So I thought I'd start this thread.
Updates? How is everyone And there kiddies doing. Anything new happening?
Well, Easton is getting his helmet today. I am frustrated because my insurance will not pay for it. Both the boys measured more than two standard deviations from normal (and would hence qualify them to have insurance pay for it if my insurance would pay for it) but Ashton's is not as noticable as Easton's. I really can't afford two so I am just getting one for Easton.
It bothers me because a lot of people make comments about it without knowing they are doing it. I want it fixed before he gets teased as a child where he understands he is being teased.
The boys are rolling pretty good now and they like to look at each other and touch each other. They are definitely starting to interact which is cool.
How about you? Anything new?
I just realized the picture in my signiture shows why/where they have flat spots. The picture was taken the day they were born. Easton's flat spot is straight across the back and his head has grown wide instead of long. It is because he couldn't move his head left to right much when he was born, it was always straight forward.
Ashton's flat spot is behind his ear on his right side - the side he is laying on in the picture. His spot was really bad at 4 months and started to push his eye/forhead forward but I started repositioning him on his other side and it self corrected a lot.
Jennie- Do the boys receive PT to help with the torticollis? I am sorry to hear that you are struggling with your insurance. That is very common. When I was researching if we needed a helmet for Keira, I found that most insurance companies will not help out with a helmet because it is seen as cosmetic and not medical. It is very frustrating. We have several MoMs here that have experience with helmets. If you have a question about them, I am sure someone will have an answer.
What sort of comments are you getting? Doesn't it floor you how often people just vomit out their words without really thinking about them?
AFM - The girls are as active and funny as ever. As much as I cannot wait for the age of rational thought and better language skills, I do really love toddlerhood. The innocence and the way the girls say their words. It is just too cute. Keira is finally calling Isaiah, "Zayza." It was "eye-yah" before. My girls have still not figured out how to call each other by their names. Keira is starting to say Sara more now. However, Keira is still "meena." If you tell them her name is Keira, they look at you and say, "Meena." I can even have them slowly repeat all the letter sounds in Keira and then they will say "Meena." GAH!!!!!
The other thing that amazes me is how well the girls understand each other. There are times that I have no clue what is being said, but they do. They do things for the other one when we cannot figure out what they mean, and they follow each other's directions.
We're ok here. What I've been up to..
I'm re-booting the breastfeeding efforts so I'm only pumping 1-2 times per day instead of nearly all feeds. This is because C suddenly got awesome at it and can drain a boob in 7 minutes with only about 30 seconds of non-toe-curling pain at the start due to too-worn boobies. D is still terrible at it but we're still seeing a lactation consultant weekly and her tongue is apparently fine but her mouth is just little so we're giving the nipple shield a try. I asked about the concerns I hear with those and was told, "Yup, they're only to be used if nothing else is working but before you give up." The nipple shield sometimes helps tremendously (a full meal in 20 minutes!) but other times makes her scream.
I got together with some other twin parents with 0-6 month-olds last week (and the babies) and that was good but exhausting.
I twice made lunches for my boyfriend to bring to work and both times he forgot it so those efforts won't be renewed for along time to come.
The weather here has been absolutely gorgeous but the endless cycle of feeding and diapering mostly keeps me inside. I also dread going out because that means showering which I *should* love but really hate because I can't get the boobs to stop gushing afterward, and also getting dressed. I seriously need some fat lady clothes that fit but my body is so freakishly awkwardly shaped now. Nothing fits.
The babies are both smiling now though so there's the good news!
Jennie- im so sorry about the helmets, insurance compnies can be such a pain in the butt. I was worries about brad because he had a dent in the side of his head but it's been working itself out and you cant even notice it.
Mel- I swear even at this age they communicate with one another. When one is upset the other always starts to touch and get closer almost to try to comfort the other. So sweet.
Shelia- you crack me up, I love reading your post. I made DH lunch a few times and,just like your boyfriend, he forgot it. One the bright side, I didn't have to make myself lunch. I'm also in a twins group and there's about 15 of us that meet once a month, pretty busy. And yay for smiles, they're the best at 2 in the morning and they refuse to sleep, the big toothless grins make you happy again!
As for us...we are good. DH has been working an insane amount of hrs so its just been us, so I'm exhausted. Sleeping has gotten a little better, they wake up every 3-4 now, with the occasional horrible night through in. They ate rolling, although I don't think it's always intentional. Kaylee has found her voice and is screaming, a lot ! Brad is laughing a lot more now too.
This weekend will be the first weekend that DH has had off since Xmas and we got babysitters so we heading out. I'm do excited but I'm worried about how painful my boobs will be after going do long without feeding.
We had to start supplementing Kaylee with 1-2 bottles at night. I find it helps her to sleep a little better.
That's about it.
Jennie, my boys both had helmets, one having tort. They both were born with flat spots, and we tried repositioning, but it just didn't help much We knew Abram might need one because of the tort, but thought Wyatt was fine (even though dh noticed a crease in his forehead his first day), but after seeing the helmet ppl, we looked more at Wyatt, and he was just as bad as Bram. Thankfully our insurance covered both, however the first fell under the $3k deductible we had that year, so we paid it entirely out of pocket, but Wyatt's was only $400. lol. Is it anything you can dispute with your insurance? It was definitely money well spent, but holy pricey! Also, I really wish I would have kept the boys in them longer. They started them at about 7 an 8mo, and at 12mo they ortho said their head starts growing so much slower that they would need at least 9more weeks in it, and that their heads were totally in the normal range. But I still look at it (especially Abram's in the back) and wish I would have kept them in at least 9 more weeks.
