Do you dress your twins alike (more for same sex twins)? I only ever do it for special occasions, but the outfits have to be similar. So that one doesn't have a really cute outfit and the other a not as equally cute outfit. People always comment how I don't dress them alike and how they like that. That they are individuals and they deserve to dress differently. Well, I can SOOOO understand why some parent's chose to dress their twins a like. O M G can we have some good fights in the morning over them both wanting to wear the same shirt, all the way down to the same underpants. Do your twins fight over clothes? I am in for it when they become teenage girls!
Mine match/coordinate (as in same shirt different color) maybe 25-50% of the time, its fun. But I love buying matching outfits for my daughter and niece whenever I can as well. . The other times I try as you to make sure their outfits are two nice outfits, or both shorts or something, so that one does not look "cuter" than the other. Then I also find myself trying to make sure they don't clash either. lol. Like I cannot put one in plaid and one in stripes. lol. Or I have more than once almost grabbed a red polo for one, and a green for the other, then remember they are Christmas colors, and find something else.
My twins do not fight over clothes... yet. But I can see it coming. I try to get them excited about getting dressed/changing clothes because you know the dressing battles that can ensue, so I will point out, "You have a car on your shirt." and then the other starts looking for what is on their's, so I have to find two characters, Lightning and Elmo, or two designs of some kind, animals and cars, etc.
My dh's grandma was an identical twin, and she also had identical twin girls, and she said she was told not to dress her's the same, and she said, "but what do you do when they both pick out the same skirt for school clothes, etc". And she said it did not cause her any damage to match her sister, and I think they matched always through their school years, so I worry less about it than I used to.
Rachel, momma to 4
dd 9, ds 7, twin boys Dec 09
I nursed my twins for 2years and 2 weeks! A little sad to be all done now.
My twins are almost a month old and I don't dress them in the same outfit. I try to get them in coordinating outfits but not the same outfit. I don't want thier colors to clash or anything like that but I don't like them in the exact same outfit at all.
Mine aren't same-sex but when I dress them in the same colors I get advice from busybodies about needing to differentiate between them and how they'll never develop an independent identity, and when I dress them in gender-specific outfits, like a dress for her and pants for him, or pink sweats for her and green for him, I get more advice about how I'm imposing harmful gender stereotypes. I think identity is formed by a lot more than what color socks you're wearing, though. A&J don't notice what they're wearing yet but it is so much easier to dress them in "matching" outfits, just to make sure they both have the same warmth, comfort, freedom of movement and if possible cleanliness and cuteness (to avoid having one in a ragged stained t-shirt and the other a scratchy sweater and chunky overalls or something). Otherwise I have to go digging through all the clothes to find something appropriate for each of them.
I sometimes have them wear the same and sometimes not. I find that in some ways it's a little easier to dress them the same than attempt to coordinate them. I guess if I had all the time and money in the world, I'd probably have them coordinating, but not identical. But most days, I aim to just have everyone dressed.
My twins turned 3 in May and generally pick out their own clothes day to day. God help me if they don't have a clean pair of My Little Pony shorts! (They each have 5 or so shorts/skirts/bottoms that my in-laws have embroidered 'cutie marks' on the back sides of. Elly's are all Rainbow Dash themed while Mia's are all about Pinky Pie. Ana has some too, lol.)
We do not dress the girls alike. If they choose to do it, I am okay with it. However, I just don't want them lumped together. We get enough "are they twins comments, etc." as it is. I do find myself gravitating toward specific colors for the girls though. They have completely different coloring, so Sarafina looks better in purple, red, brown, and bright pink. Keira looks better in pink, blue, and pastels.
I think people need to keep their opinions to themselves. How you dress their kids is irrelevent as long as they are clothed appropriately for the weather. Now commenting on how a kid is wearing flip flops and shorts in 3 feet of snow is a little different.
At home, they tend to dress very differently. In public, we tend to have them dressed in the same clothes or color, including Journi. It is so much easier keeping an eye on them at events or errands so if one darts off, they're quick to spot. It's funny, we've never really gotten any comments from anyone advising how to dress them. Oh, and I've never witnessed them fighting over any clothes...yet!
DD Twins: 8/4/09 @ 35 Wks - No NICU, woot!