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VENT!!!!!!

Ok well here it goes ladies. Last week Dh and I had a bit of a fight....I said some things and so did he. Well one of the things he said was " just take your big butt to bed" GRRRRRR went RIGHT through me. I cried and cried.... told him to leave everything. well long story short he apologized and said he only said it because he knew it would make me mad. He's ALWAYS made me feel so pretty and like he just LOVES me being pg. this probably hurt me more than anything the entire time we've been married (nearly 8 yrs)

So after a few days I start to work through it and think that maybe he didn't really mean in, but still kinda feel insecure with myself.

Well today I called him and it sounded like he was at a club? I said "where in the world are you?" he says "hooters for lunch" Now mind you NORMALLY I wouldn't care really I wouldn't but after his remark and how I already feel like a cow, to know that my husband is BY HIMSELF at HOOTERS for lunch....... KINDA EEERKS ME!!!!! Am I wrong in this? I think pg hormones are in overdrive....he says "well I came here to get you some fried pickles" GRRRRR. BUT he's not getting any because they cost 7 bucks and won't be any good by the time he gets home. THEN WHY ARE YOU THERE????? HELLLOOOOOO?????

Ok sorry for the vent, thanks for reading.

Oh and an update I think I know what caused all my pain the other day, today I passed 2 kidney stones! :shock:

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I understand where you are coming from. It would bother me too. I would be pissed and most importantly hurt.

However, that being said I think you still need to find a way to work through it. We (3rd trimester prego's) are overly emotional right now and overly insecure.

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This sounds exactly like something i would get upset over since my hormones kicked in. i feel insecure now too, only my DH doesnt make me feel "pretty". When i say i feel huge, he says "well honey, your pregnant" :eek: i have yet to say "the proper answer is, dear, you look gordeous"! I would be upset if he was at Hooters too, but from what i hear men find their food pretty appetizing LOL DH got mad at me the other week cause dinner wasnt on the table. he got upset about something else and then threw in my face about how dinner wasnt done 2 nites in a row (Um, i work full time too!!!)...which made me feel like he expected me to have dinner done when he walked in the door. You know, cause as his wife it is my JOB to wait on him hand and foot. Now he never treats me that way and we share the workload equally. well, after 3 days of me not talking to him i finally told him why i was upset and i cried for an hour. he felt bad, but of course, im over emotional right now and blew everything out of context. Gotta love preggo hormones

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thanks ladies, I did call him and tell him how and why I felt the way I do. we kinda had it out then, but he just called back and appologized and said he knew it was wrong and shouldn't of done it. I told him if things was different and I felt like my "old self" it probably wouldn't of bothered me so bad...but I'm not and it did! LOL men are just wired SO differently. I know he didn't walk in there with the intentions of making me feel like crap or hurting me, I just wish he would THINK sometimes.

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aww :bighug:

Im glad you were able to straighten it all out.

i did the same thing last weekend to DH - got really upset about something and it ended up being a bit out of context but he hadnt communicated what was going on to me so I freaked out on him, and had a good cry too.
It definitely is the hormones. When I was pg with DS I wasn't nearly this moody. DH tries to kindly point it out that I'm hormonal when I'm going off, which sometimes reminds me to try to keep it in perspective. Doesnt always work out that way though, sometimes it makes me madder. lol

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I'm glad you made up. I completely understand though and I would have been upset as well.

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{{{hugs}}} Awww, I hate this whole part of the last trimester. I can still remember how horrible, fat and ugly I felt with pregnancy#3.

I really hope your DH can get it in his head that how you feel and just support you.

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"2confused" wrote:

thanks ladies, I did call him and tell him how and why I felt the way I do. we kinda had it out then, but he just called back and appologized and said he knew it was wrong and shouldn't of done it. I told him if things was different and I felt like my "old self" it probably wouldn't of bothered me so bad...but I'm not and it did! LOL men are just wired SO differently. I know he didn't walk in there with the intentions of making me feel like crap or hurting me, I just wish he would THINK sometimes.

it would of really hurt my feelings, too. the other day, dh made a comment about my stretch marks (he actually likes them) but the comment hurt my feelings b/c i don't like them. sometimes, i don't think they think before they speak-- ok, a lot of the time!

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Sorry your feelings were hurt. Never a good thing for a Preg Lady! Sad

MEN! humftp.

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I won't lie to you, eating at Hooter's by himself would bother me too....esp after the comment. I think I wouldn't be so upset if he was with people, but by himself? IDK, I'd rip him a new one Smile

I'm glad you guys talked. I know our hormones can be wacky while pregnant making us more insecure, but he also needs to be more careful with his thoughts and actions knowing that this is a tougher time for you....it's an adjustment for everyone.

I hope you are having a good day today...maybe you can use this as an excuse to get something nice done for yourself? A pedicure or massage maybe??? Smile

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Oh i have a good comment from DH that I smacked him upside his head for and told him he was clearly brain damaged that I wouldn't take offense to it.

So we are standing in the bathroom getting ready one morning and I was putting makeup on leaned over the sink. DH comes up and goes, I think you should get on the stairmaster and work your butt....um WTF!!! I said, thanks that's really confidence building to tell me I have a fat a$$ while I'm pregnant...he says no, I mean bc normally you have no butt and when you are pregnant you do, the stairmaster can make your butt bigger when your not pregnant.

Oh god, poor simple man my husband is!

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I am glad you talked and smoothed things over Smile

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I won't lie to you, eating at Hooter's by himself would bother me too....esp after the comment. I think I wouldn't be so upset if he was with people, but by himself? IDK, I'd rip him a new one Smile

I'm glad you guys talked. I know our hormones can be wacky while pregnant making us more insecure, but he also needs to be more careful with his thoughts and actions knowing that this is a tougher time for you....it's an adjustment for everyone.

I hope you are having a good day today...maybe you can use this as an excuse to get something nice done for yourself? A pedicure or massage maybe??? Smile

EXACTLY!!!!!! I told him if he would of been w/ people or if I was w/ him then it wouldn't of been so odd.... just best to avoid half dressed women when your wife is 8 months pg and feeling like poo!! lol

as far as getting anything good from him for it, he went out and bought the kiddos and I a pool, nothing fancy, but it's been so miserably hot here I'd wade in a puddle if we had any rain! LOL

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If you are close to Delaware you can come swim in my pool!!

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If you are close to Delaware you can come swim in my pool!!

aww thanks! but unfortunately I'm not Sad

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Men....sometimes they really don't think before they speak. DH and I are the kind of people that if we're pi$$ed at eachother or whatever then we HAVE to let eachother know. I don't know how people do the whole silent treatment thing. We usually get it all out on table pretty quickly.

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Men! I am glad that you called and explained your feelings to him. My DH and I had a blow up on sunday. But we worked through it and were back to normal by tuesday. It's definitely the hormones.

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Glad you were able to make up! And i would have felt the EXACT same way in your position! Hormones, or not...i dont think he was in the right at all! I mean my SO tells me i have a big butt all the time...but he likes that I have a big butt (since its been big my ENTIRE life lol) And its never in anger, its always him walking around the house singing "mama's got a big ol' butt, oh yeah" hahaha...hes very silly