Mel, cute that their girls are saying names more, even if they are not quite right. lol. Abram says his name as "a-bum" something like that, I can't remember, and cannot get him to say it often. He calls Wyatt, "White". Wyatt doesn't say his name and maybe says "A" for Abram. But they both say Tuck super clear and call Brilee, "Bwi-wee". They can also say Rachel and Brian, which cracks me up. lol
I love that they help each other!
Shelia, glad breastfeeding is going better! Yay for you for sticking it out! I think my dd had a terrible latch, but being my first I did not know better. She always clicked and still has a small mouth. It hurt so bad for at least a month, where I would cry and kick my legs every single time and dh would just tell me to pump, but I was determined that if I had natural childbirth I could sure as heck breastfeed. lol. It did get better, thankfully.
Krista, sorry you are so tired, the exhaustion of babies is awful sometimes! Wyatt has been a sleeping stinker lately and screams bloody murder like 3 times a night. And then I think I definitely want more sleep before I will ever want another baby (if ever! lol). How nice for you to get out with the dh! Much needed! Hope the milk makers handle it well!
As to us: The boys are funny and love imaginative play. They LOVE trains and Polar Express right now, Brilee made a bunch of tickets out of construction paper with a train on them, and Abram needs one every day, and we have to punch it with a staple remover. Then he stands on his train bed and drops the ticket to let it flutter to the floor and says, "ooze ticket!" (lose ticket). They like to pretend anything train, riding horses, etc. it is fun to watch. They play well 50% of the time and the other times are fighting over the blue plate for lunch, the trains (of course the one train we have two identical ones they could care less about, and only fight over the other 5 trains that don't have a match, different wanted train every day), seats on the couch, who sits in which carseat, etc. Its really fun. They LOVE to destroy their rooms at naptime, thats great fun too. But then they do something so cute, like Wyatt needing his lots of loves and snuggles, or Abram today, I asked him where my phone was, and he said, "ate. tummy." I asked him, "you ate my phone?" and he nodded and lifted up his shirt and showed me his hand. I said, "there's no phone there." and he opened his hand wider, said, "open" and put it to my face and said, "hi". lol.
Shelia- how is the bfing going? Youre awesome for keeping it up.
I'm at nearly 100% with my boy. He gets all boob with some the leftover bits of his sister's pumped milk before it has to be thrown out and maybe 2 oz of formula at night. I'm having all sorts of eating issues with my girl. After a nipple shield full of blood a couple of days ago, I'm ready to call it quits. I'll continue to pump for now (she is getting maybe 80% boob milk) and see a lactation consultant one more time. I get that sometimes people are able to breastfeed a baby and sometimes not, and even that one mother might breastfeed one baby and not the next one a couple of years down the road, but with twins I feel awful. "Hi, here's the one I breastfeed and the one I don't."
Shelia, I think you are way too hard on yourself. I would have gave up a long time ago. You should be proud of yourself for going this long.
Sheila - Please don't be so hard on yourself. It is not your fault that baby girl is having more difficulty with breastfeeding. Even though you had twins, they are still two unique individuals with their own unique personalities and physical make-up. There is not much you can do if your little sweetie just cannot figure out breastfeeding. You have given it a great try and are really persevering.
Here is one thing I can say, I breastfed my first for 6 months. I did not let my twins even touch me. They were formula fed from the very beginning. I just knew that my personality could not support breastfeeding twins. I felt kind of bad about it at the beginning, but my girls are just fine. I worry about them more, but I think that is because they are #2 and #3. They have a brother who is almost 6 years older and our attention is so divided that I just don't feel like I do enough to support their learning.
Shelia, you are doing great! Breastfeeding is hard work, and obviously times two is even harder. I think some babies just do not bf well. I think my first had no idea what she was doing and it took some work (no where near as much as you are going through), but had seen been a twin, yeah, who knows. Do what you need to do. Breastfed babies thrive, formula fed babies thrive, you're feeding them, thats what matters!
Thanks guys. I'm up pumping for my girl now. I'll pump today and see about tomorrow. If I pump tomorrow, I'll keep that up and see about the next day again. It's crazy, I just put my boy down in the co-sleeper next to his sister and he seems to be twice her size. She has hardly grown since birth. This clearly extends beyond some inability to latch. Even bottle feeding is a struggle.
Shelia, we are the same here. I always get the comments about how much smaller Kaylee is to Brad. I even had a rude person while on a shopping trip comment on the fact that they dont even look like twins because he was so much bigger. That just rubbed me the wrong way. Brad was a little bigger then her at birth and then he just took off and she lagged behind a bit. Brad has been 2 lbs bigger ever since. He has a much harder suck and a better latch and she is lazy and easily distracted. Throw reflux on top of that and you have a smaller baby. Brad is in 3-6month clothes and just got put in 2s and Kaylee is still trying to fill out 0-3 (she had a NB onsie on yesterday) and 1s are just fitting her nicely now. I just hate the constant comments about how much smaller she is, maybe Im reading too much into it, but I feel like ppl are implying that I do more for Brad and look after him which is why he is so much bigger.