Boy it sure is slow around here!

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Boy it sure is slow around here!

I know I've been MIA for a while myself. Life has been crazy busy for us.

Alaina and Aiden just turned 2 on Dec 29. They are a handful, but a good handful. Everyone in our house is unfortunately sick ATM. Blah!

And to boot, I just found out on Wed that I'm expecting again. My beta was high enough for this pg to be another set of multiples. I know it's not a clear indicator, but now I'm nervous. Our 1st u/s is scheduled for Jan 21.

How is everyone else doing?

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Hi Danielle! It is so good to see you post here! It seems like everyone is missing anymore. I am not sure if they are lost in the land of Facebook or if life is just so busy that they cannot find the time to post here. It is sad. Sad

Congrats on expecting again! Yay! My beta numbers never ever pointed to twins, except when I found a website actually detailing beta numbers for twin pregnancies. My numbers were never exceedingly high. You just never know. If you are expecting twins again, at least you know what to expect. Smile I am not sure if that is good or bad. I will say that I enjoy my twins more and more as they get older. 3 is challenging, and yet so much fun.

We are doing well. Super busy..overwhelmingly busy really. I am ready for a long vacation. Smile

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We are doing well - the boys are 4.5 months old. Right now, we are dealing with getting them to STTN. They mostly just wake and fuss and need patted, but the past week or so, they are back to wanting to eat between 3-5am. Sad I'm ready to get some sleep! They were just both sick too - one with RSV and an ear infection, the other with a cold and ear infection. Thank goodness they are better! We also had to find another sitter for them - my sitter was my SIL (who watched my DD), who basically told me she couldn't handle watching the boys - she only gave us a month! Luckily, they started at the new sitter last week and seem to be doing great so far - she's very nice and highly recommended!

Other than that, they are great - more interactive, laughing, smiling, grabbing things - oh so cute!! I LOVE the double fun! Smile

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I stopped coming around because it was so slow! Congrats on baby #3 and possibly #4! As hard as the first few months were, I think I'd enjoy having twins again. When are you due? The Twins are awesome. They are at that age where they are playing and interacting and learning from one another, although they fight a lot, too! Still bfing which is surprising to me considering I was sure Kaylee was weaning a couple of months ago. Brad is STTN but Kay is still a battle. Most nights she only wakes once (which I believe is more out of habit) but they are both getting a number of teeth right now so I think thats why its so bad for her right now. Other then that we are great Smile

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We got some help during the day. DH's cousin is coming over for a few hours 3 days a week. I hope we can work up to leaving her with the twins by herself from time to time (she is in college studying speech pathology), but I can barely make it with both of them at the same time... you know when they fuss at the same time and hungry at the same time, etc. it can get overwhelming and I am their mother. Meanwhile she does whatever needs to be done and it is nice having an extra set of hands, plus my 4 year old loves her and she gives him the 1:1 attention that he is craving right now. We overpay her but she is family. It will get awkward if things don't work out with her, but she has a great personality and we will just have to see.

The twins are 12 days old. I am finally feeling up to taking some photos of them... so hopefully will get to that today. Anyway, our house is peacefully and wonderfully quiet. It was so nice to get rid of family yesterday. Tonight we are going to MILs for dinner; she used to take my just-turned-4 DS once per week, overnight, but since my c-section/bringing home the babies, he wants nothing to do with her. We appreciate her help and are trying to "normalize relations."

Calling the LC today for help figuring out my nipple soreness. We are two weeks out and it doesn't really seem to be getting better.

Tiffany

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I'm here! Smile

Congratulations, Danielle! Can you imagine how awesomely comparatively easy it would be with one baby? I hope all is going well for you and the maybe baby.

Dang, Tiffany. You sound like you have it all together. Impressive!

Mine are 13 months now. My big guy sleeps through the night a couple of nights per week. On the days he gets up once I could probably get him to sleep in his crib again with a little effort but I usually just lie down with him on the mattress in his room. My girly still needs her swing to fall asleep but at the moment she's yelling in her crib while I boob the big guy - I thought I'd give the crib another shot for a nap but it's not working well. She gets up a couple of times every night so she stays in our room and we just pull her in our bed and are mostly down to just offering water at night. During the day though they're getting more fun by the minute! My boy seems to be copying everything I do and is learning new skills all the time. My girly continues to be a bit behind but her running impresses everyone since they think she's like 6 months old!

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Tiffany: I'm so jealous you had help. I begged for help and everyone was too scared. DHs mom came for a night and was actually a lot of help when they were two weeks old and then a friend came for a night when they were three weeks old and that was it. Ppl are so scared because their are two. I'm going out next weekend for a girlfriends bachlorette and it will be the first night I'll have been away from them and they are 16 month! (ok now I'm just complaining!).

Shelia: How are your kids 13 months, seriously? And we are kids sound exactly the same, its kind of crazy. If I had only had Kay, she would have totally been a co-sleeper. Shes so bad. Its starting to drive me nuts. What I'd give for 8 hrs sleep. But I love my kids! Are you still pumping too?

