good bit of $$, most dr wont allow payments. Our reversal put us back about $7k and it was worth every penny! DH was 36 at the time and had the vastectomy done about 9 years prior. His age shouldnt be a factor in at all. It worked like a charm for us. Is there any way you can find others that had a successful reversal done and find out who their doctor is?
WOW Beth, $700 for the procedure, this is quite the deal...personally, i wouldnt trust that doctor. We had foun dr who would do it for 5K but this doctor had helped a few friends of friends with this so i went with the one i went with. Smile

Joined: 03/06/09
Posts: 1054

Laura, he's supposedly really good. I could be mistaken on the exact price, but I know it was less than $2K a few years ago. It's definitely best to research and go with the one who has a good reputation.

kilahmaree's picture
Joined: 08/28/09
Posts: 951

Thanks so much, ladies! We talked with the doc who did the V and he said minnimum will be 5k, which is good to know. Definitely have to sell our stupid house in NM first though, blah.

Beth - a random mom friend in my town ctually just told us her DH had his vasectomy reversal by a doc in Oklahoma. Said that's all he does, was super good, and very inexpensive. Wonder if it's the same guy, ha ha.

Chris_85's picture
Joined: 10/14/08
Posts: 675

I hope things go well with whatever you and Dh decide to do, i saw your post but have no clue, looks like you got some good advice tho.

LauraMae78's picture
Joined: 01/10/11
Posts: 969

That is awesome! PA has an issue with malpractice insurance or something being sky high, or so i've heard. I sure we had a good but cheap doc around here! Smile