Did you ever find...
That people are drawn to one baby more then the other? I find people want to spend more time with K then B. I knows it because she is more animated and "dainty" (as she is so often referred to) but I still feel bad for B. he can be very animated but you have to work harder for it. B is so sweet but people miss it Playing with K. I feel like I have to make up for it by giving B more attention.
Did anyone else experience this?
Somewhat. When they were littler babies I could tell that friends and family members had their favorites, but thankfully both twins had turns being the favorite, and they were too little to notice. But I could tell who thought which twin was the cuter twin (always getting comments, "he is so cute!" and nothing about the other, and it drove me crazy!
Now that they are older... I see it sometimes. Abram is more animated and talks more, Wyatt is quieter, but also cuddlier. So depending on the adults personality, some prefer Abram over Wyatt, and vice versa.
But I think as twin moms were are super conscious of favoritism and not wanting to have one of our twins be left out. Unfortunately it does happen, and maybe if someone is paying more attention to Kaylee, maybe you can work on getting Bradley to smile so others can see his cute sides as well. :)
Yes! Everyone loved Sarafina because she was so petite. She still is petite, and she still gets more attention at times. We hear, "Sarafina is so sweet and tiny." a lot!!! Keira's personality tends to help her out some though. She is more outgoing and adventurous, so sometimes she demands more attention. :D
I had friends who often told me that Sarafina was their favorite. I often told them that favorites were not allowed with my girls. They can think it, but I expected them to treat the girls equally. I am not sure it made them a fan of mine, but at least I was clear about how I wanted my girls to be treated.
Well, because one baby is calm and awesome and the other is super sensitive and shrieks for everything, I have a bigtime favorite right now. People who don't spend all day with the screaming like that one more!
There's something about our girls...total sweethearts to everyone else and complete divas when with us. Wonder how they'll be when they are 16.
Originally Posted by triplespiral
I can definitely tell people have favorites and it drives me nuts.
It's funny because a close friend of mine has fraternal boys a month after I had DD1 and I remember her saying that she felt like everyone favored T because he smiled more and was more of a ham. To be honest, I had a soft spot for A because he was smaller and had the same personality as DD1. I actually feel guilty now for that and understand why it upset her so much.
And Yes her twins initials are T and A (T being first born!>