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VBAC - Not trying to start a hot topic

Hi Ladies,

probably from my other post you saw that i'm going to attempt a second VBAC. i saw a few comments that people said they'd thought about it and are leaning more toward just having another section.
so i'm curious as to why?

Just my opinions so take them for what they're worth and my struggles.
My c/s was due to a comedy of errors (by an unexperienced Mom...me, and a nursing staff that was pissed that i was interrupting their sleep at 2am) that resulted in a failure to progress. so i was left feeling very jilted out of the birthing experience and a complete failure as a woman.
so baby #2, i was deteremined come h*ll or high water to have a vaginal birth, or at least have the opportunity to attempt one. I did not want major surgery again. Recovery sucked and i couldn't imgine having to do it again with a toddler running around.

had a great expereince and felt empowered afterwards. so i'm looking forward to the opportunity again

the'res a VBAC support board on this web site if anyone's interested.

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I had a vbac with my son after dd emergency c/s....I had placenta previa and it was a LOOOONNNG road with her. Anyway my epidural didn't take and I felt most of the c/s until they gave me versaid and knocked me O~U~T! I don't want to scare anyone....just saying I had a horrible experience with my c/s, recovery wasn't bad but I also had a preemie in the NICU to worry about and not so much about me. I LOVED LOVED LOVED my VBAC and plan on another one this time around IF my placenta will cooperate Wink In the end we all just want healthy babies and mommies, and even if we have different routes in mind on how to get there in the end we don't really know how things will go.

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2confused I totally agree with you. if my doctor pointed out a valid reason, like placenta previa, then i'd be okay with the c/s. i just need to be able to attempt a VBAC for my own mental peace of mind if there are no other obstacles. KWIM?

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"2confused" wrote:

In the end we all just want healthy babies and mommies, and even if we have different routes in mind on how to get there in the end we don't really know how things will go.

Absolutely right!!!

I'm sorta miffed with my MIL's opinions on this but have chosen to stay out of it for the sake of keeping peace in the family. My SIL wants to attempt a VBAC-- I back her up totally and 100%!!! My MIL does not and her reasoning is ridiculous..... her daughter cannot take the pain of a vaginal delivery. SIL says she's getting an epidural and vaginal deliveries are much easier than C-sections, so I hear, and the recovery time is better, so I hear. I say go for a VBAC if it's in you and baby's best interest!!! Smile

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my comment to women who are on the fence is "how will you feel when its all over, will you ever regret your decision not to try". if you can figure out the answer to that one than whatever you decide is the right answer for you.
there is so much data out there. i hope WonderWomanE that your SIL is able to make her own decision and ignore your MIL.

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I think that if you can do it you should. I know plenty of people who have had successful vbac, even some breach. I have 2 reasons for not attempting it, a) I just know in my heart that I can't do it, after what happened with dd I don't want to go through that again and yes I am wimping out and taking the "easy" road. recovery from a scheduled csection will be easier than from an emergency one after hours of pushing. and b) as stupid as it is the hospitals in my area won't do them, so if I wanted to attempt I would have to do a homebirth or drive I don't know how far to a hospital, while in labor yikes.
I totally support anyone who wants to do it.

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I would absolutely love to do a vbac with this baby but it is very difficult in my state to have a vbac. Only 1 place to have one and the hospital is just not what I want. I won't go into those reasons but I just wouldn't feel comfortable. The malpractice laws here are awful.
I also chose to just have another section because the hospital I had ds at, I went straight from my room to or back to my room. No recovery and I was able to nurse almost immediately.
It's ask a personal choice and I hope you are able to have a successful vbac. I know there are many women who have had one.
Even given the very minimal risk of a vbac, if I had more options, us totally do it.

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First off - I am not trying to offend anyone.

My view point is that every person should have thier own choice. I would support anyone on whatever choice they made. I do not want to force my opinion on anyone.

My choice is that I prefer c-sec. I do not regret a c-sec with my first, I look forward to a c-sec with these twins, and I have no desire to ever have a vaginal birth.

When they did the epi, I felt better than I had in months - it was bliss. I did not feel anything but good during the c-sec. I felt so good I was able to enjoy DD's birth. Afterwards, I had very little pain. I was up walking around without problem the next day. Scar healed quickly. When I was dismissed from the hospital, I had no need for pain medication. Because I had a c-sec, both DD and I stayed in the hospital for 4 days. I think staying in the hospital longer helped me recover and prepare for life at home with my new baby. Also because I had a c-sec, I was approved for 8 weeks of maternity leave instead of 6.