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Yay! So glad to hear from you all. My 2nd beta was 2727 so they had me go in for an u/s on Monday and another beta. It was 9030, and we only saw one empty sac-- I wasn't even 5 weeks, so no surprise there. But unless we are having identical twins, we're just looking at one this time. Instead of going back on Monday the 21, we'll have another u/s on the 23rd. While I can imagine one being so much easier than 2, at least I know what to expect. Smile A&A

Tiffany: Are you using nipple shields? I hope the LC can give you some insight. Bfing twins isn't always easy, but it is doable. Mine self weaned at 15.5 months. It was bittersweet.

Here's my annual update about A&A on their website:

"They have learned so much this past year. They learned how to stand up all alone, how to walk, and how to talk. They now have well over 100 words in their vocabularies. They know most of their colors and shapes, as well as many animals and what sounds they make. Monkeys are one of their favorites! Smile They can name nearly all of the letters of the alphabet and numbers 0-10. They are beginning to speak in simple 3-4 word sentences and are understanding concepts such as first and next/ now and later. They love books, puzzles, and other toys that make them think, or allow them to pretend.

While the year was filled with many fun and exciting new things for them, it also held some less than pleasant and rather scary ones as well. Aiden had two febrile seizures, one in February and the other in May. I returned to work in March, so they had to go to daycare where they battled ear infections for nearly two months. Alaina had tubes put in her ears in May. In June Honey-Bunny began to keep them during the day so they wouldn't have to go to daycare anymore. Aiden had tubes put in his ears in July. On November 4 we converted their cribs to toddler beds. They have done surprisingly well, but sometimes I think they miss the feeling of being enclosed.

It's so hard to believe that two years have already gone by. As we get older, time seems to go faster. Over the years, I know I have wished for things to go by with haste. However, I do believe that this is the only time I've ever wished for it to slow down. Sure I wanted spring breaks, summer vactions, etc. to be longer. Who doesn't? But that was wishing for more time, not for time to slow. Alaina and Aiden are growing up so fast. While it's a lot of fun to watch them learn and grow, I am constantly aware of how quickly it's going by. Seeing as how I can't change the speed of time, I want to try and live in the moment as much as possible. Once a moment is gone, it is gone for good. 2012 was a good year for our family. We made lots of new memories to cherish and hold dear. Here's to making 2013 even better, and full of more."

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I go back to work in 8 weeks. It will be bittersweet. I wonder by 10 weeks if we will be down to 2 feedings a night each or still up to 3. I am the sole breadwinner in this house and I make life/death decisions during the day so my sleep will matter then. For now we are doing the best we can. I am looking forward to a trip with all three kids at the beginning of March.

The boys are 2 weeks old and are just so cute and cuddly right now. They slept after they ate last night (each 3 times) which allowed me to get some rest as well. Our oldest (just turned 4), tries to help however he can and his interactions with them are mostly cute - and occasionally harrowing.

Krista, I just realized that your oldest and the twins have about the same age gap as my kids do. Have fun at the bachelorette party. I guess I am a homebody, but I like doing stuff with DH and would miss him if I went for a fun weekend away.

Congrats on your pregnancy, Danielle. I am sure one baby will seem much easier than two if that is what you end up with.

Tiffany

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My mom just took the boys overnight on Friday. Things went well for the most part. I did have to drive back to her house to help with their bedtime bottle....they were fighting her! It was nice to get 6 hours in a row and do some shopping alone the next day.

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Danielle-A&A are doing amazing. And can I say that you were inspiration for me to continue bfing. I didnt think I'd make it to a year and seeing your post in the breastfeeding forum made me realize it can happen and we still happily going strong! Well, you and Rachel were my inspiration! And yes, one is so much easier...you'll be a pro at it after having twins!

Tiffany-I cant believe you have to return to work so soon. I've said it before, I dont know how you ladies do it. I know just how blessed I am to be able to be off of work for 1 year. I couldnt imagine going back so early. And yes our babes are close. I enjoyed the 4 yr age gap because she was a big help (ie getting diapers, blankets, whatever I needed that I was too busy to get) and it made her feel more apart of things. Plus, we started kindergarden and it gave Mommy a little break when she was school.

Erica-you're so lucky you have someone who will take the babes at such a young age. Most of my family is too scared to take the babes. Hell, DH is terrified to have them over night by himself!

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I know! My mom is great - she will take them whenever she doesn't have to work. It's nice to know I have her around to do it!

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gosh, I know. I wanted help SO BAD especially when they were "new". My mom was the only one that would help out, and a good thing too or I think I would have gone crazy. Robb was able to take a month off work, so that was great, but after he went back it was really hard, especially because he was doing shift work and had to sleep at different times every week!

In other news... I'm still here! The twins will be 3 in April and Silas has some more testing being done in March that will determine if they think he has ASD or not, and if he doesn't, what they think he does have problems with, etc. And then on to the help we need!

I'm worried about Spark because, for almost 3 years old, she can't talk very well at all. She knows a LOT of words, but still only uses one or two at a time. She will sit down and spew out a sentence or two, but it just sounds like gibberish to me lol Poor thing. I try to understand her but I just can't! And she gets so frustrated sometimes because she can't get her point across. I know Silas is going to need speech therapy, but I think Spark would benefit from it too. Can't hurt, that's for sure!

I'm also trying to get them out more. I purchased a membership to a cafe that has a big area that kids can play around in, so we can go there whenever we want. Though last time we went we got pretty sick, but I think that's a given with places like that...

3 years!! I can't even believe it!