I'm posting from my phone which super sucks lol but I gave birth recently (Aug board can give you details).... Currently, one is still in NICU and one was recently released. That is a challenge in itself but once they're both home....how did everyone do it?! Wow, I'm trying to figure this one out...mostly how will I balance once I go back to work. Any advice is appreciated
Breastfeeding was important to me at first and I worked really hard at it, wasting so much energy and going through so much pain. You'll get some good advice on breastfeeding, I'm sure, but here's my truth ... USE FORMULA. I have been breastfeeding now for 8.5 months, one nurses and one I have to pump for. The pain was unreal, dealing with mastitis again and again has been horrendous, and I resent every pumping session. Breastfeeding is my only regret from the first months. I missed out on minutes here and there each day that could have been spent with the babies or sleeping and now, unfortunately, there's no going back with one of my babies who can't deal with formula. But for goodness sake, enjoy those babies, get a few minutes of sleep, be able to leave the house for a bit, and use formula.
To be completely honest the first month to complete and utter blur. But what I do remember is that when the babes were in the NICU I pumped and we bottle feed just so we could get them out. My daughter was a lazy feeder at the breast but great at the bottle so we chose to bottle feed while there and re-establish breastfeeding when we got home. They were in for 5 days and as soon as they got home we started. I did supplement to make sure they were getting enough but by a month they were exclusively breastfeeding. I found the NICU to high of a stress area and you are already under enough stress so it makes bfing hard. I will say this, everyone has different experience and in the end you know what is best for yor babies. If formula feeding is a way to keep your sanity then don't feel guilty. In the starting I wanted to give up but DH keep encouraging me to continue because he knew I'd regret it. I have been bfing now for 11 months and loving (but I'm also not having to pump like shelia, I feel so bad for that women and I would have given up long ago). I'm hoping to continue morning/night after I return to work in a month.
So basically, my advice is to try to keep going but if it is too stressful don't feel guilty for bottle feeding. Shelia is absolutely right when she said to enjoy them every minute because I feel like I am only now truly getting to enjoy my babes. One thing I can say for bfing, if your are cheap and somewhat lazy when it comes to dishes bfing is amazing. Having to do bottles The first month drove me crazy!
Congrats On the babies. Hope your delivery went well.
Congrats on your little ones! My twins were EBF and now, at over 2, are still nursing regularly. They born at 35 1/2 weeks and spent a bit over a week in the NICU. The beginning was tiring and stressful but it was worth it in so many ways for us.
Two things I did that helped when they came home were to 1) pump after feedings 3 or 4 times a day for the first few weeks, even if I didn't get much milk out of it. It increased my supply and soon I had a freezer full of expressed milk. 2) Tandem nurse, in addition to always nursing on demand. If they were both awake, even if only one of them was hungry, I would tuck them both under my arms on a big nursing pillow. (You might need help to pick up the second one when they're really tiny ) That way I could cuddle them both, keep them calm and keep my own sanity. It took a lot of the stress out of nursing twins. They eventually moved toward eating at the same time and letting us all sleep for longer stretches.
Anyway, you'll find a system that works for you, and sure, it might include some supplementing, especially if you are working. If you need any specific support or advice, feel free to PM me.
Pump every chance you get - after feeding, before you sleep (if you sleep at all...) after you get up. My problem was that I didn't pump enough, and they weren't good at the breast at all, so I lost my supply a lot sooner than I would have liked. EAT. Don't forget to eat and drink, as this will help with your supply too. Lots of water, and good filling foods like bagels and cream cheese, or a baked potato with toppings. Not only will it help your supply, it will help you get through, too. So much energy goes into the little ones! I think I slept /maybe/ 2 hours a day for the first month. But you can do it! Enjoy the time when the nurses can help you. I nearly cried when we had to leave the hospital.