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    I know we have had a rash of Preemies reciently. How are you all doing? I can not imagine having a baby in the NICU so long. How are you all holding up? Hugs to all!

    ~Bonita~

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    Doing o.k. We had a rough night on Saturday night but I think we moved passed it. Just everything finally getting to my husband and he broke down a bit.

    Trying to juggle everything is tiring but we are doing what we can.

    It really helps that Sammy is closer to home.
    Nicky Married to Dan on 2/28/08
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    Wow, 8 weeks in the NICU. I can imagine why that is so hard for you and DH. It took DH and I about 1 year to get our relationship back on solid footing after our time in the NICU and that was only 2 1/2 weeks. I wish I had answers for you. Maybe it would help to take one day off of everything (Work, NICU, get a babysitter for your other LO) and go out together. Big, huge, giant hugs!

    ~Bonita~

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    Thanks
    It has been rough and I thought getting him closer would help a bit but it's still stressful and with the hubby being home alone with the LO too he's been a lot more stressed then I knew about.
    Nicky Married to Dan on 2/28/08
    Mom to Sebastian, my lil guy who came 6 weeks early 8/27/11
    Mom to Samuel. my extra lil guy who came close to 14 weeks early 8/1/12
    and always in my heart forever s 1/23/03 &7/23/03
    Letters to Sebastian http://librababy.wordpress.com/
    Letters to Sam and also our NICU journey http://scorpiobaby.wordpress.com/
    Rasing the Brothers Phttp://raisingthebrothersp.wordpress.com/

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    It is very stressful no matter how close they are. Someone posted something soon after my LO was in the NICU that was very helpful to me in understanding what we were going through. You very much can get Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome from your time in the NICU. Just like a Soldier gets PTS from combat, so does a mother or father who has their baby in a NICU. It is a prolonged period of very high stress. The lights, the sounds, smells, and alarms will affect you for years to come. Knowing the baby that was in the crib next to your baby for weeks just died is just as stressful as the soldier next to you dying.

    Let yourself morn and recover from a very stressful time. For us, I was so busy first being on bed rest for months, then in the Hospital, and constantly visiting LO in the NICU nearly brought my DH to the breaking point. He was having to do everything. Work, cook, clean, and take care of our other two girls. He started to reach out to a young woman that was helping him with my girls. That is something that he normally never would have done (It never went beyond talking). It almost ruined our wonderful relationship. I was not able to be there for him. It took a long time to get over that time. To be honest, our relationship will never be the same. Instead it is a little like fine china. Once broken and mended, it will never be as pretty, but it will be twice as strong.

    I know you are very busy and worn down, but I encourage you to make some time to spend just with you and your husband.


    ~Bonita~

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    Thanks we do have a few things planned like my birthday on Saturday so that will be nice and hopefully help a little
    Nicky Married to Dan on 2/28/08
    Mom to Sebastian, my lil guy who came 6 weeks early 8/27/11
    Mom to Samuel. my extra lil guy who came close to 14 weeks early 8/1/12
    and always in my heart forever s 1/23/03 &7/23/03
    Letters to Sebastian http://librababy.wordpress.com/
    Letters to Sam and also our NICU journey http://scorpiobaby.wordpress.com/
    Rasing the Brothers Phttp://raisingthebrothersp.wordpress.com/

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    Happy Birthday!

    ~Bonita~

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    Got put back on the vent on sat... Getting 2 blood transfusions tonight. Doing good with the transfusions so far.. Hopefully I will be able to hold him again soon...

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    Hope he can get off the vent soon. I remember when Sam had to go back on it.

    *hugs*
    Nicky Married to Dan on 2/28/08
    Mom to Sebastian, my lil guy who came 6 weeks early 8/27/11
    Mom to Samuel. my extra lil guy who came close to 14 weeks early 8/1/12
    and always in my heart forever s 1/23/03 &7/23/03
    Letters to Sebastian http://librababy.wordpress.com/
    Letters to Sam and also our NICU journey http://scorpiobaby.wordpress.com/
    Rasing the Brothers Phttp://raisingthebrothersp.wordpress.com/

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    Quote Originally Posted by NYMommy04 View Post
    Got put back on the vent on sat... Getting 2 blood transfusions tonight. Doing good with the transfusions so far.. Hopefully I will be able to hold him again soon...
    Aww, I hope you can hold your baby soon too. That has got to be so hard.

    ~Bonita~

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