Last year we got the boys one combo gift for their birthday, it was a tent and tunnel set (2 tents 1 tunnel), and they were one. They got maybe one combo gift from family, and I was okay with it, because they were one. My step-mom even said, "I know this is the only year we can do a combo gift" and it was a bigger gift that two could easily play with. I know their birthday is super close to Christmas, and it is a lot of cost at the same time of year, but I am hoping that most family will NOT do combo gifts. My mom has twin boys (adopted from her current husband, she came in when they were 5, they are 21 now), so she knows better. My mother in law should know better, her mother was an identical twin who had identical twin girls also, my mil's younger sisters.
So obviously she bought them a combo gift. She was just here visiting from AZ, so they got to open their Christmas and Birthday early. They got separate Christmas presents, but for their birthday she got them the cookie monster keyboard to share. Its cute, but the thing is tiny! It fits on one baby's lap, so really not for two babies. Within the first five minutes they had abandoned the Xmas presents (shake and Go Cars) and were fighting, screaming, and biting (Abram) over the keyboard. I was so frustrated for them. Then MIL says, in a wise sort of tone, "I kind of thought this might happen." Seriously? You thought about them fighting over it and decided it was okay for them to share? Seriously?! They are two. Then she says, "Looks like you might have to get another one." Really? Because I already bought all their birthday and Christmas presents and because you decided to buy only one gift, I Have to buy them something else?
I feel they are already shortchanged having their birthday 3 days after Christmas, and then being twins on top of that. Of course I can say nothing, I don't know that dh even notices. And she didn't even buy them a birthday present last year, and this is the first year in at least 3 years that she got my almost 7yr old a birthday present (his bday is Jan 3, so also lost in the Christmas shuffle, I so did not plan the bdays this way, all three were due at the end of January lol).
Does anyone give your kids combo gifts, and are you okay with it?
I remember when I was about 7 my mom told me one of my birthday presents was something cool I could share with my younger sister, she was probably close to 2 at the time. I kept thinking of what toys we could play with together. Her birthday was in August. I opened it and it was a cute pair of flannel pajamas with a second pair in my sister's size. I felt seriously gypped. It was my birthday and she was getting presents. I'm sure my mom got a good deal, and maybe Shar needed pjs, but to make it seem a cool thing that she got presents on my birthday did not go over well in my 7yr old mind. There is a pic of me holding my sister in our matching pjs, and I smiled in the pic, and pjs for me I really would have been fine with as a gift, I liked anything as a kid, but every time I see that pic, it still kind of annoys me. So I think it helps me to not do the same with my kids. lol