How is it done? I'm not there and don't know if it's possible. I can't even get my head around feeding two exclusively now.
What were the logistics behind tandem feeding that worked for you?
When you didn't tandem feed, did one just scream for an hour while you fed the other? (That's my biggest reason for pumping and doing the much more efficient for now bottle feeding.)
There was more crying when I did not tandem feed, but it did take some definite time and babies age to get the hang of tandem feeding. I would put one in the swing to cry and feed the other. lol. About 3-4mo it got much easier to tandem feed. I was tandem feeding before that, but not without serious effort and some frustration. I had a small chair, its actually a blues clues child's thinking chair, and that was my nursing chair. Because it was small with two arm rests, it supported my arms while holding them. I could do the same thing in our lazy boy recliner type chair, but it was easier in the smaller less roomy chair. As the babies age and have more head and neck control it gets easier also. The position I found easiest and really the only one I used was a modified double cradle hold. I had the babies mostly facing each other and their feet touched at the bottom, so a V shape, the top of each side of the V being their heads and my breasts. As they grew bigger it was their knees or bellies almost touching. So they were almost sitting up, but it was what worked for us.
I don't know how much that helps. But mine were short nursers too, all my kids have nursed 5-15min tops and done, which meant they ate more often, every 1.5-2hrs even at 18mo+, but I knew the other would not be crying for long. When it takes an hour to feed one, yeah, super hard to hear the other one screaming and still concentrate on the other baby that is trying to nurse. Hugs hon! You can do it!
I hate tandem, in fact I avoid it like the plague. But when I have to, I sit in my bed and prop them Up on my pillows. I find the twins bfing pillow awkward and they don't like it. As for when I feed them separately, Kaylee usually is ok to be put down and wait if she occupied with something (playmate, tv etc) whereas brad wants it as soon as he wakes up. I don't wake them together at night like most ppl because brad will sleep longer allowing me to do lay down feeds at night which are awesome. I remember you saying that DS sleeps better then DD. I know some ppl will kill me for suggesting this but have you tried her on her belly. Both of my guys are belly sleepers and sleep so much better because of it (except for kaylee the last two weeks!). Hope it gets better.
Krista, I didn't wake a sleeping baby to feed the other either. :), and I second the belly sleeping. We only discovered this because Bram needed to do stretching exercised due to his torticollis, so tummy time, and he would fall asleep that way, and since I was right there, I would let him sleep, and he slept soooo much better! He still prefers to sleep on his tummy.