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I can't really comment because I've never been in your situation, but I know you have to research and decide what is best for you. Hope you get the birth you want!

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I've never been in this position. But Ive known people in this situation and everything turned out just fine. Hope you get what you want.

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"isuche02" wrote:

When they did the epi, I felt better than I had in months - it was bliss. I did not feel anything but good during the c-sec. I felt so good I was able to enjoy DD's birth. Afterwards, I had very little pain. I was up walking around without problem the next day. Scar healed quickly. When I was dismissed from the hospital, I had no need for pain medication. Because I had a c-sec, both DD and I stayed in the hospital for 4 days. I think staying in the hospital longer helped me recover and prepare for life at home with my new baby. Also because I had a c-sec, I was approved for 8 weeks of maternity leave instead of 6.

I was the same way. I didn't have an epi, I had a spinal. I had labored without pain medication so I hadn't already had the epi. I too felt great during the surgery. I recovered extremely well also. I did have to be on pain medication but not for long. My c-section really wasn't traumatic at all. Although I know that isn't always the case.

I wouldn't say that I'm looking forward to a c-section but I'm not at all really concerned by it.

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My decision to have a c-section again was made with many factors. 1) My labor with DS was 30 hours, more than half that time with no meds. I just took forever to dilate. When I finally got to 10 I pushed for an hour and half and then ended up c-section, DS was just under too much stress. 2) Our family dynamic is such we have no family at all near us. I have to consider my DS in this birth plan also. Who's he going to stay with? We have awesome friends that are considered family, but he has never stayed the night with any of them. My husbands job takes him away from us months at a time. So during that time I don't want both of us being away for a long period of time, that being if I was to do VBAC and I labor again forever. A scheduled c-section would mean friends watching DS during the day and DH being with DS at night. I have to make this as stress free on my little man as possible, he's only two. 3) Our hospital doesn't give us a choice. Which I think is bull! Women should have the right to choose which birth plan is best for them. The closest hospital that does VBAC is and hour and a half away. Again that takes me away from DS too long.
Sorry so long. There is just a lot to consider and factor in with each individual person. Whatever any body chooses it is right for their family.

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You ladies are very insightful.

you're so right every pregancy is different, every labor is different and ever situation is different.

I wish everyone a sucessful journey to meeting their little one with however your baby chooses to arrive......YKWIM.

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I hated my C-section. My emergency c/s was done after pushing and reg. labor and my epi didn’t work during surgery either! (I think Lisa knows what I’m talking about!) Lost lots of blood and yuckyness ensued and burning pain. I’m scared to death of it, so I avoid thinking about it. My doctors are waiting on the files from the hospital to determine if I am a candidate for a Vbac, and they are willing to let me decide the last couple of weeks once we see one last u/s to determine how big the baby is. If the baby is 9lbs or under I will go with a vbac, above that I will pray this time the c-section goes ok.  I wish women were given the option more freely, I think it sucks that hospitals take away that decision by not allowing it.

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Hi Jessica. i just noticed that my 2nd son and your son were born on teh same day 1 year apart. Biggrin

i know one factor they look at is the span between pregnancies and yours is greater than 18 months.
I only had a single sucture line instead of a double stitch done at my c/s so don't let them use that one as an excuse.

if you really want to do a VBAC. tell them that you'd like to have a trial of labor and that if baby goes 40 weeks or past you'll take the c/s as a sucession (as my doc put it they've got to draw the line somewhere).
if you do go VBAC route let me know and i can give you some hints that really helped me attain mine.

hugs!

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I will be having a repeat c-sec as well. I couldn't do a vbac even if I wanted to bc there are no doctors in my state willing. One hospital an hour and 20 min away will, but no doc will. THat being said, even as horrible as my csec experience was, I think I'm more scared of pushing it out. I know it makes no sense but its how I feel SmileSmile

I think whatever is in your heart to want to do, then go for it. I am def. a 'whatever floats your boat' kinda girl!!

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I hope your (and all of us for that) are able to have the birth we have planned, with healthy babies healthy momma's. And I totally get what you mean by having to give it a try.....I felt so impowered after having my vbac..like I proved to myself that "hey I CAN do this and I DID!" Good luck to you, and please pray my previa MOVES OUT OF THE WAY!!! lol