It's not the same as having to share with a twin who is just as immature as yourself but I have a lot of siblings and most Xmas gifts were combos for at least a couple of us, and frequently hand-me-downs, too, and I feel like it taught us to share in the long run and not to expect a mountain of new things every holiday. There were some fights but even as toddlers we worked it out, and the focus was on other aspects of the day (not to get into one of my preachy anti-consumerist rants--I just mean I remember a lot of wonderful things about my birthdays and Christmases that have nothing to do with getting presents). My sibs and I, especially my sister with twins the same age as mine, agreed not to do holiday/b-day gifts at all for each other's kids and my parents mostly give them books or tiny gifts. They all end up with more than enough stuff to play with and for their parents to deal with.
I'm all for some simplicity too. We do three gifts only, the Savior got three gifts at his birth, and since we are celebrating his birth (at our house), three gifts is enough. I think it drives my mom nuts. lol. She buys them more than we do, but lots of little stuff, because she wants them to have tons to open. My kids have 4 sets of grandparents and one more single grandparent (she was my stepmom for 15yrs, so we are still close, she's close with my dad and his new wife as well), so the other grandparents get them one gift each, usually something smaller. We have way too many toys, but it is often as hard for me to get rid of toys as it is for them. lol. They also get three gifts for their bday, and thats it. And often its maybe one larger/more expensive things and two much smaller things.
And Sarah, so true about memories of bday and Christmas not always about the presents. My kids often forget what they got for their birthday not long after, but they remember the birthday prep and games played and what not.
Rachel, momma to 4
dd 9, ds 7, twin boys Dec 09
I nursed my twins for 2years and 2 weeks! A little sad to be all done now.
I hate combo gifts. People only do it because they are twins and its annoying. If you are going to buy everyone gifts, they they should each get their own so they have something to open and enjoy. I have done big combo gifts in the past (i.e. a kitchen or something that is meant to be shared by many kids) but they always each get their own things to open, even if it is two of the same thing. Its not fair to expect them to share everything in life just because they are a twin. I've flat out told my MIL in the past if she doesn't want to buy two of something they really want, then please don't buy it at all. She would never buy one gift for the grandchildren that are just siblings, just "the twins!" Grrrrr!
Sean and Emma 10/24/06
As for the sharing of gifts, we've had an assortment of what people have done and so far, we've had no issues with the kids. We're big on sharing and rarely get two of the same thing. The combo gifts are usually bigger items and include all three kids since they'd all use it. Otherwise, some have given one package with items within that could easily be split. They're really big on giving dolls that look like them, so we have a ton of twin dolls at our house.
DD Twins: 8/4/09 @ 35 Wks - No NICU, woot!